How do you cope when your loved one leaves on a contract?- Page 2

[bella cantato]

Posted: 8/15/05 at 5:19pm

You people on this board are sharks! You have no placed in your dark cold heart to have sympathy for someone who is losing a boyfriend for six months? What IS this deal with this board? I am sorry but all that people seem to do here are rip people apart! Sara Ramirez, Lennon, anything that they can sink their teeth into! Why? Are you so bitter at the world because others are out there succeeding on Broadway while you sit at home, whittling the time away on a message board, so you have to make yourself feel better by putting them down? You people make me sick to my stomach!

Di2. I am sorry that your boyfriend is leaving and I wish you the best. My advice would be to keep the sponteneity. It IS hard when you are seperated for a long time, especially when that person is someone you love dearly, someone who brings out the best in you. Cell phones are great. Snail mail is great too... It's nice to receive that in the mail. Make sure he leaves with a few pics of the two of you to decorate his new place with. And most of all trust is the most important thing. If it's meant to be, you will make it.

[CostumeMistress]

Posted: 8/15/05 at 7:03pm

Wow, a shark? My first personal attack... I'm so flattered to now TRULY *officially* be a part of the BWW community!

Mean? I would say "direct," but judge for yourself, I suppose. My intention was to simply make the observation that this subject (relationships) belongs OT, where it would actually get the most attention.

[showbiz]

Posted: 8/16/05 at 12:13am

You have my empathy. I knew a couple once, who when one was on tour would fly or drive home right after the Sunday matinee, spend the night, all of Monday and get back to the tour on Tuesday. I wouldn't advise it though, too much stress wondering if you're gonna make the curtain call on time.

[erinrebecca]

Posted: 8/16/05 at 7:31am

While it's unfortunate that you're going to be apart for six months, I think probably your devastated tone is what is raising peoples' ire here. He's going on tour, to act, for six months. He's not going to Iraq to fight in a war. You'll both survive.

[Di2]

Posted: 8/16/05 at 9:44am

Erinrebecca:

True..I know it's just a 6 month contract and I never would compare it to going to Iraq. That was silly of you to say.

I just wanted to hear from other theatre couples and get some pointers as to how they coped. New ideas, spontaneous tips, stuff like that.

He just left yesterday so you can imagine how sad I was to see him go. I guess you aren't in love because, if you were, you would understand.

Just wanted to hear from others that have been in the same positions, not be attacked by others.

That's all.

PS..I am certainly NOT devestated. I wrote the post at a down moment, ok. Forgive me.

I will be just fine. I am in my own show and will spend the time with family and friends. I thought I could hear from others and make some friends here on the Boards.

The way some people have reacted (i.e "you are just showing off and bragging") reminds me of the way some theatre wannabes react when actors wear their cast coats around town and it is very unfair. Some people say we wear the coats to brag or show off when the truth of the matter is: (at least in my case)

1. I worked my ass off to get that coat and have every right to wear it
2. It cost me $200.00 that my show took out of my paycheck
3. I am a poor actor and, at the time, that was the only coat I had.

Let's all be nice and friendly.

Thank you to all the awesome people out there that have PM'd me with their situations and gave me great pointers.

xoxo

D.

[Hanna from Hamburg]

Posted: 8/16/05 at 9:47am

Yeah -- why don't we all go back to bashing people who want to know who the best Elphaba or Glinda is. That's a much more productive endeavor.

[TheatreDiva90016]

Posted: 8/16/05 at 10:01am

Sleep around

[Di2]

Posted: 8/16/05 at 10:03am

HANNA:

AHAHAHAHAHAHAAA..

You are f*cking HILARIOUS...

My link is considered OFF TOPIC simply because it doesn't involve Idina Menzel or anything Wicked related.

That's cool.

But there is so much more to theatre than that and I am glad to talk about something else.

[TheatreDiva90016]

Posted: 8/16/05 at 10:17am

Better idea!

Sleep around with Idina!

[Unknown User]

Posted: 8/16/05 at 1:30pm

He probably took the tour to get away from you! Come closer , I'm gonna tell you a secret. No, closer..... ok. here it goes...


INSECURITY IS A TURN OFF!!!!!!!!!
Updated On: 8/16/05 at 01:30 PM

[erinrebecca]

Posted: 8/16/05 at 1:52pm

After reading your responses here and in other threads, I have only two words to add to what I said earlier: drama queen.

[JustAGuy]

Posted: 8/16/05 at 2:55pm

I've done four National Tours...and in each one almost to a man or woman,there have been affairs. Men with men...men with women...straight men experimenting with gay men...gay men experimenting with women...it seems to be pretty much a given that people are gonna be sleeping around on tour. So be prepared for the worst and hope for the best. The longer the tour, the greater the chance that something is gonna happen. It gets damn boring in those hotel rooms after the newness of touring wears off and you have nothing to do after the performance.

"What happens on tour, stays on tour" even if you don't hit Las Vegas.

[MojaniD]

Posted: 8/16/05 at 3:21pm

Di2,

You didn't say how long the two of you have been together. But I think length and level of commitment definitely play into the equation.