Being friends with a Broadway actor/actress

[winston89]

Posted: 12/24/07 at 10:24pm

My friend and I were having a debate about something.

He was saying that there should be a strict line between audience member and actor and that should NEVER be crossed ever. And that any and all social interaction should start and end at the stage door.

My rebuttle with this was asking him if he met someone in the park or somewhere and they hit it off if he would have any problem getting contact info and continuing the communication. Of course he said he would have no problem to doing this.

I recently had a backstage tour of Phantom. The person who was giving me the tour was a cast members. I knew her because I seen the show before and met her at the stage door ect. After doing this for a while and after us stopping ad chatting for a while after each show I asked her if I could get a bacstage tour for my birthday. She said yes. After the tour was over I was giving her a thank you card. While I was reaching into my picket to get the card she had her arms open. When I gave her the card I did return the hug she wanted to give me.

That being said. If she offered me a hug is that a sign that she consideres me a firend. And not just a typical fan?

Before someone starts to ask why I am even caring ect ect. The reason is because I tend to care and wonder bout the ltte things that don't matter one bit.

[Fantabulous428]

Posted: 12/24/07 at 10:31pm

Do you keep a hug journal, too?

[luvtheEmcee]

Posted: 12/24/07 at 10:43pm

I do! Why, is that not normal?

[sweetestsiren]

Posted: 12/24/07 at 10:45pm

Do you make special note of voluntaries vs. involuntaries?

[winston89]

Posted: 12/24/07 at 10:46pm

Hugging journal No.

But, I do have a journal of the number of smart asses I run into on a daily basis and found two new names to add.

[luvtheEmcee]

Posted: 12/24/07 at 10:53pm

Cool! I want to start one of those, too. I'll put it alongside my super-cool Broadway star hug list.

Updated On: 12/24/07 at 10:53 PM

[blueroses]

Posted: 12/24/07 at 10:59pm

"That being said. If she offered me a hug is that a sign that she consideres me a firend. And not just a typical fan?"

Not at all. I think it means she was being nice to you for your birthday.

[B3TA07]

Posted: 12/24/07 at 11:12pm

"Cool! I want to start one of those, too."

Do I get a full page spread with color photos

[LizzieCurry]

Posted: 12/24/07 at 11:13pm

Do you make special note of voluntaries vs. involuntaries?

And how do you feel about spinach?

[Elphaba]

Posted: 12/25/07 at 12:15am

"He was saying that there should be a strict line between audience member and actor and that should NEVER be crossed ever. And that any and all social interaction should start and end at the stage door."

You have very stupid friends.
Please add me to your smart-ass journal.

[JerseyGirl2]

Posted: 12/25/07 at 12:33am

I told Cher that I had been a fan since birth and she said, "Awwww" and hugged me. Is she my BFF now?

[DBillyP]

Posted: 12/25/07 at 12:43am

Merry Christmas everyone.

[D2]

Posted: 12/25/07 at 12:48am

Until they've sat at your dining room table and you've changed their kid's diaper, they're not your friend.

[JerseyGirl2]

Posted: 12/25/07 at 12:50am

I wouldn't want to change Chastity's diaper.

[Wanna Be A Foster]

Posted: 12/25/07 at 5:14am

ENGLISH!

Updated On: 12/25/07 at 05:14 AM

[best12bars]

Posted: 12/25/07 at 9:44am

There is nothing to indicate from your interaction with this cast member that you are "friends."

But the word "friends" is misused quite a bit. Anyone who treats you friendly? Anyone you've met? An acquaintance?

The way the two of you are interacting is still very much on an audience/fan and actor/performer level. It's very amicable. And I think saying that she was an acquaintance is fair enough.

To me a "friend" is someone you know personally. Meaning that you have spent time with them outside of "work." (She was still at work, in other words.) Someone you confide in, who confides in you. It's a more intimate relationship.

She was "friendly" toward you, and you were "friendly" toward her.

That's not friendship, however. That's two nice people, interacting. With mutual fondness and respect.

I do believe it's possible for two people to have met the way you have, and to become friends. But you're not there yet.

Posted: 12/25/07 at 9:51am

if you get in the same subway car as me, that means you want to do me.

[best12bars]

Posted: 12/25/07 at 9:54am

Well, of course!

I usually go by if you share the same Zip code as me, you're only interested in ONE THING.

[Yankeefan007]

Posted: 12/25/07 at 9:58am

If you know someone personally, you're their friend.

I've gotten hugs from many people whom I had just met -I don't consider them a friend.

[Jane2]

Posted: 12/25/07 at 10:00am

"I usually go by if you share the same Zip code as me, you're only interested in ONE THING."

LOL!

[zepka102]

Posted: 12/25/07 at 2:25pm

I agree, that if you have seen them in their personal life (as in, they want you there... not stalking), then it's safer to consider them friends.


And as long as you don't use it as a bragging point!

[TheatreDiva90016]

Posted: 12/25/07 at 2:28pm

Did she grab your butt when she hugged you?

[SueleenGay]

Posted: 12/25/07 at 3:21pm

Here is the test to see if she is a real friend. Look her in the eye and ask her for her phone number and address.
If she flinches or hesitates she is not a friend. If she says, "Do you have a pen?", she is.

[Phyllis Rogers Stone]

Posted: 12/26/07 at 1:01pm

ETC

[AbbaRabbit]

Posted: 12/26/07 at 1:20pm

i consider both adam rapp and micheal chernus friends.