being gay- Page 3

[Adoannie925]

Posted: 11/13/04 at 2:00pm

Congrats, and welcome!

[stokesrocks]

Posted: 11/13/04 at 2:04pm

Welcome Jasper! I admire your courage.

[TGIF]

Posted: 11/13/04 at 2:27pm

Welcome! And if you want to talk about anything else just post! There is always someone here to listen. We are a cooky bunch but you gotta love us!

[lovettespies]

Posted: 11/13/04 at 4:51pm

Look at my signature. It's the motto of my drama group, where we are a healthy mix of gay, straight, bi, confused, ect. You are not alone. I feel it really expresses everyone's search for contentment. Don't let anyone stand in your way from achieving it. You will find the strength within you and on this board to persevere. I wish you great happiness with all my heart.

[jacobtsf]

Posted: 11/13/04 at 9:34pm

I applaud you Jasper- Though I can not say I completly understand what you are going through, I can say that all of my gay friends have always said that coming out is the most difficult thing.

If you have not read this yet I suggest you do:


A question to the gays on this board

[jacobtsf]

Posted: 11/14/04 at 1:20pm

Did we scare Jasper off.

[broadwaybound3]

Posted: 11/14/04 at 1:25pm

welcome Jasper and congrads- dont be afraid of who you are. Its tough, but we are all very proud of you. Admitting it to yourself is the hardest part. Now you cant finally be yourself. If you can, embrace it. You will be much happier. Believe me I'm one the advocate side of this equation, just know that we will always support you when you need us.

[broadwaybound3]

Posted: 11/14/04 at 1:25pm

hope he didnt run away...sniffle...

[NYadgal]

Posted: 11/14/04 at 3:23pm

There's one life, and there's no return and no deposit;
One life, so it's time to open up your closet.
Life's not worth a damn 'til you can say,
"Hey world, I am what I am!"

[Jasper D]

Posted: 11/14/04 at 8:04pm

no guys Im still here! Thanks again to you all, your all helping me to see that being gay isnt a horror. Its still tough, but your helping a lot.

[jacobtsf]

Posted: 11/14/04 at 8:27pm

Glad we can be of help.

[BWayBoy88]

Posted: 11/15/04 at 4:20pm

Congrats Jasper. I know exactly what you are going through. I am also in the process of coming out. If you ever need to talk feel free to PM me. Updated On: 11/15/04 at 04:20 PM

[Moondrops]

Posted: 11/15/04 at 5:29pm

My dear Jasper,
Banish your demons, and you will be set free. Feel the fear, and let your blood rush. Life is not for hiding.
Warm Wishes, Moondrops

[Dollypop]

Posted: 11/15/04 at 7:33pm

Jasper, please remember that you didn't CHOOSE to be gay. You were CREATED that way. God made you gay and God doesn't make junk.

Relish that thought and then go forward leading a life of virtue and dignity.

I'm always here for you!

[BWayBoy88]

Posted: 11/15/04 at 10:11pm

In the words of Sister Chantelle-"God don't make no trash"

[paradox_error]

Posted: 11/19/04 at 10:47am

BWayBoy88 ~ AMEN!
Jasper ~ Since I have just gone through this myself I know just how you feel. You will feel insecure, but it will pass. You will feel like you are, to quote a much-bashed fun musical, "Alone in the Universe", but it will pass. You are not alone, we have all gone through similar experiences, and we have all survived.
Be yourself, and people will love you for who you are.
And if not...theres always us...

[Unknown User]

Posted: 11/19/04 at 1:27pm

I second that! Life is full of speed bumps, so drive carefully, but DRIVE!

[Jasper D]

Posted: 11/19/04 at 1:48pm

Life is supposed to be good and full of love, right? But how can you have a good life when what you are makes you miserable.
Is accepting Im gay accepting that Ill always be alone mostly?
Because my family will always see me differently even if they are accepting which I doubt. And what about children? Will I never have any if I live my life this way? Is so want a wife and kids, you know what I mean? But I cant see that happening. Nor can I see a life of being gay being a good life - oh its so tough right now. I know you all say these feelings pass, but I cant see anything changing for the better if I live as a gay man, yet how can I live as anything else? I havent expressed myself too well, but I hope you understand. Thanks.

[DancerGirl16]

Posted: 11/19/04 at 1:52pm

I know how you feel, its tuff to be yourself in a town where it is frowned upon. Althought it is TOTALLY different I don't fit into my town for my own reasons and at one point I did, but you should never be anything but proud of who you are in any case whatsoever because if you can't believe in yourself others won't either. And remember there are soooooo many people out there going through the same thing you are :) your not alone.

[jacobtsf]

Posted: 11/19/04 at 1:57pm

Jasper-print out the post I linked above and give it to your parents. If it can change some student's minds it might change theirs. Talk to your parents, and explain that there is nothing wrong with being gay. One of the most powerful statements I've heard was if it was a choice would anyone in their right mind choose it.

Second note-Children...there are many adoption agencies out there with thousands upon thousands of kids who want a loving family. If you really want a child that has your DNA there are test tube babies.
I am glad that you are starting to accept who you are.