I Don't Know what to do about my mother!!
I Don't Know what to do about my mother!!
I<3bway
Broadway Legend Joined: 3/14/06
#0I Don't Know what to do about my mother!!
Posted: 7/1/06 at 5:18pm
Oh she pisses me off so badly!! Lately me and my "mother" have been getting into stupid fights over nothing lately, and she has been the one to start them all!! I mean she gets mad over when I call my dog to play with me because she wants to play with her or if I just open the fridge door to get something to eat!! Also she yells for me just to open a friggin can for her or to see something on tv just because she said so. It's so freakin stupid!! She acts like a 5 year old who needs attention! Hell, she was fine before she had me, so why the hell does she need it now?! She's supposed to be my mother not my friend. I think she needs to see a psychiatrist.
Whoo, just needed to get that out.
SweetQintheLights
Broadway Legend Joined: 6/12/05
#1re: I Don't Know what to do about my mother!!
Posted: 7/1/06 at 5:22pm
Breathe.
This is just a question, not a declaration.
Could she be drunk?
Could she have problems that you don't know about?
Could you talk to her or maybe talk to someone that could talk to her?
How long has this been going on for?
And, if you don't mind me asking- how old are you?
"How bout a little black dress?"~hannahshule
"I have a penis, not a vagina." ~munkustrap178
#2re: I Don't Know what to do about my mother!!
Posted: 7/1/06 at 5:22pmAre you about to move out? Maybe she needs a date...there's definitely a reason--or she's just njuts, which is always possible.
I<3bway
Broadway Legend Joined: 3/14/06
#3re: I Don't Know what to do about my mother!!
Posted: 7/1/06 at 5:25pm
My mom does not drink.
I'm not sure if she has any problems.
It's been going on since last year.
No my mom doesn't need a date LOL. She's married and my dad is awesome, but she has jsut been getting on my last nerve lately. I mean, I really like being by myself and I don't always have to feel like I have to hang out with her for no reason.
Updated On: 7/2/06 at 05:25 PM
Over_the_Moon
Broadway Legend Joined: 2/22/05
#4re: I Don't Know what to do about my mother!!
Posted: 7/1/06 at 5:27pmHas posting this thread solved the problem yet?
"what have we learned? Don't smoke... don't do drugs and don't sing 'Defying Gravity'." -CATSNYRevival
I<3bway
Broadway Legend Joined: 3/14/06
#5re: I Don't Know what to do about my mother!!
Posted: 7/1/06 at 5:32pm
No, but unlike you, people do need some place to let off some steam, so bug off if you're going to be a jerk about it.
Updated On: 7/1/06 at 05:32 PM
SweetQintheLights
Broadway Legend Joined: 6/12/05
#6re: I Don't Know what to do about my mother!!
Posted: 7/1/06 at 5:37pm
Maybe she's having issues with your dad? Or issues she isn't letting out and taking it out on you?
Have you tried talking to her? Or, even writing a letter sometimes works better. Do you have a therapist or someone you can trust that you can talk to about it?
"How bout a little black dress?"~hannahshule
"I have a penis, not a vagina." ~munkustrap178
Over_the_Moon
Broadway Legend Joined: 2/22/05
#7re: I Don't Know what to do about my mother!!
Posted: 7/1/06 at 5:45pm
I am quite aware that most people need to let off steam every once in awhile. I am one of them, but I have a journal and friends!
"what have we learned? Don't smoke... don't do drugs and don't sing 'Defying Gravity'." -CATSNYRevival
Updated On: 7/1/06 at 05:45 PM
millie_dillmount
Broadway Legend Joined: 4/22/04
#8re: I Don't Know what to do about my mother!!
Posted: 7/1/06 at 5:46pmHow old are you? I'm 19 and home from college for the summer. After experimenting with all the freedom I had in college, I've come back home to a household of rules, and I don't have as much freedom as I did in college. Are you in college, or going through some life change? Maybe that's irritating your mom in a way because you're growing up.
"We like to snark around here. Sometimes we actually talk about theater...but we try not to let that get in our way." - dramamama611
#9re: I Don't Know what to do about my mother!!
Posted: 7/1/06 at 5:50pmI hope this doesn't come off as rude, but....just about every one I know has issues like this with their parents. There will always be vent-worthy things that you bicker about. And unfortunately, there's not much of a solution either.
I recognize the addiction to being alive.
MOXIEINTHECITY
Broadway Star Joined: 5/11/06
#10re: I Don't Know what to do about my mother!!
Posted: 7/1/06 at 6:01pm
Also she yells for me just to open a friggin can for her or to see something on tv just because she said so.
Are you leaving for college soon? Or...are you leaving to go away for an extended period of time? This stuff sounds like she's making excuses to spend time with you. Picking fights is something people do to try and determine how much the other person cares for them. Sort of like a test of your love/loyalty. Couples do it. It's sometimes rooted in anxiety over something.
I<3bway
Broadway Legend Joined: 3/14/06
#11re: I Don't Know what to do about my mother!!
Posted: 7/1/06 at 6:13pmWhat does having friends have to do about it Over_the_Moon? Did I say I didn't have any? I mean I love my mom, but I am about to leave for college (one more year of HS) and I'm off.
#12re: I Don't Know what to do about my mother!!
Posted: 7/1/06 at 6:21pm
That's more than likely what it is. When I was close to going to college, my parents and I got in more fights than ever before. Now, we are cool! She is probably just realizing that she is about to lose her baby. Don't let it offend you too much.
