I just came out to my crazy right wing uncle. On the Facebook. — Page 2

I give him marks for verbalising his love - not once, but twice.

If someone insists on defaulting to their chosen mythology above all else, there really isn't anything to be said to them.

I agree: I'm very happy that he chose to express his love for you.

My bf's parents were (are?) very conservative Christians, and they had a very difficult time with his being gay. As a result, he pulled farther and farther away from them, seeing them only at holidays, and for as brief a time as possible.

Eventually, their love for their son triumphed: I was FINALLY introduced to them. We had lunch, it was easy and pleasant, and I'm invited to Thanksgiving this year.

This is a great opportunity for your uncle to learn and grow. I'm hopeful that will happen.

I'm actually surprised that he seems to be taking it well, and didn't give me the whole "Hellfire and Damnation" speech, but of course he will keep thinking the way he thinks..(he's a pastor, as if you couldn't guess) and I can't change that, but my hope is this leads to him opening up his mind just a little bit more, and be more accepting and less judgemental.

One step at a time.

Reg, that is a beautiful story and I hope that I can bring my bf around my father's side of the family in the near future.

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Way to go Pippin!
He will always love you which is great. Minds can change over time...hearts cannot.

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Updated On: 11/2/11 at 01:49 PM

Yes, he is wrong. Marriage has been redefined any number of ways in various times and cultures, from polygamy to family- and state-sanctioned rape to women actually having a say in the matter.

Pippin - adding my voice to the chorus of those congratulating you on your honesty and being open and out. I'm also heartened to know that your Uncle didn't reject you, and that he expressed his love for you so openly and honestly.
It sounds like his beliefs are deeply held and 'carefully taught', but there is hope in the support you received. Well done. I hope this feels like a really positive step for you.


Reg, I beamed broadly at your sentence about being invited to Thanksgiving this year. Thanks for the smile...


Love this thread.

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What a wonderful story!

Good for you, Pippin!

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The thing that stood out for me was that he only agreed to the right to own a gun.

Congrats Pippin. I know it is a hard thing to do, especially when it is with family. It breaks my heart also that you have to endure the slurs when with them and can't be with your partner. Maybe that is the next step...

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