Dear MammaMia Sammy- Page 2

[SonofMammaMiaSam]

Posted: 4/5/11 at 11:19am

May his nose hairs curl and his eyebrows never grow back. Cheers!

[D2]

Posted: 4/5/11 at 11:24am

Matt, to paraphrase the immortal words of Miriam Aarons: "Do you want me to spit in his eye? Where I spit no grass grows ever."

[Mister Matt]

Posted: 4/5/11 at 11:31am

D2 - If that's the case, I'd rather you spit on his crotch. I want him to have both his eyes to see what happens.

[D2]

Posted: 4/5/11 at 11:44am

How vivid. But if that's what you want, why then sure!

Seriously though, I'm so sorry this has happened. It really does suck, and not in a good way.

[DAME]

Posted: 4/5/11 at 12:35pm

Did you get any sleep? Or where you up all night plotting?

[Mister Matt]

Posted: 4/5/11 at 12:51pm

After half a bottle of port wine, I went to bed. My doctor doesn't want me on Xanax and it was the only thing that calmed my nerves. I'm seeing him tomorrow to see if I can get something other than these useless placebos he prescribed.

[DAME]

Posted: 4/5/11 at 12:56pm

A little puff of mild green stuff might calm your nerves. But your doctor is right. All that stuff serves as a bandaid. The second you stop all those feelings will still be there for you to deal with. I am so sorry buddy. Nothing hurts as much as a broken heart. I am so sorry.

[Mister Matt]

Posted: 4/5/11 at 1:11pm

A broken heart I can handle. This is annihilation. Atom bomb. My heart is Hiroshima without the little girl crying running naked in the street.

[DAME]

Posted: 4/5/11 at 1:14pm

That is when I succumb to revenge.

[Q]

Posted: 4/5/11 at 1:22pm

So where is MammaMiaSammy to claim the 'prize'?

[SonofMammaMiaSam]

Posted: 4/5/11 at 1:28pm

Busy at the corner?

[Bluemoon]

Posted: 4/5/11 at 1:36pm

OK, when someone hurts you that badly, action must be taken. Post the ratbastard's email, phone number and/or address here and we'll take care of the rest.

[clever name]

Posted: 4/5/11 at 1:38pm

Oh, Matt, I'm so sorry. I don't even know what to say. I'm glad you are on here, though. I hope it brings a little comfort :)

[Mister Matt]

Posted: 4/5/11 at 1:46pm

I'm not the vengeful type. I know it won't make me feel better. He knows how much I participate on this board. I just hope he's reading all this. He has no idea the amount of destruction he has caused to so many people. He certainly has no idea how hard it is for me to be at home or to go anywhere. We traveled the world and all those places will be corrupted for a very long time. I even have to be careful what music I listen to.

The scariest part is, he has absolutely no idea what he's become. His actions and behavior are completely irrational, illogical and cruel. He hasn't thought anything through. It's all been one knee-jerk reaction after another. And he's trying to throw himself into another relationship with complete abandon and absolutely NO sense of perspective. He's on an obsessive path of total destruction and I honestly fear he will continue to harm himself and others if he refuses to seek help or at least an objective opinion.

[Mister Matt]

Posted: 4/5/11 at 1:50pm

Q - The way all this went down, I wouldn't be surprised if MammaMiaSammy already claimed his prize. That is the only explanation that would make sense to me.

clever name - It would do no good. He'd change his phone number and email, et al. Avoidance, ignorance and abandonment are his MO. What he needs is to experience exactly what he has put me through.

[FindingNamo]

Posted: 4/5/11 at 2:10pm

That's what every jilted lover wants but it never happens. Unfortunately, we can't control others. (!)

[sabrelady]

Posted: 4/5/11 at 3:30pm

Once upon a time there was a woman- and she was done wrong( REAL wrong) by a man. She lit candles and burnt up pictures of him and and a few other angst relieving activities. And she lived and prospered. Many moons later she heard ( from reliable sources) that at first the man too had prospered, marrying a 2nd wife and becoming a successful writer. But he was selfish and ignorant even while being charming and interesting. And so when the IRS caught him for failing to pay taxes on his successful writing NOT only did he have a HUGE IRS bill to pay ( w interest) but his 2nd wife was forced to divorce him to save herself from his financial ruin. Eventually, she purchased the rights to a series they had done together, so he lost one of the best things he had ever created. In fact, he was unable to work as a writer as the IRS took whatever he made from sales ( Had to work out so CO- writer arraignments.)A few year after relocating to a New City ( French influenced) there was a devastating storm and he had to be evacuated- loosing ALL his possesions. He had aged and not well - alcohol and cigarette smoking and sexual practices best left out of public forum had taken its toll. When he failed to respond to phones calls after missing a lift, the driver let herself in and found him - dead- on his bed.
And what of the woman who he had done wrong? She endured and prevailed and carved out a niche for herself with her family and friends and lived with much enjoyment of the many things the world has to offer.
The moral of this story:
The mills of the Gods grind slowly but they grind excedingly fine. As you do- so will it be done unto you.
MisterMatt- leave him and his fate to G*d( Whatever you perceive that to be) Look after yourself and trust you can still live happily ( if not quite ever) after.
Be well. Be Happy. ( if not now then, again, sometime)

[FindingNamo]

Posted: 4/5/11 at 3:45pm

"sexual practices best left out of public forum"

On this part we strongly disagree.

[sabrelady]

Posted: 4/5/11 at 4:04pm

I think MrDiamond(SIR) might disagree there but I totally understand the desire for salacious and desire inducing descriptions but i for one have always believed "Don't watch the porn- DO the porn". ( Unless watching is all ya gots!)

[iflitifloat]

Posted: 4/5/11 at 7:09pm

I think many of us can relate to what you're going through on one level or another. And I'm really sorry that it's your turn to have had your heart broken by someone you trusted. There are those moments that come along where life as you know it changes permanently and that really sucks. Especially when you didn't see it coming.

I've no great words of wisdom other than to say that with a little help from our friends, it is usually possible to find the strength to rise to the occasion. There are lots of unexpected and unasked for things that get plopped on our plate that we didn't see coming. And we have no choice but to deal with them. We always have a choice in how we deal, but as it turns out, none of those choices may include what we really want.

Hang in there...and truly, I am sorry you are in so much pain.

[Borstalboy]

Posted: 4/5/11 at 7:21pm

A big hug from yr buddy Borstal. I'm so sorry.

[Bettyboy72]

Posted: 4/5/11 at 8:53pm

I'm so sorry Matt. You are a wonderful person and did not deserve this. Sabrelady is a wise woman and the universe will do your bidding. Focus on yourself, being gentle with yourself, turning to friends, family, therapy, self-care and creation. I am sending you lots of love and healing, positive energy. xoxo

[papalovesmambo]

Posted: 4/6/11 at 8:24am

*hug*

that's all.

ok, maybe a pat on the behind.

maybe.

[Mister Matt]

Posted: 4/6/11 at 10:27am

Better watch out, papa. I'm a free agent now. You might want to stand with your back to the wall.

[PalJoey]

Posted: 4/6/11 at 11:01am

That's his usual position for such encounters.