my coming out thread- Page 3

[justagirl2]

Posted: 9/17/09 at 1:35pm

Welcome back, Paxton! I've been wondering about you and am glad to see all is well. Thanks so much for sharing your story with us...it's an absolute inspiration. You're very brave, and I wish you nothing but the best. PLEASE post more often! We miss you!

[AbbaRabbit]

Posted: 9/17/09 at 1:41pm

i've missed you guys!!

[D2]

Posted: 9/17/09 at 1:54pm

I just want to add my congratulations and welcome back - I've always been touched by you, and I'm happy you're on the way to your own personal happiness. Good for you.

[AbbaRabbit]

Posted: 9/17/09 at 1:54pm

oh, and capt's questions:

1) How old are you? 23
2) At what age did you feel "different"? well this is hard because i felt like i was a boy from age 5 on up, but didn't feel "different" then. i'm not 100% sure when i started to feel different.
3) At what age do you remember not liking your female body? around age 13, when i started puberty
4) Have you ever had sexual attraction to a male? If so, at what age? no, i'm asexual
5) Have you ever had sexual attraction to a female? If so, at what age? no, i'm asexual
6) Now that you identify yourself as male, looking back at your life, do you now recognize signs from earlier in your life? omg deffinatly. with the exception for places where i had to dress up, like mu cousin's wedding, and stuff like that, i haven't worn "girl's clothes" since i was in middle school.
7) Today, are you sexually attracted to males or females? In other words, are you a transgender heterosexual male or a transgender homosexual male? i consiter myself primaraly a homo-asexual male... that is i have physical, emotional, and romantic attractions to other males but not sexual attractions, although i suspect that will change when i'm fully transitioned. the asexual part i mean. i still have asexual attractions towards woman, but not like seeing a random girl and being like "oh she's hot" it's more like i could date a girl, but only one that i've known for a long time and have a deeper level of attraction to.
What is your religion today, and is it what you were raised to be? i'm a buddhist. i say i was "raised" catholic... i say it like that because we were like... easter and christmas catholics.
9) I read that you have told your family. Are they supportive? What was their initial reaction to your coming out? Did it all make sense and click with them? Did they ignore signs? in my mom's words "this actually makes sence! cool!"
10) How are your teachers and the school reacting to this? i go to a university that has a VERY open minded staff for the most part. i haven't run into any troubles with my professors yet. i'm registered with the student disabilities office for other things, and everyone registered with them gets a form letter to give to their professors at the startof the semester that says your name and something like "the above student has a documented disability... blah blah blah... please respect these accomadations...." so next to my name i write "i'm transgender, please call me paxton and use male pronouns. thank you!" and give it to them like that. no one has had any issue so far.

[clever name]

Posted: 9/17/09 at 2:22pm

Abba, I'm so happy you have found your path. What an inspiring story!

[Mister Matt]

Posted: 9/17/09 at 4:01pm

Paxton - If you ever need tips on sneaking a peek in the men's room, BWW will definitely prove to be a valuable resource.

Updated On: 9/17/09 at 04:01 PM

[AbbaRabbit]

Posted: 9/17/09 at 4:12pm

omg matt XD

do you offer courses? and if so, can i get transferable credits that i can use at CCSU?

i dont want to sound all sappy and everything but i feel like i've just been re-united with long lost family.

[lusciouslace]

Posted: 9/17/09 at 4:24pm

Congrats Paxton! I'm so glad that you not only got help when you were in such a deep depression, but that you found the real answers, are taking the steps to making things right and that your family has been so supportive. That's such a blessing! LOVE the name, too.

:) Welcome back. :)

[TheatreDiva90016]

Posted: 9/17/09 at 4:26pm

So, can we still call you Abba, or do you prefer Paxton now?

[AbbaRabbit]

Posted: 9/17/09 at 4:29pm

either/or.

since people have called me abba or lauren in the past, it doesn't really matter.

[Schmerg_The_Impaler]

Posted: 9/17/09 at 4:38pm

Paxton, I'm too new on the BWW scene to really know you, but welcome back, and congratulations for taking the first big step! I hope you feel happier with your self and more confident from now on.

