The Official Raúl E. Esparza "Spread the Love" Thread — Page 415

Actually Skittles the first time I ever met Raul I kinda said I saw a TTB boot...he gave me a tsk face and I was actually nervous that I shouldn't have said it, then he just started laughing about it, clearly he had no problem. Whew.

The part about seeing him first in Chitty was before I came over right? Skittles, it was very amusing to watch you babble, but it seemed to be a fun convo. I actually had wanted to ask him about Company instruments for a couple of minutes...but you kept talking so I waited You never met him, totally understandable.

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It was probably a "psh, I'm supposed to be mad at you, but whatever" face. I don't think many people mention them to him for fear of him unleashing his temper.

But Symphony Space was just that -- I mean, I think we were having fun with him, which is something I've been wanting to be able to do for a long time, but I can never SAY anything when I'm supposed to initiate.

I bookmark the majority of my reviews, and other posts that I spend long periods of time on. I'm a packrat in real life and online, so I keep tight hold on everything.

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In all seriousness, who doesn't have something of a temper? But let's just say Raul is not someone whose bad side I would want to be on.

He's seen the Taboo bootleg.

Yeah. She wanted to go, and I pushed her to it, on the basis that this was a one-time opportunity. I didn't want to be the first to walk up to him, so skittles was.

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Hey now. A year and a half later, it's still a MAJOR turn-on. Okay, actually, I think it's more of a turn-on now.

I was so much less confident then. As much as I like to re-read my initial reactions to things. I feel so ridiculous reading my old stuff because I'm like "wow, I sound like a freak."

He babbles too, though, so it's all good.

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I don't think any of them would be outwardly MEAN to a fan unless severely provoked. I've seen both of them give their share of sarcasm and snark. But I wouldn't ever want to piss Raul off. People who are extremely intelligent like that have a huge ability to be scathing when they're pissed.

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Exactly. People that are targets of sarcasm/snark are usually just the people that are too air-headed to pick up on it. I'm a very sarcastic person, but I would be too scared to come back at Raul with something.

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Oh see I can be extremely sarcastic and have lots of fun teasing ppl back and forth, but I need to be really comfortable and be perfectly sure that the teasing on their part is just fun and they like me, not just being mean. And also certain people's personalities, people who you can see right away have great senses of humor it's easier to get more comfortable w/ them to know it's all in fun.

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Okay Em I see what you're saying--when you're a passionate person and quite intelligent, you care about things enough to develop a temper about--like the way I tend to get fired up when I see someone post that it's crazy to see a show over and over.

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I dunno, it prob depends on your general level of comfort, but I've started to find that there are some actors who just kind of...even the first time I talk to them, there's something like they seem so warm and then maybe they'll crack a joke and I'm just so comfortable I may come back w/ something sarcastic. But I definitely let them dictate like I won't start something out of nowhere. Like w/ Greg, I remember when I probably wasn't going to go to the last softball game b/c of Rent in Bryant Park, the softball game before we were talking about Rent and stuff and I mentioned something about "you know some of those crazy Rentheads who campout" or something to that effect and he was like sure..like you! Me: What?? I've never camped out! I fully admit to being crazy but never ever will camp out. I actually responded slightly serious until he started laughing, and then he realized he was just teasing...and I remember thinking...wow...so like now we can tease and be sarcastic...that's...weird. And I find the more people I chat with especially more ppl on more than one occasion, I become overall more comfortable. There's always exceptions, I think if I saw Adam tomorrow and he started being sarcastic, I don't think I could come back, I'd just...not say much basically.

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That was a great answer Skittles! And at least if you're talking in terms of do we perform most of us there would call us that, we're not aspiring actors lol. Didn't we all laugh?

I think that's normal to be phased by some people and not others. I think there's two main factors-their personality and just what you've seen them in and why you're their fan. Like the first time I talked to Anthony I was shaking so much--well not counting for a minute at the set and another minute at Bryant Park. I mean, it was the steps outside of kitchen sink, so I think it made me more shaky that it wasn't a stage door, so of course I was nervous I was keeping him, I'm pretty sure I was, but he was too nice to say anything. He was incredibly nice and I was fine after that first conversation but I just remember looking at him and being like I'm talking to Anthony Rapp, Mark, I can't...believe this. Most of the people before him that I've been fortunate to chat w/ it was kind of simultaenous me seeing them perform and chatting w/ them, so there wasn't time for the whole idlization to occur.

My first Adam encounter he was taking pictures so that's all I knew to do--you were great and can I have a picture. He is usually bombarded, if I could get words out, it would be nice to be able to talk to him, but so many fans rightfully approach him, so I wouldn't try to start a convo, you know? And then I realized Em was worried I wouldn't catch him and tried to keep him there for me and I was so happy she did I was a little more comfortable my second time...though I really don't know if getting a hug from him would have the effect of making me more comfortable or more nervous around him. I don't think I've been able to decide lol. He definitely has that warm personality that I think if I was given the oppertunity to have several chats w/ him I could quickly become comfortable.

I really think now that I've realized having conversations w/ these people is entirely possible, I think I'm able to view most new performers in a not total idlization way, like I won't get as shaky as I was w/ Adam and Anthony, but them I've listened to and love for years, so...that's what happens.

And okay...cute guys are always harder to talk to. Well, except Matt Morrison, too much of a warm personality...but him aside, always find it hard to talk to the cute ones.

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Yeah, I'm getting that Em. Googling some stuff, and I have more of an understanding of what you mean about Raul and temper and stuff.

I think you described it perfectly. Of the two, I think Raul is much easier to approach, but if you really talked to Adam for a bit, you would see what a goofball he is and feel more comfortable w/ him. Heh, for some reason this reminds me of Cheyenne, he seems really intimidating to approach but...then he opens his mouth...and he seems more like a really tall teddy bear as opposed to a tall, intimidating guy.

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I don't think I can say I find either of them easier -- for myself -- to approach. I think Adam is a little bit more inviting, because he's got that smile plastered on his face all the time, but Raul's demeanor is a little bit quieter. Suffice it to say this is worth near naught because it's taken so long, but I would never do as I've done with Adam and walk up to Raul like "hey, how are you?!" skittles said I made it look so easy, but I was totally shaking in my pants. I think the base of it all is WHO these people are to us. The "OH MY GOD THAT'S ADAM PASCAL!!" complex is THE thing that makes them scary.

I'm a miserable public speaker.

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Well, I like the title!

If memory serves, Raul said "well, we need those, too!"

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