My parents (both of whom were European immigrants) always complained about the American spoiled brats. They would swat me on the butt on occasion, but that wasn't a big deal. What was a big deal? When my mother slapped me in the face, hit me on the head, pulled my hair, screamed at me, and called me awful names. The verbal and emotional abuse were horrific and, no, I did not turn out ok -- I've had a lifelong battle with depression.
I doubt that a swat on the butt will destroy a kid, but what I would call "formal" spanking is not something anyone but Christian Grey should be doing. The physical pain might be fleeting, but the humiliation will last.
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