Is It Time To Let Go....?- Page 2

[tazber]

Posted: 10/23/07 at 11:06am

You should never feel insecure about something like this. Even if someone doesn't respond to your signs or whatnot it's in no way a reflection of your worth.

[Pip]

Posted: 10/23/07 at 11:18am

You're getting a lot of good advice here; much of it, I'm sure based on experience. Never apologize for being willing to give your heart away; someday someone is going to be worthy of the gift. Doesn't sound like this guy's the one, though, no matter how much you wish that he was, so take a deep breath, reflect on what was good, and move on.

[Mister Matt]

Posted: 10/23/07 at 11:23am

If you are out and he is not, what kind of relationship are you expecting from this? It's one thing to have feelings for him, but don't lose perspective. It sounds as though you may have expectations that cannot be fulfilled. It's ok to have feelings for the guy, but you have to decide if a part-time closeted relationship in which you have no say or contol is what you want.

[Chita1933]

Posted: 10/23/07 at 11:26am

papa, you are a card and you need to be dealt with.

[RetroBoy]

Posted: 10/23/07 at 11:27am

Never apologize for being willing to give your heart away; someday someone is going to be worthy of the gift.
Pip, thank you so much for those words. I was honestly feeling like a fool.


It sounds as though you may have expectations that cannot be fulfilled.
Yes Mister Matt, I believe this is true.

[best12bars]

Posted: 10/23/07 at 11:34am

Based on personal experience?

Why, no.


*sobs*

[folkyboy]

Posted: 10/23/07 at 11:41am

i don't like the CQs (aka Closet Queens). they ALWAYS have a tendancy to turn their inner feelings out on you. has Brokeback Mountain taught us NOTHING?! i don't wanna be on top of a mountain with some man projecting his feelings out on me like it's all me feeling it.

in the words of Mrs. Poole: no nuh no no no

[RetroBoy]

Posted: 10/23/07 at 11:50am

Yeah, it seems like I'm going through my one-sided "Brokeback Mountain" right about now....

[PalJoey]

Posted: 10/23/07 at 12:08pm

Okay, baby--in a situation like this, there's only one thing for an OUT, PROUD GAY MAN to do:

Put on some cha-cha heels and your Gloria Gaynor CD, shut the doors and windows and SING OUT, LOUISE:

At first I was afraid,
I was petrified.
I kept thinking
I could never live without you by my side,
But then I spent so many nights
Just thinking how you'd done me wrong,
And I grew strong!
And I learned how to get along!
So now you're back--
From outer space!
I just walked in to find you here
With that sad look upon your face.
I should have changed my stupid lock!
I should have made you leave your key!
If I had known for just one second
You'd be back to bother me...

Go on, now, go! Walk out the door!
Just turn around now,
'Cause you're not welcome anymore.
Weren't you the one who tried to hurt me with goodbye?
Did you think I'd crumble?
Did you think I'd lay down and die?
Oh, no, not I!
I will survive!
As long as i know how to love,
I know I'll stay alive!
I've got all my life to live.
I've got all my love to give.
And I'll survive.
I will survive!

It took all the strength I had
Not to fall apart.
Kept trying hard to mend
the pieces of my broken heart.
And I spent, oh, so many nights
Just feeling sorry for myself--
I used to cry!
But now I hold my head up high,
And you see me!
Somebody new!
I'm not that chained-up little person
Still in love with you!
And so you felt like dropping in,
And just expect me to be free.
But now I'm saving all my loving
for someone who's loving me!

Go on, now, go! Walk out the door!
Just turn around now,
'Cause you're not welcome anymore.
Weren't you the one who tried to hurt me with goodbye?
Did you think I'd crumble?
Did you think I'd lay down and die?
Oh, no, not I!
I will survive!
As long as i know how to love,
I know I'll stay alive!
I've got all my life to live.
I've got all my love to give.
And I'll survive.
I will survive!

You WILL survive, RetroBoy. You're just savin' all your lovin' for someone who'll be lovin' you SOON!

yr pal,
joey

Updated On: 10/23/07 at 12:08 PM

[RetroBoy]

Posted: 10/23/07 at 12:11pm

Oh God Joey thank you so much for that! I'm going to put on those damned cha-cha heels and sing my little heart out.

::big hugs::

[folkyboy]

Posted: 10/23/07 at 12:35pm

i love that Whitney song "On My Own". bust out the Thunderpuss mix and tell 'em you're not the foolish girl he used to know!

[xxnewgirlxx]

Posted: 10/23/07 at 12:42pm

My now ex was acting the same way towards me all of a sudden and then broke up with me a few weeks later.

Sorry.

[pemberlee]

Posted: 10/23/07 at 6:43pm

I have to agree with newgirl. It sounds like the classic tactic of acting jerky/distant, so that the other person will break up with you first.

[RetroBoy]

Posted: 10/24/07 at 11:19am

This is so fvcking over. It's dead, finished and buried. Thanks to those who graciously and unselfishly gave me advice. You guys are awesome.

Much Love,
ReBo

[Rathnait62]

Posted: 10/24/07 at 11:21am

How do you feel?

[TheatreDiva90016]

Posted: 10/24/07 at 11:58am

And I suggest you play the song "Turn Me Loose" by Loverboy.



You'll get your answer.

[Broadwayboobs]

Posted: 10/24/07 at 12:12pm

Here ya go.....

http://youtube.com/watch?v=IiIJOB0GLW4

[RetroBoy]

Posted: 10/24/07 at 12:56pm

I feel like a ton of bricks was just lifted off of my shoulders.
If he calls me he wil be hearing Carole King's "It's Too Late" as his call tone.

[Broadwayboobs]

Posted: 10/24/07 at 1:08pm

Perfect ReBo !!!

[Rathnait62]

Posted: 10/24/07 at 3:18pm

YAY!

[Elphaba]

Posted: 10/24/07 at 3:59pm

you apparently didn't watch that one Oprah episode. Let me paraphrase"

HE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU!

Let that be your bonk on the head......we've all gone through this at one time or another. Learn from it, as you deserve better.

What does on the "down and low" mean? If it means he's playing straight to everyone else, then you missed a major red flag before that was there.

Dump him, move on.

[pemberlee]

Posted: 10/24/07 at 6:09pm

I'm glad it all worked out.

[best12bars]

Posted: 10/24/07 at 7:29pm

"I feel like a ton of bricks was just lifted off of my shoulders."

It has. You have just freed yourself for bigger and better things. That doesn't mean you won't feel badly (aka, lonely, sad, regretful, angry, etc.), but that's okay. It's a healing process.

So, now you can start to heal.

Here's to the future! I hope you find someone who treats you well and appreciates you.