I think that the majority of the actors and actresses truly are happy to have fans waiting at the stagedoor. When they leave the stagedoor and no one is there THEN they should worry about it.
Having met many of the actors and actresses at the stagedoor 99% of them have been very gracious.
THE BEST:
LINDA EDER (Who during a cold snap stood outside with us for 20 minutes while waiting for her car service to show)
DEBRA MONK (Who gave me the biggest hug when I told her my drag persona is taken from her Steel Pier charactor)
BRIAN STOKES MITCHELL (who let me hold his dog after a performance of Ragtime)
PETULA CLARK (who made me cry in a good way when I met her after Sunset Boulevard and hugged me and patted my back and then handed me a klennex so I could wipe my tears so I would not be red eyed for our picture together)
SIERRA BOGGESS (who made my partner's day when it was his birthday and we saw the show and she signed a picture saying Happy Birthday to My Prince Mark... Eric Who? Love Sierra)
THE WHOLE CAST OF WITCHES OF EASTWICK (who literally hung out with us after the show to talk about it... there were like 10 of us and we chatted for about an hour)
"Whenever I get gloomy with the state of the world, I think about the arrivals gate at Heathrow Airport. General opinion's starting to make out that we live in a world of hatred and greed, but I don't see that. It seems to me that love is everywhere. Often it's not particularly dignified or newsworthy, but it's always there - fathers and sons, mothers and daughters, husbands and wives, boyfriends, girlfriends, old friends. When the planes hit the Twin Towers, as far as I know none of the phone calls from the people on board were messages of hate or revenge - they were all messages of love. If you look for it, I've got a sneaky feeling you'll find that love actually is all around."