Actors can't willy-nilly take time off...just like the rest of us, they have a certain number of sick days. So yes, you should be able to expect them.
The t-shirts are pretty standard sizes, so it shouldn't be a problem (Although I feel the women's sizes run small)...but feel free to hold up the t shirt up to yourself and take time to decide. You'd have to ask them about exchanges, but I've never heard it happen.
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