sane men

[virgil blessing2]

Posted: 7/28/04 at 4:53pm

do sane men actually exist out there to date and have a relationship with? (haven't met one since my first beau back in college. lol.)

even the level-headed appearing ones seem to eventually reveal "severe tire damage". sheesh! this boy here is tired of the flakes. are sane, witty, responsible, relationship-capable men still in existence? lol

[broadwayguy2]

Posted: 7/28/04 at 4:54pm

yes.... I know one or two.. and I claim them as MINE

[virgil blessing2]

Posted: 7/28/04 at 4:57pm

do they KNOW you have claimed them as yours, broadwayguy? LOL

[broadwayguy2]

Posted: 7/28/04 at 4:59pm

yes... some of them do. I just have to make a permanent move (which I am TRYING DEPERATELY to do right now)and select one. LOL.

[midtowngym]

Posted: 7/28/04 at 5:00pm

Each of my five personalities is sane. That way, I can date five different men and be faithful.

[Matt_G]

Posted: 7/28/04 at 5:18pm

Believe it or not, I'm actually very sane.

[CJR]

Posted: 7/28/04 at 5:18pm

Yes Virginia, there is a Santa Claus...

oh, wait, wrong question!

Yes, sane men *do* exist. Unfortunately, I have only met one man who's worthy of being called 'a keeper' in the past 5 years.

All the men I meet are either in love with themselves/or car, or looking for a token girlfriend. And by that I mean, they're SO good looking and they know it, and they're looking to date a girl who's equally as good looking so that when they walk in a room together everyone will turn around and comment on what a good looking couple they are. It's exasperating, I tell you. I'm sick to death of meeting men like that.

[midtowngym]

Posted: 7/28/04 at 5:21pm

Come to some of my hangouts. There are NEVER men there looking for girlfriends.

[CJR]

Posted: 7/28/04 at 5:30pm

I think you're missing my point midtowngym lol

I *do* want to be involved. I just don't want it to be a man who's only looking for a token girlfriend, or who's completely in love with his looks or his car. Been there, done that. I'm not in High School anymore (haven't been for years) and I've gotten quite tired of that game. Most other times, the only men who hit on me are 60 years old, and who under the heading of token girlfriend, are looking for a cute young thing to have on their arm when they go out. Meh. I ain't interested.

I'm looking for a guy who's sweet, caring, considerate, kind... One who finds me beautiful and attractive and treats me as if I'm the most special thing in the world to him. A good looking man who takes care of himself and his body, but is humble at the same time and not in love with his reflection. Someone who will make it clear when we're somewhere that I'm with him and isn't going to sit there in front of me and blatantly hit on another woman.

God I feel like I just wrote a personal ad lol

Anyway, yeah, I've met one guy in the past 5 years like that... and unfortunately for me, we're not involved. It would figure, right? Murphy's Law.

[robbiej]

Posted: 7/28/04 at 5:30pm

Because most women are the picture of sanity.

Please.

[CJR]

Posted: 7/28/04 at 5:34pm

Okay, fine. The deal is NOBODY is the picture of sanity. This thread isn't a blatant attack on men, it's just stating the obvious: it's very difficult to find a good, kind and decent man.... at least here it is.

[midtowngym]

Posted: 7/28/04 at 5:37pm

The only straight man i personally know is my brother, and when his divorce papers were signed he said to me "I feel like the Pussy Wagon just rode up to my front door." He's available :) He's not too carried away with his looks, but he's also 250 pounds. I'm not helping much, am I...

[robbiej]

Posted: 7/28/04 at 5:40pm

No...the point of the thread should be it's difficult to find a good, strong, lasting relationship.

[CJR]

Posted: 7/28/04 at 5:49pm

Before you can have a long lasting relationship you need to find a sane man/woman.

[robbiej]

Posted: 7/28/04 at 5:50pm

Not necessarily.

I know plenty of couples where both are completely cuckoo. However, they somehow complement each other, so it works!

[StickToPriest]

Posted: 7/28/04 at 5:51pm

I, for one, could be the poster-boy for antisanity.

[Unknown User]

Posted: 7/28/04 at 5:55pm

LOL Robbie My impression of a relationship is that the interaction with each other will help you learn things you wouldn't learn alone - maybe they need your involvement to get past the barriers you're annoyed by - or vice-versa.

[CJR]

Posted: 7/28/04 at 5:56pm

Wouldn't that make you the poster boy for insanity? lol

Yes, if both people are completely insane, it seems to work. But for however out of it I can be at times, I am a thousand times more sane and mature than most men I meet.

Why can't I find one other man who's on the same wavelength I am?

[Mister Matt]

Posted: 7/28/04 at 5:59pm

"do sane men actually exist out there to date and have a relationship with?"

No. Myself included. Just because they're not sane, doesn't mean they're not loveable.

[papalovesmambo]

Posted: 7/28/04 at 6:00pm

this thread reminds me of an answer a friend once gave me.

i had just gone through a big ol' trauma and was thinking about therapy and asked a friend of mine who had been in and out of therapy most of his life what it was like. the following was his reply:

"well, i can't tell you exactly what you might get out of it, but this is basically what i've found. you go into a therapist and ask, 'i want to know why i keep dating psychotic women' and the therapist looks at you and asks, 'why do you hate your mother?' so that takes like 2 years minimum and then it's on to the rest of your family. by the time you get around to dealing with your original question you've married some stark raving lunatic and have three kids."

[CJR]

Posted: 7/28/04 at 6:06pm

No. Myself included. Just because they're not sane, doesn't mean they're not loveable.

Very true.

[boborunstheshow]

Posted: 7/28/04 at 6:07pm

i think that its far more likely to find a guy like you all are describing if you throw looks out the window. If someone hasn't been accepted by their looks alone, then they have to work on another attribute. Thats how humans do it. If they are weak in one aspect, they are strong in another.
My friend is chubby and unwitty and didn't have much sucess with women at all. So he regrouped and developed a really charming personality that the right kinda ladies adore. Its the way the world works.

[CJR]

Posted: 7/28/04 at 6:19pm

You make it sound like we're all looking for a Calvin Klein underwear model. We're not.... well, at least I'm not. I'm not going out looking for a drop dead gorgeous man, but attraction is a definite must. If I'm going to be seriously involved with a man, I need to be attracted to him. The man I was referring to in my earlier posts is, in addition to all the things I mentioned, absolutely gorgeous. And I'm the first to admit that the chances of finding another man like that are very, very slim.

I have a criteria for men.... it's nothing horrible or outrageous, just certain things I tend to look for in a man, in both his looks and personality.

You have to know what you're looking for/what will make you happy.

Updated On: 7/28/04 at 06:19 PM

[bythesword84]

Posted: 7/28/04 at 6:31pm

I think sanity is over rated. Besides, usually its those who appear sane at first that end up being the most insane at the end.

[Unknown User]

Posted: 7/28/04 at 6:34pm

CJR - with all due respect, you make men sound like a commodity that is 'out of stock' of the particular size and shape you're looking for. I know quite a few men that are wonderful, happy, productive, centered and balanced human beings - I guess I would ask where and how you're 'looking' for these men? Which might be the problem in and of itself - this isn't really something you can 'look for' - it happens when it is meant to, because you are ready for it.