Do you still hold a flame for someone? — Page 2

Ohhhhhhhhh yes. Met about... three years ago and had just begun the deadly process of falling for him when I found out about his utterly-serious long-term long-distance girlfriend. I think, on and off, I cried for MONTHS about that. The funny thing is, we were born in the same hospital as each other, grew up only a few miles apart, and even were both at schools just over the road from each other for a year, but it wasn't until we were both in our twenties and on the other side of the country that we met.

I've now moved back to the area we grew up in; I've theoretically been trying to use the distance between us to get over him, but in practice, I've just been torturing myself with "if only"s, such as "if only I'd met him back then, before he met his girlfriend". Which is stupid, because I was very far removed from the charming, attractive, well-read, semi-well-travelled, charisma-oozing lady I am now, so if we had met, I doubt ANYTHING would have happened, but I still can't stop wondering. And we're Facebook and Twitter friends, so I can't even - and nor do I want to - just pretend he doesn't exist. XP

Sometimes I feel I'll never again be able to hold down any sort of relationship, because there's a little teeny-tiny part of me that'll always be ready to throw away everything for him. I'm Just That Sad. XD

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Updated On: 3/17/09 at 07:28 AM

Me too. We only dated a few months 2 summers ago, but we stayed "friends". It's a total Catch 22 because seeing him isn't helping me get over him but I couldn't imagine not knowing him. I've been crazy about him since the day we met.

He's got a new girlfriend now and I'm having a hard time dealing with that.

He's the one that got away...

Well besides my obvious one.....

I will always have a soft spot for two guys I was madly "in love" with..or well infatuated with in High School. One I spoke to on a daily basis but he never thought of me in that way, and the other one we refered to as "Mystery Boy", because I never gathered the courage to talk to him (yes, i know, me not have the courage, shocking). I didnt see either for years but now will run into them at a local bar or store or something and each time my heart like drops and I get all smiley. I usually hide in a clothes rack or something so they wont see me, but ahhhhhh, such a fun feeling to have. Ironically, I have never though to see if either are on facebook.....hmmmmmm

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And she in turn holds a flame for you. I mean, TO you. A candle flame, with hot dripping wax.

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tazzy - how many times do i have to tell you....start liking females and we'd be married and together in a heart beat!!!!

we haven't experimented with candles in a while....gotta put that on the dungeon to do list.

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Absolutely!

There's reality and romance.

But there's always "the one that got away."

cue Judy ...

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I do still hold a flame for someone and if I ever run into him again in this lifetime I will douse him with gasoline and put that flame to good use.

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Boobs, that's the best post of the day!! LOL!

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