Can Anyone Make Sense Of This Occurrence?
Can Anyone Make Sense Of This Occurrence?
Can Anyone Make Sense Of This Occurrence?#1
Posted: 12/6/08 at 7:38pm
A weird thing happened to me the other day, and I thought I'd post it on here and see if anyone can make heads or tails of it. Question-- Is this guy fishing for compliments, suffering from an eating disorder, a victim of dangerously low self-esteem, someone who's just lost a vast amount of weight, or something else bizarre?
So, here's what happened:
Me: (Accidentally bumps into an Extremely Good-Looking Guy.)
Extremely Good-Looking Guy: Oh, I'm sorry. I'm fat.
Me: WHAT? (Stares at Extremely Good-Looking Guy. He is not remotely fat in the slightest. He is, in fact, Extremely Good-Looking.)
Extremely Good-Looking Guy: I said, I'm sorry, I'm fat. (Looks terribly, terribly sad.)
Me: No you're not! You're not fat at all!
Extremely Good-Looking Guy: Yes, I am. I weigh like 175.
Me: Well, it's probably all just, like, mooscular-ness. (Keep in mind that I have never spoken to this guy before in my life).
Extremely Good-Looking Guy: No. No, it's not.
Me: (Feeling horribly awkward) Well... you look good.
Extremely Good-Looking Guy: (Looking astonished) What?
Me: You're a good-looking guy. You look great, I think.
Extremely Good-Looking Guy: (As if I told him I was the Easter Bunny) REALLY???
Me: (INCREDIBLY awkward, starting to blush) Uh... yeah...
Extremely Good-Looking Guy: What's your name?
Me: [REAL NAME]
Extremely Good-Looking Guy: You're beautiful. (Disappears into the crowd.)
Broadway Star Joined: 8/19/08
re: Can Anyone Make Sense Of This Occurrence?#2
Posted: 12/6/08 at 7:54pm
I would LOVE to be you haha.
If he was fishing for compliments he hid the fact very well, but it sounds like a low self-esteem thing to me.
re: Can Anyone Make Sense Of This Occurrence?#2
Posted: 12/6/08 at 8:00pmYeah, I think it's just low self-esteem.
re: Can Anyone Make Sense Of This Occurrence?#3
Posted: 12/6/08 at 8:08pm
Yeah, that's what I thought... it just seemed so weird, though. Because... he was a really extraorinarily attractive guy. I don't know why he'd think he was fat. And he acted like I'd changed his entire outlook on life or something... it was just odd.
Dude, I use way too many "..."s.
re: Can Anyone Make Sense Of This Occurrence?#4
Posted: 12/6/08 at 8:15pm
Body Dysmoprhic Disorder?
MAYO CLINIC DEFINITION
Body dysmorphic disorder is a type of chronic mental illness in which you can't stop thinking about a flaw with your appearance — a flaw either that is minor or that you imagine. But to you, your appearance seems so shameful and distressing that you don't want to be seen by anyone. Body dysmorphic disorder has sometimes been called "imagined ugliness."
When you have body dysmorphic disorder, you intensely obsess over your appearance and body image, often for many hours a day. You may seek out numerous cosmetic procedures to try to "fix" your perceived flaws but never are satisfied. Body dysmorphic disorder is also known as dysmorphophobia, or the fear of having a deformity.
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Salve, Salve Regina
Ad te clamamus exsules filii Eva
Ad te suspiramus, gementes et flentes
O clemens O pia
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re: Can Anyone Make Sense Of This Occurrence?#5
Posted: 12/6/08 at 8:21pmNext time, could you just give him my phone number, please?
re: Can Anyone Make Sense Of This Occurrence?#6
Posted: 12/6/08 at 8:23pmAll righty, Diva, but I'm pretty sure he's underage. You up for that?
Broadway Legend Joined: 4/10/04
re: Can Anyone Make Sense Of This Occurrence?#7
Posted: 12/6/08 at 8:33pm
Old enough to train?
Yup.
re: Can Anyone Make Sense Of This Occurrence?#8
Posted: 12/6/08 at 8:37pmWell, okay then! If I run into him again, I'm turning him over to you. He'd probably do anything for anyone who told him he wasn't fat. (It's okay, he wouldn't be of much use to me; I wasn't getting a straight vibe from him.)
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re: Can Anyone Make Sense Of This Occurrence?#9
Posted: 12/6/08 at 8:43pm
Diva, didn't you get enough of your younger guy fix in Ogunquit? 
Anyway, the guy in question more than likely had low self esteem. Or, could possibly suffer from Body Dysmoprhic Disorder, as SM2 suggested.
"Yes, the brutalities of progress are called revolutions. When they are over, men recognize that the human race has been harshly treated but it has moved forward." - Les Miserables
re: Can Anyone Make Sense Of This Occurrence?#10
Posted: 12/6/08 at 8:56pmSchmerg, I love your posts more than anything in the world. Even more than I love rocky road ice cream, which is a whole helluva lot. :]
Broadway Legend Joined: 4/10/04
re: Can Anyone Make Sense Of This Occurrence?#11
Posted: 12/6/08 at 9:09pm
PM,
How DARE you mention the fact that all the boys in Maine called me an old man.
