Is That You In Your Avatar? Vol. 14. "Santa Claus Got Stuck In My Chimney!"- Page 39

[Broadway Bound2]

Posted: 12/23/07 at 11:47am

LLW:Your dad is a Professor of Anthropology?

nitsua: Congrats on the engagement. I really haven't experienced a much older guy. My last BF was only 1 year older than me and that is as far I have gone. I really want to start dating men in there 30's though. I will be 21 on Christmas day and now that I am legal to drink it is time to move onto older and better men.

Geek: that was great

[Link Larkin Wanabe]

Posted: 12/23/07 at 11:48am

Religious Studies...close enough.

Akiva

[iHeartMyGeek]

Posted: 12/23/07 at 11:50am

My friends think i'm crazy, but once I go to college i think I'd consider men into their 40s. There's just so much more potential, so much more experience, and so much more knowledge to be gained from that than from messing around with younger guys (who, in their own way, are pretty much still children). Maybe I've just got issues, though. That's always a possibility.

Fascinating article, austin. Really something.

[Broadway Bound2]

Posted: 12/23/07 at 11:51am

I would be so afraid that if the relationship didn't workout and I was still enrolled in the class, it would be extremely awkward and also I would be afraid that it would affect my grade.

Geek: You are not weird. Everything you just said is absolutely true of most men. Don't forget though that there can still be men in there 30's & 40's that are still very immature. The experience and the knowledge in most older men is what is so intriging to me.
Updated On: 12/23/07 at 11:51 AM

Posted: 12/23/07 at 11:53am

Yeah, I can't say I'm super interested in older men. Unfortunately, I keep falling for younger ones. That'll be OK once I get older, but it's weird now.


I have to go clean the litter boxes...joy. See ya later, lovies! Updated On: 12/23/07 at 11:53 AM

[nitsua]

Posted: 12/23/07 at 11:57am

Geek: The oldest guy I ever dated was 42. He was gorgeous, but I dumped him when he told me his son was 22. I was 19 at the time. I think my issues deal with not having a dad around or any old brothers, but that's my just thing.

BB2: Thanks. As of right now, it's still an engagement with not wedding plans.

[Broadway Bound2]

Posted: 12/23/07 at 11:57am

Bye Bye, I won't say have fun(Oh well I did), but cleaning litter boxes don't sound like so much fun.

[Link Larkin Wanabe]

Posted: 12/23/07 at 11:59am

Geek and BB2,

Don't just assume that because a guy is older that he is automatically better, classier, or more mature for you than someone your age or even younger. I know a lot of girls that make that dangerous assumption. Sometimes you have to ask yourself, if he is so mature, successful, etc. why is he always dating girls 20-10 years younger than himself? I'm not saying the answer is always bad....but the answer is not always good.

Akiva

[Broadway Bound2]

Posted: 12/23/07 at 12:05pm

LLW: I totally agree with you. There are a lot of men in the 30's and 40's that are very immature and have no goals for themselves set yet. Finding the perfect guy in my opinion will never happen. I just am trying to find one that is willing to live with my bleep. :)

I have just experienced the young guys already and was burned really bad by my last guy who cheated on me. So in my mindset it is just time to try something a bit different.

[Rosalind]

Posted: 12/23/07 at 12:08pm

But you shouldn't see it as 'someone to live with my beep'. Just be yourself and someone will come along and he wont be perfect he'll just be the person you love. Or something.

[Link Larkin Wanabe]

Posted: 12/23/07 at 12:10pm

Fair enough, but I don't think you should look at it as a "Oh I am done with my 'Young Guy Phase' and I am now moving onto my 'Older Man Phase'" Its about just keeping an open mind and heart for ALL guys. There is really no accurate generalizations to be made about any age group.

And you deserve someone that will do more than "put up with your crap". You deserve someone that loves you fully, crap and all, and that you love back.

Akiva

[Rosalind]

Posted: 12/23/07 at 12:11pm

What he said.

[Link Larkin Wanabe]

Posted: 12/23/07 at 12:12pm

hah...Roz...I wrote that without reading what you said.

