Being gay sucks sometimes

[alxscrz2]

Being gay sucks sometimes #1

Posted: 11/6/07 at 2:00am

I live in a city that is very homo-phobic. Gay people get jumped or mugged daily, they get made fun of, get weird looks, sometimes if they notice your gay you won't even get hired for a job. So my question is do you sometimes wish you were straight ? It seems like being straight is easier

I love being gay but it can be hard sometimes.

[scott68]

re: Being gay sucks sometimes #2

Posted: 11/6/07 at 2:09am

If you're good at it, being gay sucks a lot of the time!

But seriously, I'd never want to be straight. Being gay is tied into everything else that makes me who I am, and I wouldn't give away a part of myself for anything.

"Why, I make more money than... than... than Calvin Coolidge! PUT TOGETHER!"
~Lina Lamont


My name wasn't, isn't, and will never be Scott.

[mateo]

re: Being gay sucks sometimes #2

Posted: 11/6/07 at 2:44am

I have in the past; not so much anymore.

I try not to let myself be categorized. It's a part of me, but it's not all of me.

Even if I was straight, people would still find something about me they didn't like and use that to break me down.

I can't imagine being anything else than what I am now. God wanted me to be here.

I like being different.

"Zac is sweet as can be. He's very much just a sweet kid from California who happens to have a face that looks like it was drawn by Michelangelo, (if Michelangelo did anime)."
-Adam Shankman.

"I haven't left this building since Windows 3.1!"

"Celebrating a birthday this week: Rene Descartes is 412! Do you know who he is? Then why are you watching this show? You could probably get into college and even get one of those job things. As for the rest of us; Amanda Bynes is 22! Yay!"
-E!'s "The Soup"

[dramarama2]

re: Being gay sucks sometimes #3

Posted: 11/6/07 at 2:58am

I don't mind really being gay, but it wouldn't be my first choice...

A little known fact is that in the original screenplay, Pan's Labyrinth was Pan's FLAByrinth. Hmmmmmmm...glad they changed it.

[DG]

re: Being gay sucks sometimes #4

Posted: 11/6/07 at 3:35am

Move.

[wonderwaiter]

re: Being gay sucks sometimes #5

Posted: 11/6/07 at 3:37am

My sexual orientation is about as important to my overall self esteem as my hair color or shoe size.

About three months ago I was promoted to a new position within my company. I've been "out" since I was 19, and although I've never actively "come out" at this job, I've never gone to any lengths to hide it either. Tonight was the first time anyone even mentioned my sexual orientation, and it was in such a casual way as to be negligible. My employers are looking at the bottom line and as long as I'm delivering, they don't care if I'm straight, gay or Martian.

I live in a fairly Conservative area, but I'm readily accepted into just about any social circle I choose to move in regardless of my socio-economic standing or political beliefs because I'm genuine, I'm honest and I'm fun to be around. Because of these qualities, I count among my friends former homophobes, Republicans, Christians, and all manner of people who aren't supposed to like me. I made a difference in their lives and in their thoughts and that's something they will carry with them, be it to the polls or the church or even the gym. Being real and being honest will carry you farther than you might believe possible.

Being gay has sucked sometimes, but never more than I allowed it to. It all depends on the attitude with which you approach it. It can be a boon or a curse. It's all in what you make of it.

And no one grew into anything new, we just became the worst of what we were."

[SueleenGay]

re: Being gay sucks sometimes #6

Posted: 11/6/07 at 7:07am

Move? Seriously? Yea, "Run, Forrest, RUN!"

If you live is a "city" I am sure there are some groups you can join. A youth center? Unitarian Church?
No use wishing, you will always be gay, so you might as well make the best of it.
Have you personally been bashed or been the victim of discrimination?

PEACE.

[broadwaytourist]

re: Being gay sucks sometimes #7

Posted: 11/6/07 at 7:11am

And see, all this time I've been wishing I was a gay man (I think I am on the inside just a little.) I live in the south, and I know what you are talking about. Good luck and I wish you good friends! They make the world of difference!

[LaurenB]

re: Being gay sucks sometimes #8

Posted: 11/6/07 at 7:23am

Being fill-in-the-blank sucks sometimes.


Actually, being different can suck a lot of the time.

[Ida Noodleman]

re: Being gay sucks sometimes #9

Posted: 11/6/07 at 7:36am

Being different in any way from the general population around you is difficult. More difficult for some, especially when discrimination and violence are possibilities. But wishing to be something other than what you are, when it's beyond your ability to change it, only makes you feel worse. It can make you more alienated. Even if it's hard, you have to to find some pride in who and what you are. Don't let the ignorance of others start to define you.

Find a group that accepts you for the person you are and what you have to have to offer. A circle of support can make a big difference in a world of ignorant, hateful people.

Yes, it's pretty simplistic advice and easier said than done sometimes but, you need to find a way to live your life in a way that makes you happy and be able to say F**k you to everyone who doesn't like it.

What would Tina Yothers do?

[tazber]

re: Being gay sucks sometimes #10

Posted: 11/6/07 at 7:48am

alx,
we love you just the way you are. Any job that won't hire you b/c they think you're gay (how do they know, really?) is a job you don't want anyway. And in regard to the looks people give you, stare right back.
As far as the violence goes, it can be scary. I realize that moving is not an option for you right now so protect yourself, carry pepper spray.
Don't let anyone make you feel less of a person than they are, b/c you're not. In fact you're a better person than most of those homophobes, so F*CK 'em.

