Cruel, I hear what you're saying, and I do agree that people are sometimes too prone to judge larger people. Particularly those who are a healthy weight that are also smokers, drinkers, and junk food eaters. I know plenty of people who are not overweight who eat garbage - which isnt healthy either.
I have yet to overhear a single instance of any large person being barraged with "YOU'RE GONNA DIE!" I think that he was exaggerating to make a point - and you are lucky if you've never heard variations of this statement. I can't tell you how many times I have heard larger people be told that they would "be a lot happier" if they lost weight. Yes, I do think that taking control of your body and living a healthier lifestyle can improve self esteem and confidence - but I am really sick of the point of view in this culture that being thin cures all.
That being said, I used to be 30 pounds heavier and genetically, I was predisposed to that type of body because of my father. I agree that some people are more prone to obesity, but you are also prone to the habits that cause it. I mean no one forced my father and I to eat carbohydrates like they are going out of style, you know?
The morning star always gets wonderful bright the minute before it has to go --doesn't it?