My cousin's wedding or my band competion...

[I<3bway]

Posted: 9/3/06 at 8:15pm

Damnit, how in the hell does this happen?!? My cousin is going to have her wedding on Oct 14 and my band competion is on the same day! My mom wants to go, but I don't!! My stupid ass dad (well he's not mean or anything), but his drunk ass is trying to "convince" me to go to the stupid wedding! It's my choice! And it's like if I say no to him, he says I'm strange because I don't want to go and that I've never been to a wedding before. If I don't want to go to my cousin's wedding, whom I haven't seen in almost 10 years, then I don't have to! I don't want to feel like I was dragged along for nothing. Besides, if I did go, then it would only be for like one or two days. Just a waste of my time. I'd rather be with my fellow band mates and win in the competion. Besides, it's not like my cousin is going to come see me graduate. I mean, my cousin who is the same age as me will be graduating on the same day as me, and well he's seen more of my mom's family side than I have. It's so stupid to go to the wedding.

[Rathnait62]

Posted: 9/3/06 at 8:17pm

Do you live in your parents' house? Do they support you financially?

If so, then unless THEY give you a choice, you don't have one. It's theirs to make.

[SueleenGay]

Posted: 9/3/06 at 8:24pm

Go to the "competion", tell your cousin you will go to her NEXT wedding.

[AbbaRabbit]

Posted: 9/3/06 at 8:26pm

weddings are fun. go to the wedding.

[Rathnait62]

Posted: 9/3/06 at 8:28pm

Sueleen, I actually did say that to my mother when I got the invitation to my uncle's third wedding.

[hannahshule]

Posted: 9/3/06 at 8:31pm

My dear, you can kvetch.
I agree however, that you have a commitement to your family, and even if you haven't seen your cousin in ten years, they still invited you, and unless your whole family decides not to go, than it looks like you're going to the wedding.
But don't be so negative, weddings are alot of fun (free food!!!). In fact I just came home from one tonight (my cousin as well). I'm sure they'll be at least ONE family member there who you'll find interesting!

Updated On: 9/3/06 at 08:31 PM

[I<3bway]

Posted: 9/3/06 at 8:32pm

Just needed to let off some steam. But my dad doesn't want to go, but he's telling me I have to? I'll stay here thank you.


Yeah, I'll go to her next wedding. Besides, my cousin has been married once already, and my aunt (who's her mom) has been married for the eighth time already, so there should be some similarities I hope.

[Rathnait62]

Posted: 9/3/06 at 8:33pm

Your cousin is Maria Burton???

[Type_A_Tiff]

Posted: 9/3/06 at 8:33pm

Go to the wedding. Blood's thicker than water and all that jazz. This is the biggest day in your cousin's life (and likely a lot of your extended family), and band competitions come and go.

And again, free food.

[son_of_a_gunn_25]

Posted: 9/3/06 at 8:34pm

Updated On: 2/18/09 at 08:34 PM

[Rathnait62]

Posted: 9/3/06 at 8:35pm

"But my dad doesn't want to go, but he's telling me I have to?"

Yes. That's how it works.

[I<3bway]

Posted: 9/3/06 at 8:35pm

I don't know, I'll think about it hannahshule. I mean most of my mom's family side is Mexican and Puerto Rican, and the only person who I really want to see on my mom's side is my cousin who is the same age as me. Also one of my other aunts who is also coming to the wedding has also been causing problems for the family. She's been threatening them and has been running off everywhere. Just...I'll think about it.

[SueleenGay]

Posted: 9/3/06 at 8:39pm

I don't think the fact that you were invited obligates you to go at all, especially if this is her SECOND happiest day of her life. (How old is she?) Did you go to her first wedding? That should be enough to prove you love her, if that is why you go.

[Type_A_Tiff]

Posted: 9/3/06 at 8:40pm

Honestly, you shouldn't have to think about it. You may not listen to what I say because it's a lesson that comes with age (yes, I'm in my twenties but I had to learn this too) - with few exceptions, your family is always there for you; your friends and peers won't always be. It's not whether you want to go to the wedding or not - if you choose to go to the competition instead, you're telling your family -- your parents -- that when it comes down to it, if you had a choice, you'd choose your classmates over your own blood. It sounds like you're taking them forgranted.

[hannahshule]

Posted: 9/3/06 at 8:42pm

Why don't you perform at your cousin's wedding!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Sorry, I'm actually half serious though, but I think I had a bit too many Thai Mi's at MY cousin's wedding!
But I'm glad you'll think about it!
And as far as family problems (which I'm no stranger to), well, that's a different story, and if you feel like you'd be really uncomfortable there because of it, that's a separate issue. If you want to skip the wedding, I would do it for the right reason, not because of the competition.
Best of luck to you!

[Type_A_Tiff]

Posted: 9/3/06 at 8:44pm

Well, if you just don't like your extended family and you're indifferent towards how they view you, that's another story.

[SueleenGay]

Posted: 9/3/06 at 8:46pm

Oh, they are Mexicans and PRs? In that case you are excused from the wedding. Who would want to be around a bunch of drunk smelly wetbacks? Go to the "competion". Then do your spelling homework.

[I<3bway]

Posted: 9/3/06 at 8:47pm

Well, I also have a HUGE, I mean HUGE fear of flying too. =(


And yes, MOST of my mother's side of the family are actually not smelly, just plain creepy and haven't seen them ever since I was born. My mother invited one of her uncles last year to stay here for a week and all he did was just stare at me with his beady eyes. *_* Updated On: 9/3/06 at 08:47 PM

[hannahshule]

Posted: 9/3/06 at 8:49pm

But who can resist airplane food???

I say, ask if you can perform!

[Type_A_Tiff]

Posted: 9/3/06 at 8:52pm

Raggy who?

[I<3bway]

Posted: 9/3/06 at 8:53pm

^^Hmm?


LOL, yeah, I'll rock the party with my base drum!!

[Rathnait62]

Posted: 9/3/06 at 8:58pm

What's a base drum?

[Dre2387]

Posted: 9/3/06 at 9:02pm

this reminds me of Freaky Friday with Jamie Lee Curtis and Lindsay Lohan.

good luck with it.

[Holliwoodblonde]

Posted: 9/3/06 at 9:19pm

I had to miss my best friend's sweet sixteen for a cousin i had never met's wedding! Worse, was that I had to fly to Texas and I loathe flying. I was beyond bitter when I got there but ended up having a great time. I met so many family members that I otherwise probably would have never gotten the opportunity to meet. Everyone ended up being so nice and so funny.

While you really don't have a choice and while it does suck that you'll miss this competition just tough it out. It'll work out for the best. As Tiff said, family's much more important.

[I<3bway]

Posted: 9/3/06 at 9:21pm