Get your "no fits, no fights" vomit bags here — Page 3

I'm always saying nice things about Rathnait, but she rarely says anything nice back to me.

I've never understood why that is.

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I actually like this thread. And I have had some serious knock-down drag-outs with some people on here...and then made up all nice-like.
It's not my nature, I'm not much of a fighter. But I respect someone a LOT more for being willing to argue with me when I'm up for it and then not absolutely hating one another for it later.

Sigh.

It was a reaction to not just that thread, but an idea that surfaces from time to time around here. "Guys, we're all united by our love of Broadway. [not me -- ed. note] We should be NICE to each other."

Since that thread was the most recent embodiment of that sentiment, I riffed on the TITLE and the phoney platitudes that were surfacing there.

You NOTICE I didn't post in that thread. I created one for realistic people who know that there is positive and negative in life. And can accept that.

However, after announcing that you wouldn't play with me anymore, Rath, I can't help noticing that, LOOK!, you're back again. I guess your masochism streak runs deep.

THAT'S how this thread got here.

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I didn't expect it to go that way. Unfortunately it did. Seeing the posts from this group, I thought it would be a chuckle to see some of the "compliments" that would show up. It was fun for awhile, but once I read what I perceived as an attempted description of me (a vacuous and phoney Little Mary Sunshine none the less) from someone who has no idea who I am. I realized the bad judgement on my part. Pass me a bag please.

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Updated On: 6/17/05 at 11:04 AM

Lord, Namo, everything isn't about you. I was responding to the many posts on this thread that seemed to make that assumption.

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Unfortunately (or, actually, very fortunately for me) I had about 18 long years of constant confrontation and abuse. Now, it most certainly made me a stronger person, but I find that, as I get older, I just have to avoid it at all costs. Negativity lives in this world and there's no escaping it - but we don't have to buy into it, feed it and thrive on it. Thats just plain unhealthy (for me, at the very least) Call me PollyAnna if you want, or even Little Mary Sunshine, but I will steer clear of negative comments whenever I can. They don't feed the soul. If anything, they cause it to shrivel up and die.
My approach to life is not for everyone (hell, very few seem to attempt it these days) but it works for me. I'm all for a healthy debate, but when it becomes mudslinging and name calling - I'm outta here. Thats simply childish and unacceptable behaviour.

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Nina... that's the reason I posted here. I actually do agree with Namo more than I care to admit. After I read a post a couple of times and let the original anger subside. Sometimes I don't. And even though I don't usually participate in the more 'heated' threads, I still read them. Avoiding negativity for me doesn't mean ignoring it.

And quite honestly, it can be entertaining in a way to see people going at it on a bulletin board. Almost like watching "The Real World" on MTV.

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The art of debate is great. I'll be the first to admit at not being terribly articulate... especially on a whim. Though that doesn't mean I don't have strong opinions. A trait that is often misunderstood.

My problem is when debate goes down to name-calling and disrespect. And mockery. That's when I stop participating and, honestly, caring.

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first of all, it is all about namo. i so decree it and that's my opinion whether you respect it or not, b*itches.

second, robbie, i love you with a deep and abiding passion and you're not flattering yourself, i learn as much from you as you from me. after all, who taught me the real meaning of santorum?

i guess i haven't been around enough lately to appreciate what all the hubbub's about. but then, i do since the board runs in cycles and i know and love namo's meager tolerance for the hypocrisy that often abounds and the assumed scent of lilacs that follows some posters' bursts of flatulence.

what i love most though is (like nina who's a sharp wit and magnificent dancer) to see people who desire nothing but sweetness and light in their message board to mosey into a thread where it's a given that darkness and sh*t-flinging abounds. if you're that offended by aggressive and opinionated and well-thought out posts, get the f*ck out and quit bothering the folks in the thread who luv them. if you're that insecure that you can't stand reading sarcasm when it's directed at you, go live in a commune off the grid and talk to the daisies, they always have a kind word. otherwise, deal with it.

you will be mocked if you make stupid posts. you will be mocked if you make smart posts. you will be mocked if you make insipid posts. you will be mocked if you make inspired posts. someone is always going to be offended, offensive and or downright mean. it's f*cking life.

whiners get shiners.

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Updated On: 6/17/05 at 08:15 PM

But...but...the daisies are my friends! *hugs them*

*rocks in the corner*

All true, Robbie.

And another, much more shallow observation...even though everyone cries foul when the **** hits the fan, traffic on the board goes WAY up. Whether or not anyone cares to admit it, disagreement and discord are ever so much more interesting and entertaining than bland, insincere niceness.

Even though I'm not able to post messaged from work, I do manage to keep up on my Sidekick. Yesterday was nothing short of mesmerizing, and I got so little work done that I'm going in on Sunday to try and catch up.

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Jose'....you're such a FF !!!

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