Oh, wait, you didn't bring that up.
Never mind.
re: Can Anyone Make Sense Of This Occurrence?#12
Posted: 12/6/08 at 9:12pmThey don't know what they're missin', Diva. xD
re: Can Anyone Make Sense Of This Occurrence?#13
Posted: 12/6/08 at 9:15pm
(It's okay, he wouldn't be of much use to me; I wasn't getting a straight vibe from him.)
Guys with low self esteem will often bat for whichever team will give them the most positive reinforcement.
(In related news, how YOU doin'?)
ETA - I was just trying to be funny! I had NO IDEA the OP was under 18. I swear!
Broadway Legend Joined: 10/16/06
re: Can Anyone Make Sense Of This Occurrence?#14
Posted: 12/6/08 at 9:26pm
PM,
How DARE you mention the fact that all the boys in Maine called me an old man.
Oh, wait, you didn't bring that up.
Never mind.
HAHA.
I mean, if I were feeling especially cruel today, I suppose I could have said they all called you an old man... 
"Yes, the brutalities of progress are called revolutions. When they are over, men recognize that the human race has been harshly treated but it has moved forward." - Les Miserables
re: Can Anyone Make Sense Of This Occurrence?#15
Posted: 12/6/08 at 9:32pm
It's okay, once someone asked me if I was my little brother's mom.
He is only two years younger than me. *Bugeyed expression of horror* Either I must be the oldest-looking sixteen-year-old out there, or I look like the type of promiscuous medical miracle that would get pregnant while still in training pants.
re: Can Anyone Make Sense Of This Occurrence?#16
Posted: 12/6/08 at 9:39pm
You know, Schmerg, the youngest mother on record was... *gasp*... freakin' FIVE!!!
"She preferred playing with her dolls rather than her own child"
Vita, dulcedo, et spes nostra
Salve, Salve Regina
Ad te clamamus exsules filii Eva
Ad te suspiramus, gementes et flentes
O clemens O pia
re: Can Anyone Make Sense Of This Occurrence?#17
Posted: 12/6/08 at 9:46pm
HOLY FALLOPIAN TUBES, BATMAN!
SM2, you have information on absolutely everything! If I ever need to write a last-minute paper, I'll know who to PM.
That article was disturbing. The picture of the pregnant girl looked like she was about to topple over forward. I can't imagine the strain on her body.
re: Can Anyone Make Sense Of This Occurrence?#18
Posted: 12/6/08 at 9:50pm... or as my friends like to say, I'm full of useless trivia. :-P
Vita, dulcedo, et spes nostra
Salve, Salve Regina
Ad te clamamus exsules filii Eva
Ad te suspiramus, gementes et flentes
O clemens O pia
re: Can Anyone Make Sense Of This Occurrence?#19
Posted: 12/6/08 at 9:54pm
My friends say the same about me (I was on the gameshow Jeopardy when I was twelve, and they still like bringing it up all the time)... but they don't know that I leech most of my useless facts off of people like you.
I was one o' those precociously smart little brats, but sadly, I peaked around age seven and I'm pretty much exactly the same person I was then, except a lot better-dressed.
re: Can Anyone Make Sense Of This Occurrence?#20
Posted: 12/6/08 at 9:59pm
You were on Jeopardy, Schmerg?! Haha, I love Snopes. Especially the Fauxtography category.
I think I really need to get a life.
*Edited for horrific spelling.
Broadway Legend Joined: 6/19/08
re: Can Anyone Make Sense Of This Occurrence?#21
Posted: 12/7/08 at 10:47am
That article made me throw up in my mouth a little. That poor little girl.
And Schmergie! You were on Jeopardy, huh? That's so cool!
re: Can Anyone Make Sense Of This Occurrence?#22
Posted: 12/7/08 at 11:29am
Schmerg, LOTS of great looking people have low self esteem. Not me, but lots. It's complicated but can have to do with always being noted just for your beauty to the point that you begin to think that beauty is your only value as a person. So any tiny imperfection can be seen as a devastating failure.
My advice is to RUN from relationships with people who have low self esteem. They are needy beyond believe, always wanting positive affirmation that they will never really believe. These people will suck the life out of you because they can't love someone else if they don't love themselves. So the whole relationship becomes about them trying , and failing, to love themselves, with YOU as the unwitting casualty.
As tempting as it is to think you can nurture this hottie into seeing just how hot he really is, that only reaffirms his opinion that his looks are the only important thing about him. The LAST thing he needs is to be convinced that he really is hot.
People with low self esteem usually need to find their self esteem on their own, usually through a series of failed relationships that bring them to some epiphany, from whence they can begin to change. If you want to be one of those painful, failed relationships, jump in.
re: Can Anyone Make Sense Of This Occurrence?#23
Posted: 12/7/08 at 11:38am
"LOTS of great looking people have low self esteem. Not me, but lots"
LOL, did I ever tell you I love you, artscallion?
Broadway Legend Joined: 6/19/08
re: Can Anyone Make Sense Of This Occurrence?#24
Posted: 12/7/08 at 12:47pm
I LOL'ed at that too!
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