A Rumble on the Message Boards

David,

While I agree with what you write in your post, unfortunately there are those that are always going to be "a fly in the ointment" and posts such as yours only encourage their bashing etc. It's best just to ignore them.

actually, the attacks here havent been THAT bad... when you compare this board to the old bway.com board...now THAT was bad. I know I have been involved in 2 or 3 little things on this board but everyone seems to have calmed down now and agree to PMing instead of a board display..so dont worry. There is a great group of people here. And if it makes ya feel better hehe I love you davidmegg =D

Updated On: 8/24/03 at 11:17 AM

Can somebody please explain to me when a comment is an "attack?" When is a well argued counter-point "bashing?" When is a disagreement "instigating trouble?" It's really about who is posting the counterpoints, isn't it Broadwayguy? When you make less-than-flattering comments about other posters or performers it's just you making a comment and nothing more and it's really just an opinion and this board is about opinions, right? So move on!

However, when it is one of the 4 or 5 people you have handpicked to label instigators, it is all much worse and more nefarious when they do the exact same thing. Why is that?

I would seriously like an answer to these questions, from both Broadwayguy and other people. It does seem as if there is a tendency around here to cry "you're being mean!" when somebody makes a well-argued point that refutes something the people getting upset have said they believed. Why is that?

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Whyc an't we all just be nice and agree with everyboyd else?

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Don't you see, Namo? Rob created the board, I repeat, to gather friendly theatergoers to discuss various topics. A survey should be answered, not made fun of, because it insults the originator of the survey, and things like this happen, where a whole thread is wasted on the negative attitudes of some people in the forum. I'm not saying you have to be overly nice and polite to people; I'm simply saying if you have nothing nice to say, don't say it! And if you insist on posting your opinion, at least make it SOUND nice, although I understand that's never your intention.

Namo, give it a rest.
Why are you making this personal? I'm not going on but I don't know why so much negative energy is expunged here.

Oy. Everyone go to their rooms now.

This is a message board, not everyone is going to agree and not everyone is going to get along. ESPECIALLY when you have kids as young as 12 and 13 posting here, and adults ages 40 and over... as well as ages inbetween.

Everyone take a valium, relax and have a drink... as a matter of fact, I'm on my way out for a drink at the moment -- but that is besides the point.

Chill

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Namo- broadwayguy has never said anything rude to me, personally. That's the point I'm trying to make! If it doesn't apply to me, I don't butt in! Just like the survey obviously doesn't apply to you- than you shouldn't but in! If broadwayguy insults other people, which I rarely see happen anyway, it's none of my business. But if a poster calls me and the other young posters "kiddies" I have a right to defend myself and them, and tell them that we are not kids, we are tennagers interested in theater! If certain threads don't pertain to you, what right to you have to respond rudely just because you don't agree with the conversation? And let me explain why I think this thread is wasted- because we could be talking about theater,which is what this board is for, and things that matter instead of fighting like this because of the negativity of some people, who try to bring others down.

Just so we're clear, a comment is just a comment unless it is about us and by somebody we don't "like?" Good. Okay. Well.

Again Billy, surveys "pertain" to everybody who reads them.

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Excuse Me- I stand corrected. This is not a wasted thread- it's more like me wasting my time. But as much as I feel I am wasting time, I'm still going to post back until I answer all of your questions. Finding Namo is free to disagree, just not rudely. Let him disagree all he wants- I do it all the time, but I don't insult people in the process. And I didn't mean that Finding Namo shouldn't read the survey- he has every right to- he just doesnt have the right to insult and bring down everyone else who previously responded. At least that's the way I feel.
Oh, and I don't presume to know why Rob started the board. But based on what I know of Rob, he didn't create the board for people to fight like this.

Officer Krupke - I'm down on my knees...

that song will ring in my head all afternoon

There's a board for us
Somewhere a message board for us
Polite people will post on it
No more bi**ching and childish sh*t

Somewhere, somwhere
We'll stick to theater news
We'll tolerate different views
Somewhere

Couln't help it. It's all the WSS refrences.
Anyway, I've visited message boards on other foprums for diffrent topics and the on ething that every single one of them has in common is that people cannot tolerate anyone disgareeing with their opinion. No matter how you put it, if you disagree with me, you are personally insulting and attacking me.

Message boards are a gathering place for people with fragile egos who are looking to connect with the world. sometimes these epople come right out and blatantly attack. Sometimes they post messages of "I'm only trying to make this board a better place by pointing out what a jerk you are" or "let me teach you how to accept other people's critism so that we can start arguing over me lecturing you".
No matter what you say or do, it's always going to come up, it's always going to be there. Why is this such a surprise to people? Have you really not seen this on every other site you visit? You can't change the behavior no matter how much you lecture and the more you lecture, the more you participate in it yourself.

If you haven't gotten used it yet and learned to ignore it and move on, you should. Don't you have better ways to spend your time tahn trying to change the behavior of a total stranger on an internet message board?

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