Torn- Should I read my dad's love letters to my mom? — Page 2

Even if you don't read them now, when you do, they will something you can always treasure. I think there is something so much sweeter that they are letters from your dad and not vice versa. To have a collection that shows the affection that he had for her is just priceless. If they are as lovely as they are in my imagination, it could be a tool to share with your daughter. "See? You want someone who thinks about you like this..."

Sometimes I wish the Swede and I hadn't fallen in love in the digital age. More letter would have been something wonderful to have. We did keep every card and note. I think that will be something our children will want someday.

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Read them only when you are ready to do so. I think it's a good point that if your parents hadn't ever wanted anyone else to read them, they would have disposed of them, but you can be grateful for their forethought without having to delve right inside their minds. You already know without reading them that these letters survived all this time and a huge amount of geographical displacement, and you know they are incredibly moving love letters from your father to your mother, so you've already got the blessing of insight into your parents' early feelings for each other.

They'll be waiting for you when you are ready to read them. And even if you decide you never will read them, this book is still a lovely thing just to have. It's like mangos; I don't eat them very often, but just knowing they exist makes the world a little brighter for me.

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>>>"OMG, this has all the makings of a Nick Sparks novel!"<<<

...and his writing is aimed at 14 year olds, right?

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Thanks again everyone!

Anti-romanticism isn't banal?

Eh, give him a break. His prostate is probably shot and no amount of viagra is jack his mustnttouchit back up. It ain't easy being 104.

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I will take the high road and assume that the comment about banality and cyniscism was directed at Glinda and not me. Since I have never written a rude comment to anyone else's posts, I just KNOW that Dolly couldn't have been directing the comments at me! (but if you were directing the comments at me- then thank you for at least reading my thread!) just sayin'

Suppmom, I can understand that you feel strange about reading the letters. I guess it's similar to reading someone's diary after they've died. But, I agree with the people who've said that if your mom really never wanted anyone else to see them, she would have destroyed them. She probably wanted her children to find them.

But, do what you want to do when you feel ready to do it.

And, just explain to your sister that she caught you off guard by giving you the book in front of everyone. She'll get over it.

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