Should PMs remain Private...

[SueleenGay]

Posted: 1/19/06 at 4:01pm

Yes, PM stands for PRIVATE Message, but does that make it unethical for me to share these if they were sent to me unsolicited? I never signed an agreement to keep these "private". Do you feel an obligation to keep PMs to yourself? Or should the sender just assume that anything in a PM is going to be shared? Perhaps we should change the name of PMs to Off-board Message.

Updated On: 3/8/06 at 04:01 PM

[JerseyGirl2]

Posted: 1/19/06 at 4:04pm

eh, I have always kept them private, but if one pissed me off, I would probably post it.

[YouWantitWhen????]

Posted: 1/19/06 at 4:09pm

I really think it depends on the nature of the message.

If someone is responding to a post on a thread, and wants to address an issue with you personally rather than post it on the board for all to see, I would think that would merit respecting the privacy.

If, however, someone sends you something hateful for no reason, I might contact the mods and rather than post the message, I would first ask them to stop. If they continue, I would just state that x person is sending unsolicited PM's that are hateful. If it continues after that, I would post away.

PM's should not be used as a means to abuse others without any recourse.

Or, you could just block them.

[KelRel]

Posted: 1/19/06 at 4:11pm

I agree with YWIW????. If they are harrassing you let the mods know and if that doesn't help post away my dear.

[Plum]

Posted: 1/19/06 at 4:11pm

Yeah, I think contacting the mods should come first. Well, second, after sending back a lovely reply of one's own.

[mominator]

Posted: 1/19/06 at 4:12pm

Sueleen, does this have anything to do with the Paris thread?

[Kringas]

Posted: 1/19/06 at 4:12pm

Eh, I'm nosy, so I love it when people post their PMs. I say post with impunity!

[Type_A_Tiff]

Posted: 1/19/06 at 4:13pm

Seconds Kringas.

[Plum]

Posted: 1/19/06 at 4:14pm

I think I'd be kind of pissed if some of my PMs were posted- I send them under the assumption that the "P" means something. But I generally don't flame people.

Well, much.

Well, in PMs.

[JerseyGirl2]

Posted: 1/19/06 at 4:14pm

Me, too.

[Jane2]

Posted: 1/19/06 at 4:15pm

My PM block doesn't work. Not that I want to use it, but I experimented to see how it works.

[Kringas]

Posted: 1/19/06 at 4:16pm

I see exactly what you mean, Plum, though I tend to operate under assumption that you should never put anything in writing (and I'd include internet communication with that) that you don't want anyone else to see.

[etoile]

Posted: 1/19/06 at 4:22pm

Sueleen, why don't you post them and then we can better help you decide.

[Type_A_Tiff]

Posted: 1/19/06 at 4:26pm

I just think if, like Sueleen says, it's an unsolicited flame, why keep it sacred? You certainly didn't ASK for it.

[Jane2]

Posted: 1/19/06 at 4:30pm

Yeah, c'mon, the Hilton thing is dying down...

[midtowngym]

Posted: 1/19/06 at 4:36pm

In a PM, I declared my love to Sueleen and his rapier wit. Alas, my affections remain unrequited. Feel free to bare my hearts desires with impugnity. I cyber-stand before you, figuratively (and literally) naked.

[JerseyGirl2]

Posted: 1/19/06 at 4:48pm

It's goooooooooooooooone!

[KelRel]

Posted: 1/19/06 at 4:48pm

Con someone fill me in on the Paris thread? I missed it and in the midst of catching up it was deleted!

[Kringas]

Posted: 1/19/06 at 4:49pm

Nooooo!!!!!!

Edited: That wasn't a "no" to your request, KelRel, I was just expressing my displeasure that the thread was gone.

Updated On: 1/19/06 at 04:49 PM

[AbbaRabbit]

Posted: 1/19/06 at 4:49pm

awwwww... oh well it was fun while it lasted

[CJR]

Posted: 1/19/06 at 4:50pm

*cries and mumbles obscenities*

it's GONE! but I was having so much fun!!!!!

Now what am I gonna do for the next 40 minutes?!?

[KelRel]

Posted: 1/19/06 at 4:50pm

CJR, darling, fill me in!

[iflitifloat]

Posted: 1/19/06 at 4:52pm

We could start a fat and ugly appreciation thread?

[CJR]

Posted: 1/19/06 at 4:52pm

Basically, according to Di2, we're all fat, ugly and jealous of Paris Hilton because some of us think she's ugly.

Also, she (Di2) is apparently some big important actress, but in another thread (and PMs to another poster) talked about how she's some important recruiter.

Then she didnt have anything intelligent to say so she just started calling people things I wont dare repeat ON the board again via PM and everyone started posting the PMs on the thread.

She called me a bitch like it was a bad thing. lol

[CJR]

Posted: 1/19/06 at 4:54pm

iflit... lmao hahaha