Crazy parenting story- Page 2

[romantico]

Posted: 6/25/12 at 6:04pm

Sorry Jane,but I had never heard that name before until a friend of a friend who had lots of tattoos used the term.She said it with such pride I often say it with a wink and a smile,something I can't really do on a message board post.

[Jane2]

Posted: 6/25/12 at 6:10pm

Oh, I wasn't offended in the least, romantico! I thought it was funny because I'm the farthest thing from a tramp. (well, these days, lol)

I got my tattoo over 30 years ago anyway, before it became trendy.

[romantico]

Posted: 6/25/12 at 6:25pm

Oh good. My sister has one on her ankle she would have slapped me across the face if I said that in her presence.(LOL)

[JbaraFan1]

Posted: 6/25/12 at 9:03pm

romantico, your earlier post back a ways in the thread about the two kids and the "car cart" (or whatever they're called) -- one thing I couldn't help but wonder -- and which may well be way off -- is if one or both of the kids might have possibly been autistic or something like that. Especially wondering about the kid who was screaming. Now maybe the kid was a spoiled brat, end of story. Maybe I'm projecting my own experience as a mom of autistic kids. I just know that in some cases it can be really hard for an autistic kid to calm down once they are upset. I had to learn with mine that the calmer I remained the sooner they'd simmer down. (Spanking an autistic child really does zero good -- I'm talking classical autism here -- they tend to simply not connect the punishment with whatever they've done wrong.)

Even now with my adult autistic son (my youngest, he's 23), who has the sweetest natural disposition as well as a deep-seated desire to please, if he gets really upset about something (he is nonverbal), it can take him a while to get over it. He is emotionally like maybe a five or six year old, maybe younger. Even now I do not take him with me to grocery shop unless I am prepared to let him grab a big bag of Doritos, Cheetohs, or whatever (sometimes two different ones) and PopTarts. I wish I could take him with me more often -- convenient for me and good for him socially. (BTW, he is great in restaurants, and he goes walking in the mall with me weekday mornings and is good as can be.) But I am not going to let get that much junk every week, and I'm not going to have a 23 year old, 6 foot tall man-boy standing in the grocery aisle having a tantrum because I'm trying to put the big snack bag he just grabbed back on the shelf. He's nonverbal but understands a lot, yet with some things, "reasoning" just isn't going to work with him.

Sometimes a parent has to pick their battles.

Either way though, I think the mom in your story should not have just stood there for that long a time chatting with another mom. I know I would have wanted to get out of there as soon as possible since one does have to consider other shoppers and their peace of mind as well.

[romantico]

Posted: 6/25/12 at 9:58pm

One or both kids could have been autistic. If so, I'm even more angry at the mother. It was obvious both kids wanted attention and Mom was too busy talking to her friend to even notice or care. Just picking up the child in the cart who was screaming would have stopped the kid from screaming. I am almost sure of that. I hate seeing people in the grocery store who drink or eat items they have not paid for yet.I assume they were buying these magic markers but maybe the kid just saw them and decided he wanted to draw.Anyone who is that distracted who does not notice their kid opening something they have not bought and then draw/vandalize it should not be taking children out in public. If the mother is that distracted then any sort of accident is just waiting to happen.

I did not get the impression there was anything wrong with the kids. The one screaming I think was not more than 2 or 3. The other one was maybe 5 or 6 (I'm not good at guessing ages) Sometimes, kids are just kids. They don't know any better. I blame the parents. I know raising kids is not easy and requires a lot of patience and work.I just wish some of these parents would use common sense.

[AEA AGMA SM]

Posted: 6/25/12 at 11:01pm

"Oh, I wasn't offended in the least, romantico! I thought it was funny because I'm the farthest thing from a tramp. (well, these days, lol)

I got my tattoo over 30 years ago anyway, before it became trendy."

To be fair, Jane, I have only heard the "tramp stamp" label applied to the lower back tattoos. Just having a tattoo doesn't make you a stamped tramp, unless yours does indeed happen to be sitting right there above the spot where your thong emerges from the crack of your buttocks.

[SNAFU]

Posted: 6/25/12 at 11:40pm

Exactly AEA!

[JbaraFan1]

Posted: 6/26/12 at 12:35am

Thanks for clarifying, romantico. Yeah, if the kid in the car/t looked that young, wouldn't have killed the mom to pick the child up and try consoling them. I don't see how she was carrying on a conversation in that situation anyway.

With the marker thing, I could see the mom being distracted enough for the kid to start marking. Kids can pull crap faster than a parent can catch them sometimes, but from the sounds of it, that should not have gone as far as it did, especially not with the mom standing right there for that long. Mom should've nipped that one in the bud pretty early on. And if that had been me, I would have been speaking with the store manager before I left to ask what I needed to do to make up for the damage to the car/t.

Sometimes alcohol will remove permanent marker. If that were a solution in this case, perhaps the 5-6 yr old could have been supervised to clean or help clean it off, along with a lesson in taking care of others' property, and a "How would you feel if somebody marked up your stuff like that?" Not to mention not being allowed to use markers for a good long while, except for something like ColorWonder (that only marks on this special paper made for it.)

[TheatreDiva90016]

Posted: 6/26/12 at 8:17pm