Serious Question About Living With An Alcoholic

Well, if this is actually a serious Q: http://www.aa.org/lang/en/subpage.cfm?page=1

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Actually Artman, an alcoholic can become wasted after one or two drinks, at other times they can drink forever and not show any effects, The way an alcoholics body processes booze sometimes defies logic. Believe me, I know first hand.

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If he continues and you don't disengage you will go insane. I promise.

This might sound selfish, but you MUST protect yourself. The energy around someone who is using or drinking - even if they keep up with their share of the rent - is life draining and crazy making.

I know you care, but there isn't much you can do if he isn't open to exploring whether he has a problem or not. Sometimes you have to let people hit the bottom. I know that is hard to accept.

Monitor his behavior, safe guard your possessions, and develop new roommate contingency plans should the situation worsen.

Does he have family you can discreetly go to? If so, you may want to share your concerns. Telling them about Al-Anon might help too. Al-Anon is fellowship of friends and family of problem drinkers. You may consider going to a meeting yourself to ask for advice. I'm sure there is gay Al-Anon in New York.

Hope that helps.

Al-Anon websites:

http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/home

http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/how-can-i-help-my-problem-drinker-quit-drinking

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Updated On: 1/13/13 at 02:50 AM

Sounds like he might be cross addicted.

If you need further proof, buy a full bottle of mouthwash and leave it out in the open in the bathroom. If it's empty the next day, there's your proof. If it isn't empty, taste and see if it's been diluted.

I lived with an alcoholic for a while. I know.

I repeat what others have said, get out now!

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