How to get my mind off my ex.

I have been with my girlfriend for 2 years and I loved her very much. She was actually my first love and I remember falling in love with her thinking this "feeling" was incredible and just something completly new. We have always had a rocky relationship but at the end of the day we loved each other more than anything.
I was never the perfect boyfriend but I tried hard, she made me want to try hard. Now we have been broken up for some time a big reason (not the whole thing) is she has changed and is not really the girl I had fallen in love with so long ago.

But not even for that even if we stayed together we would be hurting ourselves in the long run. A big way how is the fact that
I am Italian Catholic, She is Palestinian Muslim whos parents want, no need, her to end up with someone who is Arab/ Muslim.

She was the first girl I ever really saw myself with (Marriage, kids, etc). And I didnt mind that at all. But no matter how much I want it and her I know it just wont end up the way I want it to.

Its so hard because sometimes random things just make me remember her and I cant get her out of my head. I dont want to be upset over this anymore. How do you get over a ex you loved so much..?

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Stop worrying where you're going, move on.

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I agree everybody's different.

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Practice compassion with yourself. You're going to perseverate on her for a while, do drive bys, call her and hang up. It goes with the turf. However, one day you will just wake up and be like, "ok, I can't do this anymore." And you won't. I think you kind of need to burn yourself out on it. I also recommend getting a therapist, a non-biased party to support during this time because I guarantee your friends will get sick of listening. Oh and definitely un-friend her from facebook. You do not want to know what she is doing. Hell no. Keep yourself busy and stay distracted. Fake it til you make it. Best wishes with this, I know it can be hard.

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Spider- thank you for your response honestly. I am very sorry and I sympathize with you, although I will never truly understand how it felt (being 12 years and all). Its going to be hard to take down that picture I have of her.

Betty and Eris- Thank you both as well. I did delete her on facebook because everytime she uploads a new picture or status It reminds me of her all over again. I want to get over her so bad I sincerly do but just the thought of ever seeing her with another guy kills me inside. I dont know how much thats going to hurt me and Im so scared about seeing that.
I mean im really doing good and I havnt called/texted her in a while. But everytime she keeps coming back and pulls me back into those feelings. Prior to saturday I hadnt called her or anything in a week. Then saturday she texted me and I missed her all over again..

She told me she was finally ready to show me "the note" (a note she has told me about ever since we broke up, that she wrote for me). So she told me to stop by her house on the way home and pick it up. Stupidly-Excitedly I rushed home from downtown (I live in the Bronx; A very good area) and practically ran over to her house after I got off the train.
I texted her to come out and she didnt respond. 3 minutes later same thing. then I called. and called. and called.. I stood outside 20 minutes at midnight and she never answered me or apologized the next day..

PalJoey-
She knows I wanted to be with her for the long haul. Once night she cried to me because she told me she "wanted it so bad; more than anything" but her parents would never let her. She said she wanted the same thing I wanted.
I understand if their truly is a god I would go to "hell" but I told her I would convert for her.
I would have raised the children in the muslim faith for her. I would have done anything for her. She knows that.

Just her parents are extremly dedicated to her marrying a arab man.

To everyone else with the sarcastic responses I ask, Really??

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To everyone else with the sarcastic responses I ask, Really??

I think they were just attempts to get you to crack a smile.

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"the thought of ever seeing her with another guy kills me inside"

Then your feelings are about yourself, not her. If you care about her being happy, then it wouldn't bother you as much.

I'm Caucasion but I do know that there is a LOT of pressure within the culture to not marry a "white man". Much more so than in other cultures I believe. I used to work with a young woman whose parents were adament about the fact she not even date someone not of their culture. Someone I went to middle school and high school with got married right out of high school to someone her parents chose. And I've heard other stories that are quite similiar. I wouldn't go so far as to call them "douches". Are they wrong? Yeah, but they probably received the same pressure when they were young. It's what they know.

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The best way to forget a lover is in the arms of another lover. Take a trip. Go to Europe and meet other women. Slavic Eastern Europe is a stocked pond.

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Eris if that's the case I apologize to them , its hard to smile in a situation like this.

But paljoey I don't know if I said this but I broke up with her. No pressue was ever put on her she was extremly comfortable telling me everything
And she wanted this just as much as I did (including the conversion of religion).
But I can 100 percent say that I love her more than myself. I am a sort of selfish person (if I could I would live for ever) but the fact that I would put my own life on the line to save hers (if I had too) proves that. I wouldn't do that for anybody else in this world so that statment coming from me is a lot.
Things have changed though and she has changed emmensly. It is impossible for us to stay together and we will just hurt ourselves in the end. it hurts now I figure but it would hurt more if we grew even closer and couldn't be together.

But its just so hard to move on from someone you loved that much

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He said in the first post they were together for 2 years.

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Are you going to college?

I understand your situation, and it will hurt, but time will heal things. You continue to meet new people in college and build relationships. If you aren't going to college, find something to do that will allow you to meet new people, such as volunteering or taking an art/writing/etc. class at your community center.

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It will take time but the pain will subside and you will meet other people. As sucky as it is, this is kind of an initiation to adulthood. Every person goes through it and survives. In time, hopefully you can look back and just be thankful that no matter how it ended you were able to experience that intense love for another person.

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