My "Friend" the "Actress"

Posted: 8/21/07 at 2:49pm

I just found out recently that a woman I've been friends with for years, who is an actress but not a very well-known one, and in truth, not a very good one either, used to make jokes years ago saying that I was an "obsessed fan." This woman always invites me to her shows, makes a point of calling me up and asking me to attend them, and even though most of them are so off-off-off Broadway that they are practically in Schenectady, I've always tried to be supportive and attend them whenever I could. And now I hear I've been the butt of jokes for it? That old never-was (which is worse than an old has-been) has probably never had a real obsessed fan interested in her floundering career in her life. I feel so set up. And all I can add here is, just because someone calls themselves "creative" doesn't mean they are a good person, and it certainly doesn't mean they're decent friend material, either. If she invites me to anything else I may just attend, sit in the front row, and throw a tomato at her. She may think she deserves a Tony Award, but I think she deserves a tomato! And may she be wearing a nice pastel costume if ever I get the chance to toss one at her, too. Tee hee hee...
Updated On: 8/21/07 at 02:49 PM

[Ivan the Wonderful]

Posted: 8/21/07 at 2:54pm

Is she gay?

Posted: 8/21/07 at 2:57pm

Yes, as a matter of fact, the old witch sure is.

[TheatreDiva90016]

Posted: 8/21/07 at 3:04pm

I’d ask her about it.

Just call her or email her and ask her flat out, “I have had several people tell me this story about how you call me your stalker? Why would you even do that?”

Then tell her you would rather stalk someone with talent and then let it go.

Posted: 8/21/07 at 3:09pm

I plan on confronting her. She's messed with the wrong little girl. But...why would she, or anybody, DO such a thing in the first place? She's been inviting me to her rotten shows for twelve years! I can't even imagine what would motivate someone like this.

[Kalimba]

Posted: 8/21/07 at 3:09pm

TD90016, that's too nice. I'd go along the lines with something like, "my time is much too valuable to stalk the likes of a no good, two bit, talent-free actress such as yourself."

[LoringsGuy]

Posted: 8/21/07 at 3:17pm

She's most likely insecure and feels that having an "obsessive fan" makes her more important.

[SueleenGay]

Posted: 8/21/07 at 3:35pm

Are her initials T. S.?

[robbiej]

Posted: 8/21/07 at 3:37pm

The subtext is practically Chekhovian!

Posted: 8/21/07 at 3:41pm

No, the initials of the no-talent diva-wannabe with the hopeless career in question are not T.S. And they're not "SDA" either, although "Self-Deluded-A--hole" would be a very appropriate name, if not title, for her! If I'd known about this back when she started saying it about me, honestly, I'd have filed a lawsuit.

[SueleenGay]

Posted: 8/21/07 at 3:42pm

Shouldn't the word Actress in your title also be in quotes?

Posted: 8/21/07 at 3:47pm

Good idea. I'll edit that.

Posted: 8/21/07 at 3:48pm

I asked Belle Poitrine to give this paragraph a once over for you Sueleen-

My "Friend" the "Actress"

I just found out recently that a woman I've been "friends" with for years, who is an "actress" but not a very "well-known" one, and in truth, not a very "good" one either, used to make "jokes" years ago saying that I was an "obsessed fan." This woman always invites me to her "shows", makes a point of calling me up and "asking" me to attend them, and even though most of them are so "off-off-off Broadway" that they are practically in Schenectady, I've always tried to be "supportive" and attend them whenever I could. And now I hear I've been the butt of "jokes" for it?

Much better.

[SueleenGay]

Posted: 8/21/07 at 3:50pm

Oh Joe, wouldn't Belle be "remarkable" in Grey Gardens?

Posted: 8/21/07 at 3:51pm

Thanks JoeKv99 - much better! And hats off to the legendary Patrick Dennis character "Belle Poitrine" too.

[Kalimba]

Posted: 8/21/07 at 3:51pm

Sounds like you should have written off this so-called "actress-friend" years ago.

Posted: 8/21/07 at 3:53pm

I didn't know she was saying all this nonsense about me until this past Friday night.

Posted: 8/21/07 at 4:18pm

Belle would indeed give quite a "Performance" in Grey Gardens.

Isn't it about time TCM had a Letch Feeley Film "Festival"?
Updated On: 8/21/07 at 04:18 PM

[TheatreDiva90016]

Posted: 8/21/07 at 4:41pm

Start a rumor that she has the clap.

Posted: 8/21/07 at 4:50pm

TheatreDiva, I just might say she's got the clap and more! If I may ask, where did you get your picture taken with Patti LuPone? It's wonderful! And talk about actresses, Patti LuPone is one of the very best in the business. I saw "Gypsy" four times at City Center and hope it returns to Broadway for a nice extended run. Patti LuPone's the class act of all time...unlike a certain OTHER "actress."
Updated On: 8/21/07 at 04:50 PM

Posted: 8/21/07 at 4:50pm

I'd be interested to hear the result of the confrontation, please report back.

Might be fun to send her this thread via email. Here I am in little old Wales, and I got to hear about it.

What a stinker she is, sounds as if she's sixpence short of a shilling to me...

[BigFatBlonde]

Posted: 8/21/07 at 5:01pm

A passive-aggressive response is often looked down upon. But in this case I'd use one.

Stop seeing her shows - don't confront her, don't create more drama. Simply stop going.

If you confront her. She can turn and say that you are the obsessed fan spurned and have gone crazy.

If you stop supporting her, the jokes stop and perhaps - and I stress "perhaps" - she will see that your support was genuine.

Finally, I'd ask myself. What is it about me that attracts and keeps such "friends."

Just my two-cents

Updated On: 8/21/07 at 05:01 PM

[TheatreDiva90016]

Posted: 8/21/07 at 5:16pm

The picture of Patti and I was taken backstage, closing night for The Rise And Fall Of The City of Mahagony at the LA Opera with Audra McDonald and directed by John Doyle.

I do costumes there.

Posted: 8/21/07 at 5:36pm

Very interesting ideas from all of you - thanks. I do want to confront her, but Blonde, you're right, that might only make matters worse. The strangest part of all this is that she would always call me up and INVITE me to go to her shows. I wouldn't know about them otherwise. They're so far off-Broadway that nobody would find them unless they knew exactly where to look. Once she even called up and tried to comp me into one of them. Another time I was sick and couldn't make one of them and there the Diva was on my phone, saying she was all concerned about me because I didn't show up. So I truly don't get what she's been up to here. She's inviting me, she's trying to comp me in, she's upset if I don't show up, and then behind my back all that time she's saying I'm an "obsessed fan"?

Well, I don't need certifiable friends, that's for sure. And that's what this woman is, if this is what she's doing to me, and probably to several other people as well. As my grandad used to say, she's missing a few lock washers. And she may not realize it yet but that witch just lost the closest thing to a real friend that she ever might have had!

TheatreDiva, that is AWESOME that you worked on The Rise and Fall of the City of Mahagony! I wish I could have seen it. I bet the costumes were AWESOME!

Posted: 8/21/07 at 5:36pm

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