Is it really about the person on the inside?

[Phantom2]

Posted: 10/16/05 at 11:29am

Is it more important about who you are than what you are? Discuss.

Updated On: 10/16/05 at 11:29 AM

[SallyBrown]

Posted: 10/16/05 at 11:32am

I thought it was more about who you are than how you looked? Either way, I think it is more about the person on the inside. But I hate it when, in guidance class last year, she would say "People shouldn't judge you by your looks.." etc etc. Well everyone knows that but the thing is people do. It's the first thing that they see when they meet you. I have to say, if you have grease-stained clothes, greasy hair, and smoking, I will most likely judge you. In fact, I will. And I yes, I can say that's wrong. But....it happpens.

[SallyBrown]

Posted: 10/16/05 at 11:33am

Something else to add though..looks are only to a degree. That is, no judging by skin color, etc. Things that we all really know.

As for what you are...that is your looks you mean right?

[SueleenGay]

Posted: 10/16/05 at 11:37am

I think it is all about who you do.

[stephygirl51]

Posted: 10/16/05 at 11:43am

Although it should be about who you are on the inside, unfortunately in our society today most people won't even get to know the you on the inside if they don't like what they see on the outside. I agree with Sally, most people, me included, first judge by the way someone looks. But how can you not? It's pretty hard to judge someone's inner thoughts and feelings before you judge their looks!

Posted: 10/16/05 at 11:44am

Is this a variation of the "hot or not" threads?

[Phantom2]

Posted: 10/16/05 at 11:46am

Please disregard the class clown, Jose', and keep the discussion moving along.

[stephygirl51]

Posted: 10/16/05 at 11:49am

It doesn't matter if someone is "hot or not" b/c the truth is that everyone judges others...even the "not" ones.

[stephygirl51]

Posted: 10/16/05 at 11:57am

Undiscoverd- it's true, I definitely agree that there are certain circumstances such as these boards and the internet in general where you can get to know a person before seeing them. But to me, it feels like this world is just so judgegy (i think i just made up a word). Myself included, it is hard to walk down the street and not think something about a lot of the people you pass.

[SallyBrown]

Posted: 10/16/05 at 12:00pm

That's very true, I met people here myself and other places, who I met later in person.


But I agree Stephy, it does happen. For example, this perofming arts school that I'm at..it's very diverse in that there are people from small towns like me, there are gay people, people who were forced by the police to go after a drug stint. So I have to say, when someone LOOKS as though they would be one of these people, I do have doubts. But it's not like we're MEAN to anyone. I'm still nice to them, and that way I can get to know them, you know?

[SallyBrown]

Posted: 10/16/05 at 12:06pm

Right. And I just think the difference is if you really go out of your way to ignore these people or if you're polite to them anyway.

[stephygirl51]

Posted: 10/16/05 at 12:10pm

Yeah, although most people are guilty are judging, I think there are probably only a small number of people who are actually mean about it. Any decent person will do whatever judging they are going to do and then forget about it and try and get to know the person if you can. You know?

[liotte]

Posted: 10/16/05 at 12:12pm

I think, as the thread title says, it's really about the person on the inside. People's personalities reflect who they really are. Some of those people, however, may be very materialistic, or into image (or not into image at all to the point of sloppiness), so their outward appearance may be a reflection of who they are.
Regardless of how people look, I think first impressions are made based on the outside. Hopefully most people will look beyond that to get a know a person on the inside. Some of the most beautiful looking people are a$$holes and arrogant and "all about me", while average looking or below average people are some of the nicest, best people you will ever meet.

[stephygirl51]

Posted: 10/16/05 at 12:13pm

right on, liotte.

[SallyBrown]

Posted: 10/16/05 at 12:14pm

Exaactly.

[best12bars]

Posted: 10/16/05 at 12:20pm

I usually steer away from people who ask me a lot of questions about what I do, right off the bat. I guess it's a protection device.

Then again, few people want to ask questions about other people in general these days. They mostly want to talk about themselves. That could also be due to the fact that I live in L.A.---

It's completely "The Land of Me" out here.

[stephygirl51]

Posted: 10/16/05 at 12:29pm

Amen to that best. My whole life I thought I wanted to live in LA. That all changed after a semester out there doing an internship. Don't get me wrong, there are a lot of amazing people out there, and I loved seeing lots of celebs, but I right then and there decided that LA was not for me. A lot of people are way to into themselves! Is it just me, or do New Yorkers just not care as much?

[SallyBrown]

Posted: 10/16/05 at 12:36pm

Well I wouldn't know exactly seeing as how I've only visited New York, and I only live in a small town in CT...but from what I've heard and seen....New Yorkers and the entire world in general is a lot less into themselves than in L.A. But I wouldnt know for sure.

[Pinguin]

Posted: 10/16/05 at 12:36pm

I'm from LA, and LA gave me eating disorders. NY is a different ballgame, and while there are of course pretty people here, the pressure is much less severe.

On that note, I think it's about the person on the inside, because I think we ALL know people who probably in the objective sense aren't all that attractive, but they seem so attractive because they're hilarious, or really interesting, or really talented, or something like that.

[SallyBrown]

Posted: 10/16/05 at 12:41pm

Exactly. Example: I used to have the BIGGEST crush on this guy..and he wasn't HOT but he was in that huggable way attractive. He wasn't ugly, and he wasn't drop dead gorgeous. He was funny, talented, and just CUTE. So I agree on that note.

[TheatreDiva90016]

Posted: 10/16/05 at 12:44pm

Homely people always say, "It's what's on the inside that counts."

[SallyBrown]

Posted: 10/16/05 at 12:45pm

Possibly. You know me so well

Updated On: 10/16/05 at 12:45 PM

[Elphaba]

Posted: 10/16/05 at 12:46pm

when you "youngsters" have a few more years under your belts, you'll realize that the outside means nothing in the end.......It's character that defines a person, not the shell that character is in....Once people realize that, they are generally much happier people, and much nicer people.

[mominator]

Posted: 10/16/05 at 12:48pm

and as my nana use to say "Beauty fades. Dume is forever"

[shira467]

Posted: 10/16/05 at 12:48pm

I believe that the person inside matters significantly more, but the bulk of the population will never find out because they won't approach you if you're not beautiful on the oustide as well.