Jordan-
I've always respected your opinions on the board, and continue to do so. I just completely disagree with you on this one.
Just because something is a reality doesn't mean it's mutally exclusive with being a cliche when used in a play, film, etc. There can be cliched plays about the Holocaust, racism, war, or any other serious subject. Just because a playwright has good intentions doesn't mean piece has to be good.
You're right that the reality is many gay partners have trouble seeing their loved ones in the ER. The problem is this issue has been brought up so many times now in gay-themed mediums that it appears to be more of soap box cliche meant to preach to the choir.
It's been a while since I've watched it, but I believe in the pilot episode of Queer As Folk there is a scene where Melanie is denied access to visit Lindsay in the ER. That was in 2000, and I'm sure it wasn't the first time this was brought up. For me, after a decade seeing this brought up everytime gay characters come in contact with a hospital makes it a cliche and insults the actual problem.
I couldn't help but think of a different gay-themed play that (spoiler) ends a hospital: Falsettos. I know it was written in a different time, that show doesn't fall into any of these cliched pitfalls. In fact, for a show about a man dying of AIDS, the musical never mentions the term once!
A friend of mine who was there last night too was texting me after the show saying he thought the play had flaws and his friend thought it was a shallow script, but despite this he thought it was important that a show like this was being staged. I very much disagree with this sentiment. There are much better gay pieces of theater that could be shown to a wider audience. I actually feel insulted that as a gay man I should support anything gay-themed that's packaged for mass consumption.
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