The Official Adam Pascal Love Thread, part four- Page 56

[Fantabulous428]

Posted: 1/18/06 at 8:55am

It's so disgusting outside. meh.

Posted: 1/18/06 at 9:40am

I'm sorry Em. That's horrible. I really don't have any advice beyond trying to have a discussion with your mom about it, but I'm sure you already have various times.

My mother is pretty much the same way -- she's angry at me for taking it easy this semester and already saying that I better take hard classes at NYU because she's not paying for me to slack off in college. Apparently, she thinks I'm not intelligent enough to kick my mind back into high gear once I reach college.

[Billboard Girl]

Posted: 1/18/06 at 9:41am

*hugs Em*

Ugh, I just got back from my 8 AM class and not only will there be a quiz every week, a huge chunk of my grade in the class will be based on group projects.

I always feel gross and depressed when it rains, and the wind is only making things worse.

[luvtheEmcee]

Posted: 1/18/06 at 9:47am

Good God. My mother says that I'm forbidden from taking 14 credits because she says so and that's the end. So if I drop one and go down to 14.5, she says I have to switch one of my three credit courses to a four credit course -- like she doesn't realize that the difference is only ONE? And she's telling me to give up something I WANT TO TAKE for ONE measley credit? I don't think she ever realizes that she makes no sense. Ever. She says she'll come with me to talk to my advisor. Is this fifth grade?

She says I need to stop blaming her for everything that goes wrong in my life, but how is this not her doing? I can't make my own decisions without having to answer to my mother. She virtually hung up on me last night when I called her to talk to her about it, and now she's yelling at me. She gets mad if I don't keep her informed, so I told her what I planned to do, and she went crazy.

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Posted: 1/18/06 at 9:51am

http://www.livejournal.com/community/adampascal/162640.html

People need to grow up.

Edit: Em, I understand where you're coming from. That must be so embarassing. As usual, I don't really have anything to offer in the way of advice, but hopefully your mom will calm down and become somewhat rational. College is supposed to be a fun experience overall and it doesn't sound like it is for you. Updated On: 1/18/06 at 09:51 AM

[luvtheEmcee]

Posted: 1/18/06 at 9:53am

I was going to go to buy books this morning -- I even got up early so I could be at the bookstore when it opened -- but I think instead I'm just going to sit here and feel sorry for myself.

The people on there are freaks.

[luvtheEmcee]

Posted: 1/18/06 at 9:55am

Overall, it's not at all a bad experience. I think I told someone last semester that I seriously had not ever been happier. I'm really looking forward to this semester, actually. Once all of this dies down, if should be great.

On one hand, college is sort of that time of liberation, yet there are still certain things where I'm tied down as badly as I was at home. I know my mom has always been like this -- very forceful and all, but that she does it for the sake of keeping my best interest at heart. But, even though I know that, I just wish she weren't so..... the way she is about it. She just makes me feel like crap when I really don't need it.

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[Fantabulous428]

Posted: 1/18/06 at 9:59am

Once all of the stress and anxiety dies down, we're gonna have a good semester. I know it. *tries to sound convincing*

[luvtheEmcee]

Posted: 1/18/06 at 10:02am

I'm finally excited about my classes; in the past I was excited about one or two per semester, and then indifferent toward the rest. I think part of my problem is that previously, one of my five classes was Spanish, for which I just... (a) didn't have a lot of work and (b) just didn't do very much of it. Now I have five serious classes.

I just feel like I'm not going to have time to do ANYTHING but go to class, study, eat and sleep.

[Billboard Girl]

Posted: 1/18/06 at 10:13am

For me, the college experience is interesting because I have more freedom than I've had in the past, yet I don't quite know what to do with it. I'm taking challenging classes because I don't think I know how to be lazy, and I still haven't mastered the art of knowing what is or isn't worth stressing out over (hence the frequent tearing my hair out over an assignment that's worth maybe 1% of my grade). I don't want to be one of those "party people" who spends every moment of spare time getting drunk, but on some level I envy them for feeling free to do that. I know it's silly, but it's how I feel.

[luvtheEmcee]

Posted: 1/18/06 at 10:16am

I know what you mean. Sometimes I wish I had the desire to party and get drunk, or that I felt free enough to do it, or something. My friend is throwing a surprise party for another one of my friends on Friday night. These aren't people I'm like... super-close with, but I often find myself feeling stupid for not really doing very much to make my casual friendships with people here at school closer. The first part is just dinner, and then there's a party at someone's dorm after, and they're all heavy drinkers -- including my roommate (or she is on occasion, anyway). So that means she'll come back drunk on Friday night. I sort of wish I were into that so I could be more sociable, but... that's just not me.

Though, obviously, the city provides me with a million other forms of entertainment, and that makes me perfectly happy.

grr. I have such a headache. This weather...

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[Billboard Girl]

Posted: 1/18/06 at 10:24am

I know exactly what you mean. I have a bunch of casual friends in classes and stuff but I don't really hang out with them outside of class because most of them like to go clubbing or hang out in someone's room and drink and I'm just not into that. I hate feeling so isolated, but I'm not going to do something I don't want to just to be part of the crowd. Plus, I've been the "good girl" my entire life (occasional temper tantrums notwithstanding), and I honestly don't know (or want to know) how my parents would react if they found out that I had done something that stepped outside of that box.

[luvtheEmcee]

Posted: 1/18/06 at 10:27am

I'm a lot closer with my other friends throughout the city (and from farther away, too). People I've met here. Seriously. I feel like I have some casual friends around school that I made when I was living in a traditional dorm and it was easy to just walk out and make friends, and we have a little in common, but we're just not that close. So I've been sort of lax about it and maintain better the friendships that are more substantial to me. I know that's mean, but it's not like I don't have friends. I'm just not focused on the people who I go to school with, who are basically my friends because they were in the right place at the right time. There are exceptions; a few of my friends from school and I *are* very close, but for the most part, not.