I don't mean to be rude, but when you said that you play with a disabled team-- are you wheelchair-bound?

[Mister Matt]

Posted: 9/17/09 at 4:38pm

Paxton - I believe it's considered "distance learning". I don't know if the credits will transfer, but I'm sure you'll find the course applicable there.

[AbbaRabbit]

Posted: 9/17/09 at 4:48pm

hmmm... i'll go to my advisor and ask her when i'm on campus next week. i'm sure she'll know the answer. is this a 100-level course, or is there a pre-req?

schmerg - i'm not wheelchair bound (i hate that term lol)
i can walk, just not very well and not for very long. on campus i use a wheelchair (it's actually pretty sweet... the front wheels light up!) and around the house i can usually get around with just my leg braces and/or crutches or my cane to take some of the weight off my legs. my muscles tire easily, and when they get tired, they get spazzy.

FYI: this is sled hockey
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MFroEUToyaY

Updated On: 9/17/09 at 04:48 PM

[iflitifloat]

Posted: 9/17/09 at 6:21pm

I've always admired you and I am really happy you are back. And hot damn, Paxton is a fine name! If you need to overhaul the outside to match all the good on the inside, you go for it. Do what you need to do to be happy. Congrats! And welcome back!

[BobbyBubby]

Posted: 9/17/09 at 6:31pm

Abba I applaud your bravery and glad you are finally able to be the person you truly are. I admire you so much for being strong enough to go through this difficult but ultimately rewarding process.

I don't talk about this much on here. Well at all. My partner is F to M so I in some small way understand what your going through having seen him struggle with these things and as a partner having to deal with frequent discrimination.

If you ever need to talk my door is open. I've always enjoyed talking to you and reading yoru posts. I wish you the best of this journey and admire you greatly.

[Unknown User]

Posted: 9/17/09 at 6:39pm

Abba I am just tickled you're back and happy! And I always have thought of you as an anthropomorphic bunny and I can never tell what sex a rabbit is so this transition isn't going to affect me at all.

Kidding! Now I am gonna totally want to hit that.

[AbbaRabbit]

Posted: 9/17/09 at 6:44pm

HA! if you *really* want detailed step-by-step instructions on how to tell if a rabbit is male or female, i'd be happy to provide you with one XD

rememner, i've been raising rabbits since i was 12!

[Select a Member Name]

Posted: 9/17/09 at 6:52pm

Congrats and welcome back, Paxton!

[The Boy From Ohio]

Posted: 9/17/09 at 6:52pm

Glad your back!

[luvtheEmcee]

Posted: 9/17/09 at 7:10pm

I'm totally late to this thread (I haven't been around as much lately!), but welcome back! I know we've communicated some on Facebook so of course I noticed the change and have been following a bit, but wasn't sure if you wanted attention drawn, since it's of COURSE a huge deal, but at the same time, it's not a big deal because it's just who you are. You know? So I hope you weren't upset by that! I just felt like I should be treating you as the same old you, because... well, you're still you! But anyway, I think you're really courageous to share this with everybody, and I know you've been through a lot, but I'm really glad that you're on the road to finding peace. I'm happy for you!

[AbbaRabbit]

Posted: 9/17/09 at 7:15pm

em, i'm totally glad you just continued treating me the same way. that meant alot to me =]

[TheatreDiva90016]

Posted: 9/17/09 at 8:41pm

But if we find out this is another BWW hoax/thing, we are TOTALLY going to come and find you and kick your @ss.



:P

[AbbaRabbit]

Posted: 9/17/09 at 9:01pm

HAHA

oh btw, i also had a baby prematurly... at a harry potter party! what are the odds!?

[TheatreDiva90016]

Posted: 9/17/09 at 9:08pm

Why do I feel like a dam that was upstream, just broke?

[AbbaRabbit]

Posted: 9/17/09 at 9:26pm

huh? i actually fon't fully understand your post as i've never heard that expression before but...

i was making reference to a poster whos handle i can't remember, but claimed to have a preemie baby at a happy potter book party and was found to be lying.

i'm not lying about being transgender... =/