#26
Posted: 6/16/11 at 1:40am
Thank you guys for affirming my previous comments...
To continue the things that have been raised in this conversation, there is a HUGE difference in these issues. Having a chip on your shoulder, being incredibly militant and downright argumentative is one thing.. and I will NOT sit here and label those people as being wrong or feeling incorrectly, but I do understand that there IS workplace decorum that should be followed.. HOWEVER, having a rainbow flag magnet in your cubicle, or a picture of your partner (personally, I don't care for that term), or talking with a coworker about where you went on your date the previous night or a weekend with the in-laws is the bigger issue.. When our heterosexual brethren do this or something similar, not a person bats an eye. The SECOND a homosexual / bisexual person mentioned any of this, all of a sudden we are accused of 'flaunting' or 'shoving it in someone's face' and told to 'keep it behind closed doors' and 'not to speak about it'. It is an insulting and demeaning double standard. Like it our not, our sexual orientation isn't just what we do in the bedroom and who we love, it plays a part in almost ever facet of our lives and we should NOT have to walk on egg shells. If a hetero is going to tell me about taking his wife to a movie, then this homosexual wants to talk about taking his boyfriend (If I had one!) to a movie. If that hetero walks down the street holding her hand, this homo wants to hold his boy's hand as well.
Back to the original post and issue, we don't know what the kid's job performance was like, but that exchange crossed a line and was NOT about job performance. It not only attacked him, but the lesbian mother and anyone else who might have been present. That is INCREDIBLY wrong.
To continue the things that have been raised in this conversation, there is a HUGE difference in these issues. Having a chip on your shoulder, being incredibly militant and downright argumentative is one thing.. and I will NOT sit here and label those people as being wrong or feeling incorrectly, but I do understand that there IS workplace decorum that should be followed.. HOWEVER, having a rainbow flag magnet in your cubicle, or a picture of your partner (personally, I don't care for that term), or talking with a coworker about where you went on your date the previous night or a weekend with the in-laws is the bigger issue.. When our heterosexual brethren do this or something similar, not a person bats an eye. The SECOND a homosexual / bisexual person mentioned any of this, all of a sudden we are accused of 'flaunting' or 'shoving it in someone's face' and told to 'keep it behind closed doors' and 'not to speak about it'. It is an insulting and demeaning double standard. Like it our not, our sexual orientation isn't just what we do in the bedroom and who we love, it plays a part in almost ever facet of our lives and we should NOT have to walk on egg shells. If a hetero is going to tell me about taking his wife to a movie, then this homosexual wants to talk about taking his boyfriend (If I had one!) to a movie. If that hetero walks down the street holding her hand, this homo wants to hold his boy's hand as well.
Back to the original post and issue, we don't know what the kid's job performance was like, but that exchange crossed a line and was NOT about job performance. It not only attacked him, but the lesbian mother and anyone else who might have been present. That is INCREDIBLY wrong.