My parents would eat me alive if they ever caught me drunk.

[Billboard Girl]

Posted: 1/18/06 at 10:45am

A lot of the friends I've made in college are basically friendships of convenience - either we happened to be in a couple of classes together one semester or we were assigned to work together on a project or we lived in the same building, but once those circumstances were over we realized we didn't really have much in common. It's nice to go to a school event and recognize other people there, but I'd take my close high school friends or my online friends any day.

Ugh, my mom just called me to yell at me for not being on AIM so she couldn't harass me there, and I think she's actually happy I got stuck taking an 8 AM class ("well, when you graduate and get a job, you're going to have to wake up early every day. Get used to it.")

[Fantabulous428]

Posted: 1/18/06 at 10:50am

I know what you guys mean. I don't have any *really* close friends at school, partially because I've only known these people for a few months. And on more than one occasion have I sat in my room by myself on a Thursday or Friday night feeling like just a bit of a loser.

I can already see friendships from last semester that were based on convenience totally dissapearing.

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[sweetestsiren]

Posted: 1/18/06 at 10:52am

That sounds like kind of a crappy situation, Em. I never really understand overbearing parents... I know that they're paying for college, but it's YOUR life. As long as you're not wasting it away, there's nothing wrong with taking an extra semester (or summer classes, or whatever) to graduate. I think the average college graduation time nationally is like 6 years or maybe more than that.

Anyway, my problem is sort of the opposite... I take too many classes thinking that I'll be fine managing all of them, and "Oh, I'll just drop one if it's too much." But I hate dropping classes and I'm completely indecisive about what to drop, so I end up taking everything and not doing as well. I'm excited about one of my classes this semester and sort of dreading all of the others.

Haha, BG, my mom says that EXACT same thing to me.

[luvtheEmcee]

Posted: 1/18/06 at 10:52am

It must be like mother full moon or something. ugh.

[Billboard Girl]

Posted: 1/18/06 at 10:59am

Fantabulous, I used to feel like a loser when I would be sitting in my room by myself on a Thursday night. Now, I've transformed Thursday night into what I call my "decompression ritual" - I just sit around and stay up really late doing nothing productive whatsoever, with the purpose of getting rid of any stress I've dealt with during the school week.

If it were up to me, I would probably be taking 14 credits this semester instead of 18 (I also took 18 last semester and was pretty burnt-out by the end), but all of the classes I'm taking are ones that my advisor strongly suggests I take by the end of sophomore year and summer classes aren't an option because my scholarship wouldn't cover them.

[orangeskittles]

Posted: 1/18/06 at 11:16am

Em, you SHOULD take your mom with you to your advisor, so your advisor can explain to her that she's off her rocker over this one credit. Even if it doesn't get her to get off your case about it, she'll see that you know that someone that knows better than her is telling her she's wrong. Does that makes sense? It'll take away some of her authority on this issue because you now have someone telling her, in her presence, that you're right about this and she's not.

2 classes down, 3 to go. Every year, I've had a mid-term or paper due the day after my birthday. I'm turning 21 this year. I'm PRAYING that my schedule will allow me to have a happy birthday. *fingers crossed*

I'm the same way with my college friendships as you've all been saying. I don't mind partying, but I don't like taking it to the excess that everyone else seems to, so I'm out of the loop. And maintaining friendships under normal circumstances has never been one of my strong points. I'm trying to improve on that, but it's hard to separate the convenience friendships from the ones that really mean something.

[Fantabulous428]

Posted: 1/18/06 at 11:19am

You know what's another wonderful thing about college dorm life? Mice! Yep, that's right, we have a mouse in our room. Someone just came to patch up holes and put down glue traps. If I ever see a mouse wiggling around on that thing, I will run in the other direction like speedy gonzalez!

[CanadianSnowbird]

Posted: 1/18/06 at 11:20am

Skittles, I'm turning 21 too. Although it doesn't matter here, because legal age is 19.
My mother sent me an e-mail in first year entitles "Reality Check", let's just say it wasn't pretty.
I'm not doing so well this year, I'm having a lot of problems handing the workload. I'm going back home next year just to pick up the last two credits I need for my degree. That was a shock to my mother, that I was getting a three year degree instead of a four year. But in the end she understood it was for the best.

[orangeskittles]

Posted: 1/18/06 at 11:25am

There's this bulletin board in the hall that says "You know you missed Syracuse when..."

And people write stuff underneath it. Someone wrote "Your parents want to have a talk with you regarding your habits."

I smiled when I saw that. It's just so nice to know that I'm not the only one. I think my parents managed to get on my case about every single aspect of my life over break; I couldn't wait to get away.

[Billboard Girl]

Posted: 1/18/06 at 11:37am

Oy, Fantabulous. I remember when there was a mouse in my dorm last year - picture me, 2 of my suitemates, our floor's RA, and a few people who lived down the hall running around and shrieking and trying to catch the mouse using dust pans and garbage pails (what? it seemed like a good idea at the time) and me accidentally locking myself out in a mouse-induced panic (I had to go down to the front desk in my pajamas to get the spare key!)

[zzprincesskatt]

Posted: 1/18/06 at 12:29pm

I finally finished my history paper...10 minutes ago. I fell asleep at 4:00 last night with nothing done. I did most of it in English class. It was due at 10:30 so its late. I'm going to try to sneak into my teacher's room at lunch time and put it in his box.

[luvtheEmcee]

Posted: 1/18/06 at 12:48pm

My adviser has said he'd talk to my mom on the phone on MANY ocassions; but if she comes to the meeting, we'll just fight.