My Stepson Took My Panties, Help!

Posted: 5/30/12 at 2:13pm

Without being too graphic, lately several pairs of my underwear have gone missing. I am married to a man with two teenagers from his first marriage; my stepson and my stepdaughter stay with us each weekend. I am in my early 30s. Some relatives visited my husband and me for the holiday weekend, and some stayed in my stepson's room. While cleaning his room in preparation for their arrival I discovered several pairs of my underwear crammed into a "secret space," as well as some pictures of me in a bikini. I'm trying not to feel weird around my stepson, because I remember the unpredictable crushes I developed as a result of my hormones. But I buy nice underwear, and I would like him to stop taking mine. I'm not sure if I should tell my husband about his son's crush and ask him to deal with this or if I should casually ask my stepson to stop. What do you think the least embarrassing option is?
I am not printing Prudie's answer because we can come up with MUCH better advice

[TheatreDiva90016]

Posted: 5/30/12 at 2:19pm

Take him shopping for his own!!!

Posted: 5/30/12 at 2:20pm

That was my first thought Diva! And DO NOT tell dad! No good can come of that.

[StockardFan]

Posted: 5/30/12 at 2:24pm

OK, that's creepy.

[doodlenyc]

Posted: 5/30/12 at 2:41pm

I was half way through the first post before I realized it wasnt about you, joe!

Posted: 5/30/12 at 2:46pm

Maybe it is, maybe it isn't. In many ways, I see myself as a good-looking step-mom in her early thirties. If I DID have a teenage boy around the house, he'd almost certainly be stealing my panties.

[Gaveston2]

Posted: 5/30/12 at 4:43pm

I'd like to know how old the teen stepson is. 13 is one thing, 18 quite another.

Either way, a one-to-one talk about respecting stepmother's privacy is in order.

[Bettyboy72]

Posted: 5/30/12 at 4:51pm

Jordan, what if she does that and the obsession intensifies?

Posted: 5/30/12 at 6:15pm

Seriously. I'd take the panties and leave a note- "Flattered, but really- SO inappropriate. You better knock it off. But If you want to come to my Book Club Friday I'll introduce you to my friends."

[ArtMan]

Posted: 5/30/12 at 6:42pm

Its tacky to discuss your husband's son's problems on a public board! Like it or not, you are a parent figure to the boy and you should act accordingly. There are more issues here than your "nice underwear".

[TheatreDiva90016]

Posted: 5/30/12 at 6:47pm

Who is that directed at?

[dramamama611]

Posted: 5/30/12 at 6:48pm

This isn't the POSTERS promplem....it was printed in a publication.

It also isn't the step son's problem, its the mums.

[DottieD'Luscia]

Posted: 5/30/12 at 7:26pm

As if the thread title wasn't enough, ArtMan's response was priceless! OMG, I can't stop laughing.

[Bettyboy72]

Posted: 5/30/12 at 9:19pm

Well it's unclear if the boy is hot for mom or wants to be Dr. Frank N. Furter. There's a teachable moment in here somewhere.

Why don't NBC's "The More You Know" PSAs deal with these type of concerns.

Posted: 5/30/12 at 10:31pm

Betty, he had panties AND photos of mom (Me!) in a bikini. I think he was sniffing the panties, not wearing them.

[Bettyboy72]

Posted: 5/30/12 at 11:33pm

Maybe the pics of mom were for his consult at the plastic surgeon. We should not jump to conclusions.

We all know good parenting means going into the room while the young man is pleasuring himself, snatching the panties and the pics, slap him, shame him and send a clear message that sexual expression is dirty and wrong and not to be discussed.

That'll fix him good.

[StockardFan]

Posted: 5/31/12 at 11:44am

OMG, I'm laughing!!!!!

Posted: 5/31/12 at 11:47am

Betty, my husband and I already do that role-play. This is going to be exhausting.

[Tom1071]

Posted: 5/31/12 at 1:14pm

"I was half way through the first post before I realized it wasnt about you, joe!"

ME TOO!

Posted: 5/31/12 at 1:33pm

I can neither confirm nor deny that this is my letter. I have been disappointed that more people haven't offered me advice, however.

[doodlenyc]

Posted: 5/31/12 at 2:23pm

I think this is fake...joe doesn't wear underwear!

[Kalimba]

Posted: 5/31/12 at 2:31pm

OK, here's some advice: do without. This way your stepson won't have anything to steal.

Regarding the bikini picture, do without that, too.

[Playbilly]

Posted: 6/1/12 at 10:56pm

How dumb can you people be? So obvious, OBVIOUS that step-daughter stole and planted the panties. That bee-yatch always has been jealous of stepmom and son. She knows this bit will mess up the "new" family.

The whole lot of them ought to take the next Metroliner to The Steve Wilkos Show.

[Eris0303]

Posted: 6/1/12 at 11:36pm

Well, Joe, is your stepson cute?

[dientzy]

Posted: 12/30/12 at 4:51pm

I must say there is alot of apathy in this replies. Like you I have also had the same problem. I find the carass replies quite disturbing. I like you, have come to the internet to find advice from others for the same problem before bringing it up to my fiance. It completely weirds me out about his obsession. I wish the best for you and if you have any advice on what works when you get the problem resolved please let me know as well.