Boyfriend issues- Page 2

[Jonny boy]

Posted: 3/18/08 at 5:37pm

Thanks guys!! Roy is amazing

[SueleenGay]

Posted: 3/18/08 at 6:11pm

Who doesn't love Roy?

[Unknown User]

Posted: 3/18/08 at 6:21pm

Sigfreid's cat.

[SueleenGay]

Posted: 3/18/08 at 6:28pm

Meow.

[uncageg]

Posted: 3/18/08 at 6:41pm

Roar.

Also, I have been single for about 10 years now. Have no problems with it. Yes, it would be nice to have a partner but haven't found the right person yet. And might never find him. But I am ok with that..until I am in "need", can't get any and go on a shooting spree...and then I don't feel...so bad.

But seriously, I have been much better about being single than I thought I would. I have a few close friends and some acquaintences that I hang with and I just do what I want. All but one guy I have dated in the past 5 years have had some sort of baggage. Not that all guys do, but I just seemed to get the ones with baggage. And not Coach or Gucci. But I can understand wanting a partner while in your 20's. I did. And when my 1st partner and I split I went right into another relationship and ended up moving from Philly to Denver. We were together for 5 years. We split up 6 months after we moved to Denver and I have no clue where he is now. Looking back, I am sorry I jumped right back into a relationship. And at 1st I felt stuck in Denver, but I have been here 15 years now and love it. Although I do want to move back east. Just my thoughts.

Updated On: 3/18/08 at 06:41 PM

[jeniferrenepatricia]

Posted: 3/19/08 at 12:55am

I also love being single. I have been single for 4 years now, and I felt the same way uncageg did at the beginning-I am better at being single then I thought I would be initally. I threw myself into many things- I went back to school, starting choreographing again, took classes at HB Studios and went out a lot with my close friends. I didn't allow myself ant time to dwell on the past or be sad about lost love. It doesn't work for everyone, but it worked well for me. I was with him for 5 years; I would like to tell you to cut your losses, but that is not for me to say. I chose to be single and happy rather than attached and miserable. Isn't happiness worth it?

[vbplayer]

Posted: 3/19/08 at 2:22am

Wow. I love BWW when someone gets a response like this to (clearly) a serious post. Well most responses anyway. My partner and I will hit 19 years on the 23rd. I was lucky. Both NEG.

I wish you the same love.

[lildogs]

Posted: 3/19/08 at 10:07am

Hm...Jonny boy...we sound like we're alot alike...

I think your bf might also feel a great deal of guilt about leaving you, not wanting to seem callous or unfeeling, but that's where you're headed.

If he isn't having ANY sexual contact with you, something is wrong.

I was in a similar situation with a bf that I loved, knew was a great catch, treated me like gold, and I couldn't have been more wrong for him. Now he's in Indiana with a new guy and they seem very happy...cause lord knows I AM NOT moving to Indiana.

BELIEVE ME--I know how horrible you feel...but I think in the long run, you'll both be happier if you separate.

Try a trial separation...see if it makes any difference...that way you can always come back together again if you decide that's best.

[munkustrap178]

Posted: 3/19/08 at 3:10pm

If he's getting annoyed whenever you discuss your feelings about the relationship, he's just not worth your time anymore. His not wanting to discuss it is essentially the same as not caring.

When you've been in a relationship for that long from such a young age, it's easy to fall into a rut and not know how to get out. Perhaps he's acting so indifferent towards your feelings because he doesn't want to say what he actually feels, because he know it will hurt you.

Next time you sit down to talk to him, which I hope is soon, say to him "Look - I can't do this anymore. Tell me what you're feeling - even if it hurts me - it hurts more not knowing. If you don't talk about this and acknowledge that something is wrong, then I'm afraid we've reached the end of our road."

Threaten to break up with him in a kind way. If he really wants to fix things and if he's really worth keeping around, you'll see a surge of emotion from him at that time. If not, then, as other said - he's just not that into you.

Good luck. These things are you difficult.

[DG]

Posted: 3/19/08 at 3:14pm

"His not wanting to discuss it is essentially the same as not caring."

Can't say I agree with that statement. Fear and uncertainty are amazing things.