Average age for gay marriage
Average age for gay marriage
touchmeinthemorning
Broadway Legend Joined: 9/3/04
#0Average age for gay marriage
Posted: 11/18/05 at 11:39am
How old do you think the average gay man is when he finds his life partner? How about the average lesbian?
The news today mentioned a study that says the best time to get married and be happy in your marriage is between the ages of 23 and 27. Do you think that holds true for GLBT folks?
#1re: Average age for gay marriage
Posted: 11/18/05 at 11:40amIt may start changing in the future- it seems that kids are coming out earlier and earlier. But as of now, if i were pressed to guess an age, I'd say not until late 30s into 40s. That's just my guess, though.
#2re: Average age for gay marriage
Posted: 11/18/05 at 11:40amOh God I hope not!!!
#3re: Average age for gay marriage
Posted: 11/18/05 at 11:41amAnyway, how on earth does a 23 year old know what he/she wants, enough to get married? That's WAY too young, gay or straight.
#5re: Average age for gay marriage
Posted: 11/18/05 at 11:42amCheno, my best friend was that age when she got married - almost 25 years ago - and she and her husband are the happiest couple I know.
#6re: Average age for gay marriage
Posted: 11/18/05 at 11:44am
Really? Interesting.
Speaking for myself, I was completely lost at 23. However, I'd be ready for marriage today if I found the right person, at age 30.
#7re: Average age for gay marriage
Posted: 11/18/05 at 11:46amDepending on the timing of the onset of the coming-out process, many gay people, especially men, experience a second adolescence. This can delay that 23-27 period for anywhere from 3-5 to 10-15 years, depending on the strength of their need for nesting.
#8re: Average age for gay marriage
Posted: 11/18/05 at 11:47am**changes personal ad to start looking for 23-27 year olds**
PED
#9re: Average age for gay marriage
Posted: 11/18/05 at 11:47amMe too, Cheno! She and I are VERY different people!
WindyCityActor
Broadway Legend Joined: 11/13/03
#10re: Average age for gay marriage
Posted: 11/18/05 at 11:48amI was 31 when I entered my relationship.....but I only came out 5 years earlier.
#11re: Average age for gay marriage
Posted: 11/18/05 at 11:49am
somms: "double the age"
does that mean two 23-year-olds, somms?
PED
touchmeinthemorning
Broadway Legend Joined: 9/3/04
#12re: Average age for gay marriage
Posted: 11/18/05 at 11:50am
Well, as someone who went to a private Christian high school and university, I should mention that almost all of my friends married between the ages of 21 and 25. And they are all happily married. Except for my best friend, who married a gay man...despite my protest.
Then again, the motto on our college campus was "ring by spring or your money back."
#14re: Average age for gay marriage
Posted: 11/18/05 at 1:03pm
Show-off!
I got into a long term relationship when I was 24. It lasted 11 years. Looking back, I so wasn't ready for that. I'm 37 now (almost 38 ), and not sure I'm ready for it YET myself.
Experience is what you get when you didn't get what you wanted. - Randy Pausch
MargoChanning
Broadway Legend Joined: 4/5/04
#15re: Average age for gay marriage
Posted: 11/18/05 at 1:55pm
Two of my best friends got married last year at 30 and 38, so I guess there's hope for some after 27.
I myself am skidding towards the grave solo ...........
Plum
Broadway Legend Joined: 3/4/04
#16re: Average age for gay marriage
Posted: 11/18/05 at 1:59pmLook, people have been getting married, often happily, in their early twenties for years. Some people probably shouldn't be driving a car, let alone starting a family, at age 22, but I think generalizing about it isn't very useful.
#17re: Average age for gay marriage
Posted: 11/18/05 at 2:00pm
I locked into an LTR when I was 21, about a year after I came out (for the final time). We made it three years, only about one of those actually living together.
Since then, I haven't lasted more than two months with anyone. Most of the time they ended by my choice. I'm like Jerry Seinfeld -- I see a guy eating his peas one at a time and use that as a reason to call it off.
I'm now 27, so I guess I become one of the untouchables next year. Should I break out the Carpenters albums now to save time?
#18re: Average age for gay marriage
Posted: 11/18/05 at 2:00pm
My mom was 21 and my dad 17 when they got married.
They celebrate their 50th Anniversary in June.
Experience is what you get when you didn't get what you wanted. - Randy Pausch
#19re: Average age for gay marriage
Posted: 11/18/05 at 2:06pm
One cannot generalize human interaction...my mother was married to my stepfather when she was 22, and they're celebrating 21 years next month. I've been out since very early adolescence, and had the typical teenage dating experience, befitting of my white trash roots (super-serious at sixteen, that sort of thing), and have been in one long-term (2+ years) cohabitative relationship, and in retrospect, it was a HORRIBLE idea, but I'm SURE that somewhere there is a 22 year old who is perfectly ready, and that there is a 42 year old who will *never* be ready.
You can't put an "average age" on ANYBODY'S marriage, not just gays. Human relationships are human relationships, no matter who's in them, and the variables are too great to make any kind of sweeping pronouncement.
#20re: Average age for gay marriage
Posted: 11/18/05 at 2:13pmI was 20 when I got married. So far so good.
#21re: Average age for gay marriage
Posted: 11/18/05 at 2:14pmYou go, girl.
#22re: Average age for gay marriage
Posted: 11/18/05 at 2:15pmFinally I can says this: Margo, you're maudlin and full of self-pity. You're magnificent!
#23re: Average age for gay marriage
Posted: 11/18/05 at 2:18pmWhatever happened to George Sanders? I'm assuming he's dead, but how and when?
MargoChanning
Broadway Legend Joined: 4/5/04
#24re: Average age for gay marriage
Posted: 11/18/05 at 2:21pmHe committed suicide back in the 70s. He was also maudlin and full of self-pity.
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