How NOT to leave a phone message for someone you're trying to date...- Page 2

[JerseyGirl2]

Posted: 12/2/08 at 5:42pm

"Maybe you were abused in childhood..."

"Passive Aggressive Personality Disorder. You should look that up."

Seriously?!

Updated On: 12/2/08 at 05:42 PM

[lusciouslace]

Posted: 12/3/08 at 1:45am

This guy sort of reminds me of a guy that I met recently. He approached me at the grocery store and he had a quick conversation, cute banter, it seemed good. The first time we spoke on the phone I could tell pretty much right away that we weren't really gonna get along. But all of the sudden the conversation turned to beliefs and ideas and he started pretty much attacking me and telling me that anybody who believes this or that is stupid and making all kinds of assumptions about me. I figured he wouldn't even call the next day for the date, and I was right...he texted me. Meet me at this place at this time. Riiiiiight.

I decided the mature, decent thing to do would be to just call him and explain why I'm not interested. I said I noticed there were some red flags for me in the conversation and I've decided it would be best for us to not waste each other's time and we should just forget about the date. He proceeded to telling me that I was, "obviously a very weak, insecure, and unintelligent person" and he wouldn't be interested in me anyway, because he needs a strong, confident woman (sounds like Mr. Dmitri, right). Eventually I told him exactly what those red flags were and he laid into me again and said "that I'm so weak and obviously have serious issues if I can't accept someone's opposing viewpoints." I can and in fact love debating, but there's a difference between a civil conversation and just plain being a d*ck, ya know. So I said well this is ridiculous to continue the conversation, so I'm gonna go and he told me that he hopes I can "get over my issues and insecurities so that I might be able to live more fulfilling life than the pathetic existance I'm leading now."

WOW...seriously?! Who does that? All I could do was laugh about it, because that was nuts! I was so grateful I didn't actually go out with the guy. What a nutcase.

[nygrl232]

Posted: 12/3/08 at 5:48am

There are a lot of people like this on the planet, a lot of creeps who blame everyone else for their problems. Terrorists are an extreme example. Clueless narcissists like this just go into attack mode whenever challenged, ignored or called on their b.s.

I know a lot of people who won't even have a conversation unless it's about them, who never ask a single thing about the person they're talking to, who project their a-hole insecurities onto everyone else. Some people are very aware of their own behavior, but the vast majority is completely oblivious.

[Elphaba]

Posted: 12/3/08 at 11:55am

and he wonders why he is single....

[justagirl2]

Posted: 12/3/08 at 2:18pm

Dmitri the Lover! I heard this on Dlisted over the summer...hilarious. Apparently he's made quite a name for himself in Canada, mainly by racking up a pretty extensive sexual assault record.

http://jezebel.com/5020419/dimitri-the-lovers-history-of-sexual-assault-weapons-stockpiling-and-psychiatric-evaluations

[Mister Matt]

Posted: 12/3/08 at 2:37pm

"Learn the secret physical, verbal and psychological techniques used by Dimitri the Lover to seduce, pleasure and sexually enslave women," says one of his program outlines.

He's the Tom Cruise character in Magnolia! But hey, he's straight, so at least we know he will make an ideal husband and father.

[Schmerg_The_Impaler]

Posted: 12/3/08 at 2:42pm

Some guy on youtube makes hoax videos as "Dmitri the Stud"-- he invented his own third phone call for Dmitri, and plays the role shirtless with sunglasses on. My brother is now obsessed with this whole Dmitri thing and constantly quotes him. I just hope he never quotes him to girls he likes...

[doodlenyc]

Posted: 12/3/08 at 2:54pm

If that article is right, here is his freakishly gross website:

http://www.dimitrithelover.com/

[ShbrtAlley44]

Posted: 12/3/08 at 2:54pm

My God, he's Greek. I'm ashamed for my race. Go away, Dimitri.

[sundaymorning6am]

Posted: 12/3/08 at 3:03pm

A video outing him on YouTube..

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UWzl1fGyQhU&feature=related

[sundaymorning6am]

Posted: 12/3/08 at 3:11pm

and a spoof...

Dmitri Gets a Job... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c2Q6quSjo9A&feature=related

[ShbrtAlley44]

Posted: 12/3/08 at 9:42pm

I actually went on a date with someone I met on this board who reminds me very much of Dimitri.

[ifuweregay93]

Posted: 12/3/08 at 10:28pm

His view on gay marriage

"So to sum up, no marriage for fags, dykes, or straights, unless it is a straight couple with a pregnant woman. And NO, DIMITRI does not believe that dykes should have babies. A child needs a loving father figure in addition to a loving mother figure to grow up well-adjusted. Period. And fags ... I know you are attention whores and would ABSOLUTELY DIE FOR A FAB RECEPTION, but settle down before DIMITRI slaps you out!"

And his view on gays at his church that comes right after.

"
While only straight and bisexual individuals are permitting to join our church, and be married by our church, homosexuals are human beings who must be treated with love and respect. While we do not condone emulating them or promoting them as positive social role models, violent words or actions taken against individuals due to their sexual orientation will result in immediate excommunication from The Church of Dimitri of Latter Day Sluts."

[Greekmusicalfan]

Posted: 12/4/08 at 4:35am

His site his HILARIOUS and so obviously a spoof ! At least I hope so...LOL
And Schmerg, modern Greeks don't have uni-brows, in fact I haven't seen ONE in ages ! Trust me, our guys are well-groomed, smart-dressed and GORGEOUS

[Schmerg_The_Impaler]

Posted: 12/4/08 at 6:38am

Awww, Greekmusicalfan, you know I was kidding. All of the Greek guys I know are cutie pies. (Except for one of my old science teacher's husbands, who looked like the child of a Cro-Magnon and an iguana.)

[StockardFan]

Posted: 12/4/08 at 7:54am

OK, that video is actually really disturbing and scary!

[frogs_fan85]

Posted: 12/4/08 at 8:03am

When I saw the thread topic the first thing I thought of was this, "Hi this is George... George Constanza... you know the guy that wouldn't come up for coffee? Well I realize now that coffee didn't mean coffee, it meant.. you know? Well call me back.. if you want... the ball's in your court."

[Chevstriss]

Posted: 12/4/08 at 2:07pm

I'm thinking that even tho he repeatedly said he would never call again and was erasing her number, that he probably called again.

[doodlenyc]

Posted: 12/4/08 at 2:27pm

Okay, the whole thing is seeming very suspicious to me. Dmitri had a distinct accent, but is now considered a pseudonym for some ex-doctor named James Spears from Toronto...I doubt he'd have such an accent.

Something's fishy here, imo.

[Craig]

Posted: 12/4/08 at 2:49pm

I think some people in Toronto COULD be Greek :)

[doodlenyc]

Posted: 12/4/08 at 3:46pm

Of course, but with the name James Spears, and with such an accent? Maybe his real name was Giacomo Spiritas?

[Craig]

Posted: 12/4/08 at 3:56pm

Maybe his full name is James Lyn Spears

[sundaymorning6am]

Posted: 12/4/08 at 3:59pm

His full name is actually James N. SEARS, no Spears.