Debra actually walked away from Hollywood when she had millions. She married, bought her house and raised her family away from the spotlight. If you have a chance watch the documentary "Searching For Debra Winger." Debra had enough of studios dissecting her age, looks, weight,"f@#kability" and box office draw. She chose real life. After the 80s and 90s she never had to work again and only chooses projects she is passionate about. I deeply respect her. She hates the Hollywood game but loves acting. She's gorgeous in person-you can tell she takes care of herself and is very grounded.
LuPone and Winger were friendly but short at the stage door. They come out once their cars arrive and they don't dilly dally.
As far as her reputation, I think it might be attributed to the fact that she has opinions.
"The sexual energy between the mother and son really concerns me!"-random woman behind me at Next to Normal
"I want to meet him after and bang him!"-random woman who exposed her breasts at Rock of Ages, referring to James Carpinello