I've said it many times that if anything ever happens to Buzz and I, I will be single for A LONG TIME!!! I have no use whatsoever for the dating/awkward/getting to know you phase of the relationship. I despise drama. The guy will piss me off in the slightest and I'll tell him where to shove it, lol. Not my cup of tea.
and i thought girls were the ones who were supposed to over analyze and worry about everything.
well in my relationship we all know the roles are reverse, I take on the male emotions and he has the females ones, lol.
But even with most of my male friends, when they are in love and having problems they turn into moping lil 5 year olds.
seriously! i'm like oh my god. like... are you trying to get me as upset as possible? cause he was doing a damn good job of it the last two nights. but i think we're ok for the moment. he still wants me to go to hawaii and stuff, so that's good.
You are both young (says the person the same age lol) and in the process of building and figuring out your lives. Just take it one day at a time and just enjoy! There is plenty of time for the annoying serious issues later on down the line.
i know mommy. that's what we're doing... but tickets are cheap right now to hawaii (relatively speaking) so yeah. we'll see.
Middy, I hope everything works out. I can't really give you any advice, but just remember WHY you love him and keep your focus on what's important. Tell him to do the same.
And recognize that a lot of what you're both going through probably has to do with the fatigue of his being away, and in Iraq no less.
You guys will pull through.
Speaking as one of the, ahem, "older" generation, Tink I continue to be awed by your common sense. You hit the nail on the head, again. She's right, Middi - there's plenty of time later to get into the drama, the serious issues, etc...
And for me, that is the "fun" part of a relationship - it's what keeps it interesting, and worthwhile. Especially when you can meet those issues head on and resolve them together.
tazzy... i know that's most of the issue. and the other issue is that he gets out when he gets home. he's been in for 5 years. it's gonna be a huge adjustment and he keeps going back and forth between not wanting any commitments and then it's gonna depend on the holidays (like it was always gonna). if he keeps it up i might strangle him when i see him.
I'm here soaking up the knowledge. I don't have anything to add, though.
middy, I know an acquaintance who is in a similar situation. I know she has found on-line support groups with other soldier gf/wives, and it has really helped her. People who have been through it will be the best to provide council.
awww, D2, thank you. I spent the years between 18-22 so worried about the relationship and it's future that I missed out on so much of life. We should have been having fun, traveling, experiencing life together, not trying to afford a wedding or house or stuff like that, etc. There is plenty of time to get to that stuff.
totally overstepping my bounds here b/c I don't know your boy but:
I think he's scared about what exactly his life is going to be like when he gets out. It will be an entirely new type of existence without the support of the rigid military system. There are a lot of unknowns there and that would freak anyone out. Is it possible that his unwillingness to committ has more to do the general uncertainty of everything and less to with you personally?
He's probably going to need you more than ever during that transition and for some reason that kind of dependance scares men.
tazzy you're dead on. and it's not an unwillingness to commit per say... it's just... i don't even know how to explain in. but i KNOW that moving home and not being in anymore is the issue.
Middi, I know this is going to sound rather pat, but have you ever seen THE BEST YEARS OF OUR LIVES? Classic film from the 40s that shows how returning GIs and their girlfriends and wives dealt with the issues. Some of it is dated but the central theme is remarkably contemporary.
no i haven't. i'm not gonna stress about it right now. there's nothing that i can do at the moment. we talked about what we needed to talk about. and now we just have to wait and see how things go when we actually see each other again. which was the plan from the start. and we'll go from there.
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Woah. I have nothing to add here. Taz knows my boy history, lol!
*walks out*
DGG, come back! This is vital information. I feel I should be taking notes.
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*comes back*
I don't think I'll ever have use for it, Soapy. I'm pretty hopeless.
You aren't hopeless - you're 17. You're just young.
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Oh, Poppycocks! I highly doubt that.
You highly doubt she's 17, Soapy, or that she's hopeless. I believe she's 17, and I DO NOT BELIEVE she's hopeless. Do you hear me, DGG? You are NOT hopeless!
Opps, I posted a few seconds behind you. She's not hopeless. If I'm not then no one is.
*teaches DGG to Bend and Snap*
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You aren't, Soapy.
OK, nobody's hopeless. But you do have to admit, sometimes it feels that way.
*tries to Bend and Snap, breaks UPS guy's nose*
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