Can Anyone Make Sense Of This Occurrence?

A weird thing happened to me the other day, and I thought I'd post it on here and see if anyone can make heads or tails of it. Question-- Is this guy fishing for compliments, suffering from an eating disorder, a victim of dangerously low self-esteem, someone who's just lost a vast amount of weight, or something else bizarre?

So, here's what happened:

Me: (Accidentally bumps into an Extremely Good-Looking Guy.)

Extremely Good-Looking Guy: Oh, I'm sorry. I'm fat.

Me: WHAT? (Stares at Extremely Good-Looking Guy. He is not remotely fat in the slightest. He is, in fact, Extremely Good-Looking.)

Extremely Good-Looking Guy: I said, I'm sorry, I'm fat. (Looks terribly, terribly sad.)

Me: No you're not! You're not fat at all!

Extremely Good-Looking Guy: Yes, I am. I weigh like 175.

Me: Well, it's probably all just, like, mooscular-ness. (Keep in mind that I have never spoken to this guy before in my life).

Extremely Good-Looking Guy: No. No, it's not.

Me: (Feeling horribly awkward) Well... you look good.

Extremely Good-Looking Guy: (Looking astonished) What?

Me: You're a good-looking guy. You look great, I think.

Extremely Good-Looking Guy: (As if I told him I was the Easter Bunny) REALLY???

Me: (INCREDIBLY awkward, starting to blush) Uh... yeah...

Extremely Good-Looking Guy: What's your name?

Me: [REAL NAME]

Extremely Good-Looking Guy: You're beautiful. (Disappears into the crowd.)

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Updated On: 12/6/08 at 07:38 PM

Yeah, I think it's just low self-esteem.

Body Dysmoprhic Disorder?

MAYO CLINIC DEFINITION
Body dysmorphic disorder is a type of chronic mental illness in which you can't stop thinking about a flaw with your appearance — a flaw either that is minor or that you imagine. But to you, your appearance seems so shameful and distressing that you don't want to be seen by anyone. Body dysmorphic disorder has sometimes been called "imagined ugliness."

When you have body dysmorphic disorder, you intensely obsess over your appearance and body image, often for many hours a day. You may seek out numerous cosmetic procedures to try to "fix" your perceived flaws but never are satisfied. Body dysmorphic disorder is also known as dysmorphophobia, or the fear of having a deformity.

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All righty, Diva, but I'm pretty sure he's underage. You up for that?

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Well, okay then! If I run into him again, I'm turning him over to you. He'd probably do anything for anyone who told him he wasn't fat. (It's okay, he wouldn't be of much use to me; I wasn't getting a straight vibe from him.)

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Schmerg, I love your posts more than anything in the world. Even more than I love rocky road ice cream, which is a whole helluva lot. :]

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They don't know what they're missin', Diva. xD

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PM,

How DARE you mention the fact that all the boys in Maine called me an old man.





Oh, wait, you didn't bring that up.


Never mind.



HAHA.



I mean, if I were feeling especially cruel today, I suppose I could have said they all called you an old man...

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You know, Schmerg, the youngest mother on record was... *gasp*... freakin' FIVE!!!

"She preferred playing with her dolls rather than her own child"

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Updated On: 12/6/08 at 09:39 PM

... or as my friends like to say, I'm full of useless trivia. :-P

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You were on Jeopardy, Schmerg?! Haha, I love Snopes. Especially the Fauxtography category.

I think I really need to get a life.

*Edited for horrific spelling.

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Updated On: 12/7/08 at 09:59 PM

Schmerg, LOTS of great looking people have low self esteem. Not me, but lots. It's complicated but can have to do with always being noted just for your beauty to the point that you begin to think that beauty is your only value as a person. So any tiny imperfection can be seen as a devastating failure.

My advice is to RUN from relationships with people who have low self esteem. They are needy beyond believe, always wanting positive affirmation that they will never really believe. These people will suck the life out of you because they can't love someone else if they don't love themselves. So the whole relationship becomes about them trying , and failing, to love themselves, with YOU as the unwitting casualty.

As tempting as it is to think you can nurture this hottie into seeing just how hot he really is, that only reaffirms his opinion that his looks are the only important thing about him. The LAST thing he needs is to be convinced that he really is hot.

People with low self esteem usually need to find their self esteem on their own, usually through a series of failed relationships that bring them to some epiphany, from whence they can begin to change. If you want to be one of those painful, failed relationships, jump in.

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I LOL'ed at that too!

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