Aw, I completely sympathize.
Hm. In terms of "making it" outside the realm of theater and being known outside this community, I think it's a lot of things. By the time he really took measures to break into film, he was what, almost 35? That's certainly not old and he certainly doesn't look his age, but in an industry where stars are made in their early 20s in a lot of cases, I'd imagine it's very tough to break in when you're past that. Frankly, I don't have a lot of respect for the Hollywood film acting craft -- and I have nowhere NEAR the respect for the majority of the legit famous American contemporary film actors that I do the people whose work I support on stage. The thing is that, to me, the film industry sort of has this go-to pool of decent-enough actors within any given age bracket. And so, I guess I look at it that if that set is already established, yeah, you can make independent films and whatever, it's really hard to get your foot in the door and GO anywhere. If there are so many attractive men who play Adam's age who are already super, super famous, the industry is going to go with them -- not take a chance on a newbie.
I mean, if that's even valid, it's surely only part of it. We don't know how well he auditions, or anything like that. And as good as his acting has gotten, he's still best when he's singing, which I think is a quality that is going to get more people interested in getting him to do theater work than film work. Not that the quality of acting is Hollywood's top concern anyway, but that's another story.
And as far as why he hasn't done more on Broadway, he said something recently about how if you want to originate a part, you very often have to go through the workshop process with a show -- which is a very long process that is often years and years long. So, now that he's moved his family out to California, that's harder for him to do, and he's not about to move them all the way back. Something like the return to Rent was feasible because it was an already-running show, and he could just come in and do it; it didn't require moving his family back, and it wasn't a huge long-term commitment to being on the East Coast.
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