Divorce Blows

Sorry if this is too personal a topic to be discussing on such a public forum, but sometimes you just need to vent to people you've never met.

My parents are going to divorce in a few weeks and my father is moving out of the city, about three hours away. I'm sure everything is going to work out for the best, but I can't help but be completely worried by it all. Sure, I've already left home (In college now) but I have a quite young sister, and I'm completely worried about her. Hopefully, it'll be okay. My parents have not yet told her. They're planning on doing so in a few days.

This is the root of all of my depressed sounding posts from the beginning of this year. I knew my parents were having a rough time, but I couldn't fathom them being in such pain and not having a resolution in sight. Now...I guess...a resolution is here. *Sigh* I just hope it's for the best.

Cruel, I've always wished you nothing but the best through all your posts, and of course I continue to do so.
You're smart (Dean's list!) and sensitive (and lovably nuerotic ) and I'm sure that you'll be there for your family, especially your sister.
I hope everyone adjusts to this change and is able to remain on good terms and move on.


I wish I had more practical advice for you, but all I have are *hugs*

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Start asking for things NOW! Your parents are going to be so guilt ridden that you should ask for an X-Box or something like that.

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Divorce does blow. My parents got divorced when I was nine and my sister was about fifteen. It was a hard time, especially the reason for which they divorced, which I'd prefer not to say, as it's a bit too personal. I fully understand the feeling of helplessness when it comes to a divorce. We're all here to offer support for you. Things may be strange for a while, but everything will work out for the best.

We're all here for you!

Cruel, I feel for you and your sister. You'll get through this, and when all is said and done will be the better for it.
BE THERE for your sister, as it's going to be a lot harder for her.

It'll all work out.

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My parents are getting a divorce too. My 18-year-old brother doesn't seem to care, he never really appreciated my parents anyway, and he's going to college in a few days, so it won't affect him as much. But I'm having a hard time with it. I mean, since I was really little, it was obvious to me that my parents don't love each other, but it's still tough. My mom has a boyfriend, and my dad has a girlfriend, and they're okay people, but I just can't help but to not like them. I'm sure this'll be the right choice in the end, but until I get over it I'm still going to be very spiteful.

My mom had talked to me about this when I was younger, but she said they wouldn't go through with it until I went to college, but my dad wants to get married to his girlfriend so that she can come to America, she lives in Thailand with her 11-year-old son. And I guess that's noble and whatever, but I'm still angry about it.

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woah

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Thanks, guys. This has been a long time coming and I guess I'm glad they've found a resolution, no matter how sad it may be.

Oh well. At least they're going about it in a civil manner. They're going to remain friends. I've seen divorce situations much worse off than the one I'm in now. I've had friends whose parents have divorced and want nothing to do with their children. That is something that my parents won't do. Yeah...

sorry, Cruel. it does, indeed suck.

Mine divorced about 15 years ago, and it will take a while to get over, and as cliche as it sounds, it is never the kid's fault. You didn't do anything wrong. they just went their separate ways after obviously loving each other at least at one point in thier lives.

My parents started off speaking to eachother, but that stopped a long time ago. they can't stand eachother know. My dad is remarried, 48, and just had a child last year with his new bitch. sorry- wife. anyway, he wants nothing to do with his first family, doesn't really talk to me or help support me, not like I need it, but I did when I was going to college.

I am glad that your parents are deciding to remain friends. that is great to hear.

what to look foward to: the holidays: two of each of the major ones, so more presents

what not to look foward to: the holidays: the presents are great, but year after year of traveling back and forth to try to be with each family over one day is painstaking, and I always loathe the holiday season now.

Things will be fine, Cruel. You'll move on, and both your parents love you, as you know. Just take this time to grow closer to your little sister, she is gonna need it, and the two of you can form an eternal bond through this ordeal.

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Thank you highly. I'm sure it'll end up fine in the end.

Im sorry. I know its tough. My parents divorced when I was 12, but My mom up and walked out when I was 10. Its rough no matter how they split up. But know that things get better and eventually you'll see that it was for the best. As long as your sister has some support in her life Im sure she will be fine. It hurts but my brother and my sister were the only thing that kept me going. I am sad to say that I love my step-mom more than my real mom. but then again my step-mom didn't walk out on me. You from what I have read here on BWW are a wonderful person and I'm sure you'll come out of this and your sister will too.
Best wishes
-Em

No, I meant that she happens to live in Thailand. She's had a hard life, she's going to Law School now, and she and my dad have been together for years. And they both want to live with each other so he's hoping she can come to America.

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People whose parents have divorced...

Do you still talk to them? Are your divorced parents still friendly with one another? Do you see them seperately more or do you see them more when they are together? Did the divorce destroy your relationship with them in any way?