Has your relationship with someone changed because of a gift they gave you?

Not disregard, per se, but I have been amazed sometimes at what somebody thinks I might like or enjoy. It gives me a little insight into a disconnect that may exist between us.

no honey. gum. and tea. but it's more complicated than that -- of course it is.

ps. i might be the only diva west of alpha centaury that prefers pearls.

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DG, that's exactly what I was going to say. I've learned based on a gift that someone doesn't understand me at all, which while not as bad as showing disregard, is still disappointing.

Yes, exactly DG.
Have you ever been less than graceful in acceptance of the gift?

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OMG- I can't believe you started this thread-I have the exact situation here! I was just telling another friend about it. Here's what happened-I was best friends with this girl who lives across the street. We did our first off broadway show together, and we got along famously. We stayed friends for years. Then, one Christsmas, we exchanged gifts. I have to preface this with the fact that when it came to people who couldn't care less about her, she was very meticulous about what she gave them for christmas and labored over the right gift, asking my advice.

OK, I go to open my gift from her. I was alone in my apartment. It was in a Century 21 box. It was a long sleeved top. The color was faded halfway through the garment. the underarms smelled like BO, and there were threads pulled throughout the top.

I tried not to let it bother me but the more I thought about it, the worse I felt. I started to feel angry, not because of lack of money spent, but because the lack of consideration for how much I cared about her, while she bought fabulous presents for men who she liked but didn't like her, etc.

I finally said something to her. I think I wrote it in a letter. Maybe that was my mistake. She didn't fight with me, I think she said something like she didn't know, etc. We kept speaking and being friends, but the friendship slowly dissipated and we don't speak at all anymore.

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i took my gum and tea home. and the other one of our friends received a sacred object that had been blessed in a place sacred to all of us and i had to hear the story of what a mindblowing experience it was three separate times.
i am never less than gracious. i have always tried to behave with aplomb like jackie onassis in every situation.

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eek...than I apologise Garland, and Rath.........

DG, I agree completely. I have a knack for being able to choose the perfect gift for anyone I know......I can be in a store in June and something jumps out at me and screams 'TERRI", my sister....or 'Dad"......
This terrified my ex as he felt that I'd like nothing he ever got me....and truth be told I rarely did, as he faced selecting gifts as a chore....although I never showed dislike.

In 8 years Steve is really getting good at getting me gifts.....

but again, I truly think that the things I REALLY wanted, I've bought myself

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LOL! One of the funniest posts in a while!

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i know people are gonna use this as further evidence that i am shallow and horrible, but...

picture it, college, 1996 - i had been seeing someone for a couple of months so for xmas i scrimped and i saved and i worked extra hours at my low paying university job to buy him a Fossil watch at Macy's, dont ask me why - i just thought he would like it. he gave me, a wooden bottle puzzle. i was very pissed, but got the point he was trying to make. the last time i saw him i thought about stealing that watch back, but never did.

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Gum and tea? What kind of lousy rotten stinking friend gives you gum and tea? I say, return it--with a note scribbled in lipstick saying RETURN TO SENDER: UNWANTED.

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Updated On: 2/17/06 at 11:10 AM

Target? what's Target?

it's where Tonya Harding got her skating outfits.

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I got a tube of used lipstick once. That went in the trash VERY quickly.

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