Can the adults please smoke? — Page 389

#9701

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Posted: 9/29/04 at 10:54am

DG, I notice two vey important things within your post.
One is the fact that you know that it's nothing you can't move past. The other is an apparent insight you have that allows you to see how your own issues may effect your partner.

Given these two things, I'm sure that whatever the problem is, the two of you can work it out and move beyond it. We always tend to take out our own issues on the people we love and care about the most. It's an awful thing but, it's just human nature. When we're able to be honest enough with ourselves to realize that we're acting unfairly and can express that to our partners, or whomever we've hurt, the issue can be resolved.

From what I see on this board, you're the type of person who is not afraid to do that and therefore will always be able to get beyond whatever issues arise. Things always work out when you can look at yourself objectively and communicate with your partner.

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#9702

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Posted: 9/29/04 at 11:01am

Thx, Boobs

Orion - you're absolutely right, and thank you for the pep talk. We, of course, immediately recognized there are some issues, and have made arrangements to talk when he gets home from school. I just wish in my own little fantasy world that hurt and disappointment weren't things we had to deal with. That's ludicrous, of course, but it just is so awful to know you have induced pain. Perhaps that's just the motivator you need to get off your butt and do what needs to be done.

#9703

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Posted: 9/29/04 at 11:19am

Morning all.....how are all my buddies today? Good I hope. DG-just caught your post...Hope it all works out....I am the KING of hurting someone you love. I learned it from the masters (Thanks family!) I am not proud of that...but we are certainly working out and its totally worth it. Its not easy either. If you ever need a shoulder. Im here! :)

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#9704

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Posted: 9/29/04 at 11:25am

Thx, Bobby, I think we ALL need a shoulder to cry on once in a while

It seems so silly - life doesn't have to be difficult, and yet I can get so bogged down. Fear is an amazing thing, that causes you to stray so much - even from what it is you KNOW you want to do. Is it possible to kick your own self in the butt? I need to try

#9705

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Posted: 9/29/04 at 11:25am

'morning all -- I have been up since "half past stupid" and just got into the office...

DG, sorry to hear how you are feeling, but you are well on the road to working it out....part of life is learning from experiance and moving forward -- the pain now is real, but will soon be replaced by a deeper love and joy!

Glad to here no real horror stories on flooding -- it rained buckets last night == the pump in my basement was working full force, but at least it is dry!

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#9706

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Posted: 9/29/04 at 11:28am

I think it is time for a group hug for DG!

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#9707

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Posted: 9/29/04 at 11:29am

Morning, boys and girls.

Sorry I'm late - I was doing busy doing laundry this morning. Lots of socks and undies...

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#9708

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Posted: 9/29/04 at 11:30am

Im afraid to find out whats going on with my house upstate....Im sure EVERYTHING is wet!

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#9709

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Posted: 9/29/04 at 11:31am

Morning Adgal....all is well this AM I Hope

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#9710

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Posted: 9/29/04 at 11:31am

Hey, DG - sending you a cyber-hug. Sounds like you're on the right track with this...

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#9711

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Posted: 9/29/04 at 11:31am

laundry for you too adgal? I find folding the laundry some what therapeutic. Sick aren't I?

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#9712

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Posted: 9/29/04 at 11:34am

*spreads arms wide to accept all hugs* (thx mom )

It's funny to me, I have literally been to hell and back in my life, which has given me a wide breadth of experience to pull from in a great many areas. BUT, here I am at 42 living the only relationship of my life (only 3 years into it) and it's like I know NOTHING! EVERYTHING is new! Which is good, but it's introduced a level of fear that I haven't had in my life for a long time.

#9713

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Posted: 9/29/04 at 11:34am

HEy Adgal...there was a commercial for Barry Manilows new album...called Score....14 new songs and a new recording of Copacabana called Copacabana 2005. Did you see it?

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"It never bothered me that she called me a c*nt, it bothered me that I answered to it!" Carol Channing about Ethel Merman filming an episode of "The Love Boat"

#9714

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Posted: 9/29/04 at 11:34am

((psst - mom - I wasn't REALLY doing laundry this morning - that's a little joke...))

But, yes, it has been established that I find laundry (the real deal) very therapeutic.

Now - who has coffee - I'm desperate!

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#9715

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Posted: 9/29/04 at 11:35am

Bobby - yes! I'm so excited about it!

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#9716

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Posted: 9/29/04 at 11:36am

hehe....I knew what you meant adgal! you lil devil!

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#9717

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Posted: 9/29/04 at 11:38am

Ok...here goes....I hope I dont piss anyone off...but I CANNOT STAND Star Jones....Now Ive said it....now you know.

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#9718

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Posted: 9/29/04 at 11:38am

Bobby -

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#9719

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Posted: 9/29/04 at 11:40am

Bobby- NEITHER CAN I!

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#9720

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Posted: 9/29/04 at 11:40am

Morning Undi.....are you gonna make me giggle this am? You were funny as hell last night!

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#9721

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Posted: 9/29/04 at 11:40am

My friend who's Wedding I went to in Portland,OR is in this movie.
She plays PAULINE MARTIN
Thérèse's surrogate mother, after their real mother dies. Although devoted to her young sister, Pauline is overwhelmed with a desire to fulfill her dream of entering the Carmelite monastery. Thrown into confusion over the choice between staying to protect fragile Thérèse, and living her own life, she chooses to leave - "to meet her beloved in the desert" as she explains to Thérèse. Finally they are reunited in the monastery. Thérèse says of her, " You and you alone know me through and through."

Played by LINDA HAYDEN


http://www.theresemovie.com/

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#9722

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Posted: 9/29/04 at 11:43am

Morning Undi and NY...my hand puppet was asking about you this morning Undi.

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#9723

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Posted: 9/29/04 at 11:47am

morning Undi -- di dyou get your socks out yet?

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#9724

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Posted: 9/29/04 at 11:48am

or are they still attached to your undies????

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#9725

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Posted: 9/29/04 at 11:49am

I did my socks and undies Monday morning....

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"It never bothered me that she called me a c*nt, it bothered me that I answered to it!" Carol Channing about Ethel Merman filming an episode of "The Love Boat"