I just got a call from my dad...

[KelRel]

I just got a call from my dad...#1

Posted: 6/27/08 at 3:47pm

Last week he had a biopsy done because the doctor noticed a little abnormality with his prostate. The doctor called him, and in turn he called me and told me that the biopsy came back as cancer. Next week they will be doing a body and bone scan to see if it has spread and if so how badly. Dad says that the doctors don't seem too concerned, but something in his voice tells me that he may not be telling me the whole truth. Some of you know that the "parent roles" have switched for my father and I since I was 18. When I was 18 my dad dropped dead on our front porch of a heart attack and I had to do CPR to bring him back. He then had to have quadruple by-pass surgery and has had to have 3 stints since then. I have been there for him through all of it and have been there to help him get back on his feet throughout each surgery and procedure. Now I am in another state and I feel helpless and horrible for not being there with him. I feel really scared and I am hoping that the scans turn up that there isn't any spreading of the cancer and that they can get it taken care of really quickly.

My family has had a really bad few years when it comes to cancer. My aunt just went into remission, my mom had to have surgery and then when that didn't work she had to have a hysterectomy earlier in the year, and right before I got married my grandfather died of lung cancer in my father's arms. None of us are ignorant of the effects that cancer can have on a person and a family and I am so scared for my dad. He lost both of his parents to cancer and I know that he is scared of possibly going through what they went through. I'm scared of him going through that too.

I would really appreciate any prayers, good thoughts, or whatever for my dad. I am really worried about him.

"All the while making faces like a baby platypus who forget to take some Beano before eating a chimichanga." FindingNamo in reference to Jessica Simpson's singing.

[RetroBoy]

re: I just got a call from my dad...#2

Posted: 6/27/08 at 3:48pm

count on me kelrel.
i will light a candle 4 your dad.

[Bluemoon]

re: I just got a call from my dad...#2

Posted: 6/27/08 at 3:49pm

Prayers? You got 'em.

[NYadgal]

re: I just got a call from my dad...#3

Posted: 6/27/08 at 3:49pm

Absolutely.

Wishing you and your family all the best!

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[shira467]

re: I just got a call from my dad...#4

Posted: 6/27/08 at 3:50pm

Thoughts and wishes and such, check.

*hugs*

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[papalovesmambo]

i just got a call from my dad...#5

Posted: 6/27/08 at 3:51pm

in my prayers.

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[DG]

re: I just got a call from my dad...#6

Posted: 6/27/08 at 3:51pm

Kel - my step-dad had to go through treatment for prostate cancer last year. They've made incredible strides, and if caught early, there's tremendous chance for complete recovery (as with my step-dad).

Keep strong, keep the faith - and we've got your back

[miss pennywise]

re: I just got a call from my dad...#7

Posted: 6/27/08 at 3:52pm

You know you can count on us for love and support, Kel. Hang in there.

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[LePetiteFromage]

#8

Posted: 6/27/08 at 3:53pm

Updated On: 1/23/09 at 03:53 PM

[Borstalboy]

re: I just got a call from my dad...#9

Posted: 6/27/08 at 3:53pm

My thoughts are with ya, Kel. Do hang in there.

"Impossible is just a big word thrown around by small men who find it easier to live in the world they've been given than to explore the power they have to change it. Impossible is not a fact. It's an opinion. Impossible is not a declaration. It's a dare. Impossible is potential. Impossible is temporary. Impossible is nothing.” ~ Muhammad Ali

[Weez]

re: I just got a call from my dad...#10

Posted: 6/27/08 at 3:54pm

Absolutely. You and your father are in my prayers.

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[GlindatheGood22]

re: I just got a call from my dad...#11

Posted: 6/27/08 at 3:55pm

I'll be praying for your dad as well as your whole family. A speedy recovery for him!

I know you. I know you. I know you.

[KelRel]

re: I just got a call from my dad...#11

Posted: 6/27/08 at 3:55pm

Thank you all. My dad has become so very important to me and the thought of him being sick or worse shakes me to my very core.

I really appreciate the support for you all. It brings tears to my eyes to know that I can count on my friends and BWW family in good times and in bad. *hugs* to you all.

"All the while making faces like a baby platypus who forget to take some Beano before eating a chimichanga." FindingNamo in reference to Jessica Simpson's singing.

[Yankeefan007]

re: I just got a call from my dad...#13

Posted: 6/27/08 at 3:59pm

Your family is in my thoughts.

[YouWantitWhen????]

re: I just got a call from my dad...#14

Posted: 6/27/08 at 4:02pm

You and your family are in my thoughts.

Keep us posted.

[D2]

re: I just got a call from my dad...#15

Posted: 6/27/08 at 4:03pm

You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers, Kel.

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[ShbrtAlley44]

re: I just got a call from my dad...#16

Posted: 6/27/08 at 4:13pm

All the best to you and your family, Kel.

[circusliz]

re: I just got a call from my dad...#17

Posted: 6/27/08 at 4:14pm

I understand what you're going through. My dad was diagnosed with prostate cancer about 8 months ago. It's supposedly the non-aggressive type, and so he decided to go the "watchful waiting" route. Unfortunately his last biopsy results weren't great(growth in one sample up from 10% to 35% cancerous). The next round of biopsies will determine if he's going to change treatments.

I hope you can find a little comfort in the fact that prostate cancer tends to be one of the more treatable forms. Many men die of old age long before the cancer poses any threat to their health. Many men pass away from natural causes (not the cancer) completely undiagnosed -- this happened with my grandpa and great-uncle.

Here are some links to some informative sites, which I found useful when my dad was first diagnosed:

http://www.cancer.gov/cancertopics/types/prostate = The National Cancer Institute of the National Institutes of Health

http://mayoclinic.com/health/prostate-cancer/PT99999 = The Mayo Clinic

http://www.urologyhealth.org/, click on "Adult Conditions," click on "Prostate" = Information from the American Urological Association

http://www.nccn.org/patients/patient_gls/_english/_prostate/contents.asp = The National Comprehensive Cancer Network


Hang in there!

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[ALittleNorthofKansas]

re: I just got a call from my dad...#18

Posted: 6/27/08 at 4:16pm

Sending good thoughts for your dad and for you.

[KelRel]

re: I just got a call from my dad...#19

Posted: 6/27/08 at 4:17pm

Thank you Liz, I'll check those out.

"All the while making faces like a baby platypus who forget to take some Beano before eating a chimichanga." FindingNamo in reference to Jessica Simpson's singing.

[blueroses]

re: I just got a call from my dad...#20

Posted: 6/27/08 at 4:36pm

I am so sorry, Kel. You and your Dad are in my thoughts, and I wish him good health.

[Jane2]

re: I just got a call from my dad...#21

Posted: 6/27/08 at 4:40pm

I'm sorry you're going through this Kel, you're in my thoughts.

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[tazber]

re: I just got a call from my dad...#22

Posted: 6/27/08 at 4:45pm

you have my 100% support kel. I will most definitely keep your father in my prayer.

....but the world goes 'round

[FOAnatic]

re: I just got a call from my dad...#23

Posted: 6/27/08 at 4:53pm

Much love and warmth to you and your family in this time.

Always keep the faith.

You're in my thoughts.

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[DayDreamer]

re: I just got a call from my dad...#24

Posted: 6/27/08 at 6:19pm

You and your family are in my thoughts.

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