Akiva

[Broadway Bound2]

Posted: 12/23/07 at 12:14pm

That is so true:

I am really looking for a guy that is a good listener, good communicator(communication is a key to a great relationship), someone who will respect my decisions, someone who can share in both the good times and bad times with me. Those are really important to me.

[Link Larkin Wanabe]

Posted: 12/23/07 at 12:17pm

Those are some great standards to have. Be sure to always remember them and don't let yourself compromise them. If you have to wait a bit to find a guy that meets them...so be it. But its worth the wait.

Akiva

[iHeartMyGeek]

Posted: 12/23/07 at 12:17pm

I don't mean to be crude here, and if this post gets deleted, so be it...yes, I'm looking for a guy that I can have intelligent conversation with, that i can be close to and that appreciates me for being the independent, outspoken, interesting person that I am...but i'm also looking for a guy that's good in bed. And, as I see it, most younger guys...well, aren't. It's not that I'm "done with younger guys" for the rest of my life, and I'm open to them too, but it seems that I just gravitate to the older ones more easily. I appreciate them more than the little boys in class who look at me like I'm crazy whenever I say something about Mike Huckabee or Ann Coulter or Plato's The Republic. That's my reasoning.

Updated On: 12/23/07 at 12:17 PM

[Broadway Bound2]

Posted: 12/23/07 at 12:22pm

I think being sexually satisfied is very important in a relationship. As much as people try to say that sex isn't all a relationship is about, it is a huge part of it. Being a young woman I know that my hormones are flowing and there are times that I need that affection from a man. I am not saying that is the only thing that is important, but it is very important. And I am not saying that younger guys can't satisfy as well as older men, because some probably can. So Geek, there is nothing wrong for seeking that in a relationship.

Updated On: 12/23/07 at 12:22 PM

[Rosalind]

Posted: 12/23/07 at 12:23pm

Geek: Everyone is NOT automatically good at everything right away. If you really care about someone, you're willing to give them time to improve. And if you want them to be respectful of who you are, then maybe it's respectful to wait for some people to just figure out things about you, and about themselves. No one is experienced physically right away.

Updated On: 12/23/07 at 12:23 PM

[Link Larkin Wanabe]

Posted: 12/23/07 at 12:23pm

Geek,

I'm sorry, but do you know how many OLDER guys don't know those things? And if you are going to make that generalization about younger guys not being good in bed, then people can't really have sympathy if older guys reject you. They might be making the same generalizations about you.

Akiva
Updated On: 12/23/07 at 12:23 PM

[iHeartMyGeek]

Posted: 12/23/07 at 12:27pm

Hehe, that was fun, seeing all the different reactions to that.

Honestly, I put the sex thing in there to see how you guys would react. Yes, I have always thought that I would want to be with someone more...well, sexually inclined, but that can be at any age. And I'm not looking for anything close to a serious relationship right now (or probably for a long time). In the end, while it's important, it's at the bottom of my list of reasons for the older guy fascination.

Akiva, love your passion. Really. Thank you for that.

[nitsua]

Posted: 12/23/07 at 12:30pm

I think Geek's a lot more mature than her classmates. To find someone that mature, who wants the same things, she's going to have to find someone in their late 20s, at least. Most of the guys my age just wanna party. That's why all my friends are older.

That's my opinion, anyway.

[Link Larkin Wanabe]

Posted: 12/23/07 at 12:32pm

Passion?

Akiva

[iHeartMyGeek]

Posted: 12/23/07 at 12:33pm

*nods* Nicely put, nitsua. Most people I know don't think I'm a "fun" person. While that's not really true, at the same time it's a blessing in disguise. I don't need a serious relationship, but I do need something deeper than partying all the time. There are probably some guys my age who have that same mentality (take my ex, for example, even though he's nearly three years older than me) but it's a lot rarer in guys my age than in guys...significantly older.

[Rosalind]

Posted: 12/23/07 at 12:33pm

Starring Donna Murphy!

[iHeartMyGeek]

Posted: 12/23/07 at 12:35pm

Well, for a guy you seem to be taking a distinctive interest in all of our issues, Akiva, and I think that's pretty cool. Maybe "passion" was not a very precise word for that.