....but the world goes 'round

[Unknown User]

re: Being gay sucks sometimes #11

Posted: 11/6/07 at 8:09am

an old comic:

[DG]

re: Being gay sucks sometimes #12

Posted: 11/6/07 at 10:07am

Yes, Sueleen, that's what I said - move. The original post indicated a physically threatening environment, and I would advise anyone to remove themselves from that situation, no matter the cause. It has nothing to do with them feeling 'outside' the norm - I was responding solely to what was presented as unsafe.

If that wasn't that big a deal to the original poster, you or everyone else, then it really doesn't matter.

[folkyboy]

re: Being gay sucks sometimes #13

Posted: 11/6/07 at 12:05pm

i used to live in a REAL small town in Arkansas and i hated it. i used to wish i was straight but not for the reasons you're mentioning.

i wished i was straight because all the guys in Arkansas are UGLY and i couldn't take being celibate anymore.

now i live in Boston and am a humping fool!
Updated On: 11/6/07 at 12:05 PM

[doodlenyc]

re: Being gay sucks sometimes #14

Posted: 11/6/07 at 12:07pm

"I wish you'd grow a weenie"

So great, norn...you are very talented...reminded me of Lynda Barry.

"Carson has combined his passion for helping children with his love for one of Cincinnati's favorite past times - cornhole - to create a unique and exciting event perfect for a corporate outing, entertaining clients or family fun."

"In Oz, the verb is douchifizzation." PRS

[RetroBoy]

re: Being gay sucks sometimes #15

Posted: 11/6/07 at 12:10pm

norn that cartoon was priceless!

[nealb1]

re: Being gay sucks sometimes #16

Posted: 11/6/07 at 1:12pm

Folklyboy........you say you're a humping fool.......oh, dear.... Not sure if we want a visual on that. Ha, ha..

Back to the original poster on this thread, sorry to hear that you're experiencing what you're going through. Do I wish that I were straight? I suppose growing up I did think that way......wanting to be like everyone else.

To me, I suppose the older and wiser you get, and with all one's life experiences, you realize that someone's sexual orientation tells you absolutely nothing about that person.......NOTHING! It doesn't tell you if they are a good person.....a kind person......a person with morals, etc. Who cares if someone is gay or straight? What difference does it matter? What matters is if they are a nice person.

There are many gay people who feel the need to constantly throw their "gayness" in everyone's face. I suppose that comes from some type of insecurity. I personally, find that very immature and offensive when people throw it in everyone's face........look at me...look at me. You can't visit your problems onto other people.

Alxscrz2, we like you just the way you are!


Updated On: 11/6/07 at 01:12 PM

[Jonny boy]

re: Being gay sucks sometimes #17

Posted: 11/6/07 at 2:38pm

I was raised Mormon so growing up I always wished I was straight.... but once I matured a bit and met other gay people it made me feel more comfortable in my skin. Now ... you couldn't pay me to be straight!

[StickToPriest]

re: Being gay sucks sometimes #18

Posted: 11/6/07 at 5:22pm

It's not that easy being green
Having to spend each day the color of the leaves
When I think it could be nicer being red, or yellow or gold
Or something much more colorful like that

It's not easy being green
It seems you blend in with so many other ordinary things
And people tend to pass you over 'cause you're
Not standing out like flashy sparkles in the water
Or stars in the sky

But green's the color of Spring
And green can be cool and friendly-like
And green can be big like an ocean,
or important ike a mountain,
or tall like a tree,

When green is all there is to be
It could make you wonder why, but why wonder why
Wonder, I am green and it'll do fine, it's beautiful
And I think it's what I want to be

"One no longer loves one's insight enough once one communicates it."

The opposite of creation isn't war, it's stagnation.

[robbiej]

re: Being gay sucks sometimes #19

Posted: 11/6/07 at 5:24pm

Oh, Priest. Audra's version makes me cry every time.

"I'm so looking forward to a time when all the Reagan Democrats are dead."

[StickToPriest]

re: Being gay sucks sometimes #20

Posted: 11/6/07 at 5:26pm

Me. Too.

"One no longer loves one's insight enough once one communicates it."

The opposite of creation isn't war, it's stagnation.

[robbiej]

re: Being gay sucks sometimes #21

Posted: 11/6/07 at 5:27pm

I got to see her do it live last year during her American Songbook concert. At least, I think she did. I was crying through most of it...so who the hell knows.

I think she also sang EDLEWEISS (sp??) once. I cried at that too...but then I cried at everything at THAT concert as well.

I need help.

"I'm so looking forward to a time when all the Reagan Democrats are dead."

[Pippin]

re: Being gay sucks sometimes #22

Posted: 11/6/07 at 5:28pm

Me too. everytime she speaks "it's beautiful" pause......." I think it's......what I wanna be".

where are my tissues, damnit!!!

"I'm an American, Damnit!!! And if it's three things I don't believe in, it's quitting and math."

Updated On: 11/6/07 at 05:28 PM

[Phyllis Rogers Stone]

re: Being gay sucks sometimes #23

Posted: 11/6/07 at 5:28pm

You wouldn't cry so much if you weren't gay.

[CapnHook]

re: Being gay sucks sometimes #24

Posted: 11/6/07 at 6:11pm

Well, YOU chose to be that way, so you brought it upon yourself!!

"The Spectacle has, indeed, an emotional attraction of its own, but, of all the parts, it is the least artistic, and connected least with the art of poetry. For the power of Tragedy, we may be sure, is felt even apart from representation and actors. Besides, the production of spectacular effects depends more on the art of the stage machinist than on that of the poet."
--Aristotle