"They're eating her and then they're going to eat me. OH MY GOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOD!!!!" -Troll 2
Updated On: 7/1/06 at 06:21 PM
SweetQintheLights
Broadway Legend Joined: 6/12/05
#13re: I Don't Know what to do about my mother!!
Posted: 7/1/06 at 6:37pm
spidy does have a good point.
She is realizing she can't hold onto her little girl forever. She wants to spend time with your but she may not be doing it the best way. As I said, maybe you could sit down with her or write her a note explaining how you feel and maybe discuss having like 1 day a month for you two to spend together.
"How bout a little black dress?"~hannahshule
"I have a penis, not a vagina." ~munkustrap178
I<3bway
Broadway Legend Joined: 3/14/06
#14re: I Don't Know what to do about my mother!!
Posted: 7/1/06 at 6:50pmOk, I'll do that then. I'll write a letter. Thanks for the kind responses.
#15re: I Don't Know what to do about my mother!!
Posted: 7/1/06 at 7:15pmI agree with SweetQ . . . take one or two times a month and just go have some mother/daughter time. Do things that your mom liked do in the past. But, the main thing is just talk to her about it. You don't want this to escalate to a point where someone might say somehting they didn't mean. Good luck to you, sweetie!
"They're eating her and then they're going to eat me. OH MY GOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOD!!!!" -Troll 2
#16re: I Don't Know what to do about my mother!!
Posted: 7/1/06 at 7:48pm
have you considered that it is NOT all her fault and you may be responsible for the whole thing as much as she has? Or are you totally blaming her, which of course is never appropriate as it takes two to tangle......no one can fight alone.
17 is not an easy age for you or your mother.......ranks right up there with the terrible twos....
It is ridiculous to set a detective story in New York City. New York City is itself a detective story...
AGATHA CHRISTIE, Life magazine, May 14, 1956
Updated On: 7/1/06 at 07:48 PM
#17re: I Don't Know what to do about my mother!!
Posted: 7/1/06 at 7:49pm
T-minus 4 days and counting.
Europe will never be the same!
Dollypop
Broadway Legend Joined: 5/15/03
#18re: I Don't Know what to do about my mother!!
Posted: 7/1/06 at 8:07pmMy mother physically abused me, hitting me with frying pans and shovels. She's dead now. I don't miss the pain she inflicted. I miss HER.
"Long live God!" (GODSPELL)
#19re: I Don't Know what to do about my mother!!
Posted: 7/2/06 at 11:46amI figured it was most likely separation anxiety--she still wants to have some control over you and she realizes she's beginning to lose it--my parents were the same way--we used to fight all the time about my messy room; despite the fact that I had an after-achool job in which I didn't get home until 9pm every night, was an honor student, belonged to every club and competed in academic events...they want you to stay a kid forever; they have different memories than you do. They want you to be like you were when they enjoyed you the most--times you don't even remember! But that's the sucky part about being a parent: if you do your job right, you become less needed AND wanted as the years go by. Humans are the only creatures who try to hold on to their offspring for life.
sabrelady
Broadway Legend Joined: 5/16/03
#20re: I Don't Know what to do about my mother!!
Posted: 7/2/06 at 12:04pmDunno how old she is but if you're 17 she could be perimenopausal and there could be some hormone issues also affecting her moods.
mint0621
Broadway Star Joined: 10/10/04
#21re: I Don't Know what to do about my mother!!
Posted: 7/2/06 at 1:28pm
I second sabrelady...when I was in high school (many years ago), my mom was in the middle of perimenopause and she was on pins and needles, and we never knew when we were gonna set her off.
The Grovers Corners Yenta
Broadway Legend Joined: 8/3/04
#22re: I Don't Know what to do about my mother!!
Posted: 7/2/06 at 1:44pmI am a 49 year old woman who is a survivor of child abuse from both parents. My mother physically and emotionally abused me. My father sexually abused me as well as physically and emotionally. After many years in therapy, I have finally come to the conclusion that it was their issues causing this , not mine. I was a child for heaven sakes. They were extremely narcissictic when it came to raising me. They wanted to be the center of attention, they had issues from their parents, they were emotionally detached from me, they demanded I parent them. I would be severely beaten for things like spilling my milk, for laughing, for playing.....for just being a child. Then there were the night time "visits" from my father...........atrocities that no child should ever go through. I even remember being beaten by my father after coming home from being in a play in High School and then having the nerve to brag about how wonderful my performance was and how he took credit for pushing me to be in that show. So where am I now? First off, my father is dead. My mother lives in California and we dont get to see other that much. We have phone conversations but it is more like friends rather than mother and daughter. I have learned the hard way that I cannot change the past but I can change the present. I have wonderful friends that mean more to me. Friends are the people you CHOOSE as family . But my parents did give me one very valuable gift.........my life.
"Friends are the people you chose as family."....Me.
Caseywouldwaltz
Swing Joined: 7/2/06
#23re: I Don't Know what to do about my mother!!
Posted: 7/2/06 at 2:09pmHow did it go from the original post to the last one?
The Grovers Corners Yenta
Broadway Legend Joined: 8/3/04
#24re: I Don't Know what to do about my mother!!
Posted: 7/2/06 at 2:26pmJust think about it. Whatever problems that a child has with a parent can greatly affect how they function as an adult. This trouble can range from just the typical teenager/parent conflicts to abuse. I wanted to show the adult side of it.
"Friends are the people you chose as family."....Me.
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