Gifts to send actors- Page 5

[emmadny]

Posted: 1/20/08 at 2:22pm

I'm not coming to buy them a palace, only one letter or congratulations for their spectacular work in theatre.......

[PotO2]

Posted: 1/20/08 at 2:28pm

@Jane

I think it's just because some want to thank the actors for their work and show that they are appreciated. Sure, they could just buy a ticket to the show and clap really loudly, but some want to do more than that.

I'm not saying it's right, but that's what some people do.

[Marianne]

Posted: 1/20/08 at 2:29pm

Anyway, small gag gifts or something that looks like it didn't cost you $100 or take you a whole week to put together can be non creepy. I guess it depends on the delivery of the gift. If you're all like, (in a creepy voice) 'Hey there so and so, look I got you a gift!' (and I want you to open it so I can watch your reaction)' then yeah, that would be a mistake. But if it's something cute and if you're nonchalant about it then I don't see why it can't just be a nice gesture and I'm sure some people out there do appreciate it.

Yeah. I gave Aaron Lazar one of thesehttp://www.philosophersguild.com/index.lasso?page_mode=Product_Detail&item=0011">these on his last day of Les Mis, and he just laughed and asked where the hell I found it. Little things like that aren't necessarily creepy, it all depends on delivery. (And in this case it was "Here, just in case you need to get your Enjolras on after you leave the show," not "I saw this on my trip to Paris last month and THOUGHT OF YOU and I've been saving it for you all this time.")

[Jane2]

Posted: 1/20/08 at 2:48pm

Poto-Well, I've been in theater management for about 9 years, and learned about the business from both sides. it's well known to everyone the fears that actors have about stalkers and/or rabid fans. We all have heard the horror stories. I myself was in the position of protecting actors from serious and dangerous stalkers.

Of course, not every fan is a stalker, but actors don't want to take the chance. Actors love fans, we know that, but when a gift is sent from an unkown fan, even a fan whom they may have met a few times, they have no idea what the motive is. It very well may be a tainted gift. Why should they take the chance? They throw them out. If they know who those gifts are from, they may hold those fans in suspect from then on. That's all I'm saying-if you're a fan, stay a fan but don't use gifts as a way of making yourself more than a fan. Take it for what it's worth.

If you are truly a friend of an actor, well, this thread isn't apropos.

[Jane2]

Posted: 1/20/08 at 2:51pm

"'m not coming to buy them a palace, only one letter or congratulations for their spectacular work in theatre."

Cool, send a letter or card! And give ME the palace!

[bluetuna]

Posted: 1/20/08 at 5:48pm

Imagine yourself in the actor's position, and think of what would make you feel uncomfortable, especially from someone who is a stranger yet feels obligates to buy you presents.