The Official Adam Pascal Love Thread, part three- Page 142

[BroadwayDiva]

Posted: 10/1/05 at 3:54pm

I love this thread SO much.


Um, I need some advice.... I know you can all help me because I can trust you all and I don't know who else to turn to... but I've been horrendously depressed lately, as in crying almost all the time, and even started cutting. I don't know what to do or how to handle my emotions. Any suggestions? *cries*

[Atrias]

Posted: 10/1/05 at 3:58pm

Well, first, *gigantic hugs* But seriously, if you feel so depressed that you're cutting yourself, you need to get help. There's no shame in not being able to handle something by yourself.

[BroadwayDiva]

Posted: 10/1/05 at 4:00pm

*hugs back Atrias* Thank you. I think I'm just scared to get help... like, that people won't take it seriously or something. I don't know.

[Atrias]

Posted: 10/1/05 at 4:02pm

Well, if you can't trust people you know, why not seek out a professional? Or is that not an option? It might be better to talk to someone with experience.

[BroadwayDiva]

Posted: 10/1/05 at 4:05pm

Hmmm I think you're right. But that would mean talking to my parents first about it, and knowing my mom, she'd flip out if she knew I was depressed and would tell me to stop being overdramatic and that I should suck it up.

I will think it over, and maybe talk to my guidance counselor. I just don't feel comfortable talking to people I know because I'm afriad at how they'll react.

[Atrias]

Posted: 10/1/05 at 4:07pm

I was just about to suggest a guidance counselor. It would be a good place to start. And why would your mom think you were being overdramatic? That seems like it would be an odd reaction.

[BroadwayDiva]

Posted: 10/1/05 at 4:09pm

My mom's just like that. She thinks that everyone who cuts themself or is depressed is just being an overdramatic, angsty teenager and that they should deal with it. But my mom and I don't exactly get along...

Thank you for your suggestions. I knew this thread was a good place to get help. *hugs*

[luvtheEmcee]

Posted: 10/1/05 at 4:12pm

People who are professionals know to take even things that seem trivial to the person in need seriously.

I think it's natural for parents to say you're overreacting -- in the sense of "oh, well, *I* was 'normal' as a teenager," etc, etc. They also... they sort of put themselves into denial when bad things happen to their kids. There does, though, come a point at which they have to realize that it isn't melodrama, and that it's real. And then they'll want to help.

In terms of who to talk to, that's for you to decide based on your comfort level. Perhaps it's better to talk with a professional who you don't know, because they can look at the situation more objectively, and becaues it's their job to help. But maybe someone you know would be able to help in ways that someone just meeting you for the first time can't. It's up to what you feel comfortable doing, though. Do talk to someone, though.

[BroadwayDiva]

Posted: 10/1/05 at 4:18pm

Thanks. I will really keep that in mind, and consider my options of either professional or someone close. I'm kind of leaning to someone close so my parents don't accuse me of being sucked into a world of drama...

Thank you, a lot. Now I have options on what to do. *hugs the thread where people are so nice and understand and I love so much*

[luvtheEmcee]

Posted: 10/1/05 at 4:23pm

*big hug*

These often aren't things we can deal with ourselves... and there's nothing wrong with turning to somebody for help.

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[theatrebabe]

Posted: 10/1/05 at 4:34pm

Diva, *huge hugs*

And, *huge hugs for the thread and everyone on it*

[Chloe]

Posted: 10/1/05 at 8:31pm

Diva, guess you're not around at the moment, but I think the advice you've gotten here is really good. I can talk to you as someone who came out the other side. I spent years trying to deal with shyness and depression on my own, and finally went to see a therapist. This was a difficult decision - there seemed to be all kinds of reasons I could find *not* to go - but definitely the right one. It was very, very helpful to me.

I can't say exactly what would be right for you, of course, but I think talking to someone who is non-judgmental could only do you good.

And Nia, I also agree with Emcee about your situation. The guy sounds like he could be an interesting friend but very iffy as boyfriend material.

[luvtheEmcee]

Posted: 10/1/05 at 8:33pm

This has become like... the advice-giving thread.

PS, I need to find boyfriend material. Gr.

[Chloe]

Posted: 10/1/05 at 8:54pm

Emcee

I'm always reading about how the best place to find a boyfriend is in groups of people who share your interests, but theater-loving girls have a little problem...

I think a lot of the discussion about Adam that would normally go here has been swallowed up by the RENT movie threads on the main board. Just think of them as extensions.

[luvtheEmcee]

Posted: 10/1/05 at 8:59pm

We have a big problem! If I were still in high school, I think that would be true. And maybe as I form a "group" of friends here at college, maybe it'll become true again. But right now, it's not. heh. None of my guy friends are... into girls. Well, I think one is. But he's just a friend.

And exactly -- it's not that we don't love him! We are talking about him a bit on the Raul thread... we're comparing performances of Two Ladies. We're silly.

[Chloe]

Posted: 10/1/05 at 9:07pm

I guess I'll have to take a look at the Raul thread again. I'm kind of avoiding a lot of those RENT threads, because as I've said before, I've decided I want to see the movie with as few preconceptions as possible, including listening to the new CD.

I'll share one preconception though - someone who knows the RENT dialog editor said her opinion of the movie is very high.

Back to boyfriends - do you have any interests outside the arts? Maybe it's time to delve into one of those a little more.

[Allie]

Posted: 10/1/05 at 9:11pm

I was thisclose to joining my building's co-ed ultimate frisbee team, just to meet people, but then... I realized that I can't catch... or run. Sports are not my friend.

[luvtheEmcee]

Posted: 10/1/05 at 9:11pm

That's an awful lot of willpower.

And yes, so is that of the... my movie terminology is horrid, but the guy who checks that the coloration is correct.

I guess I do, but... I grew up with huge exposure to the arts. I have a mild interest in politics, but it's pretty independent. I don't like to get into political discussions. I am/was/am trying to get back into being a musician... but that's still extremely arts-based. My philosophy on this, as with many other things is that it'll just sort of happen. But I guess you've got to work at it somehow. My grandmother tells me I should be "out looking" and my mother is beginning to "worry." heh.

[Chloe]

Posted: 10/1/05 at 9:22pm

Hey Allie! Maybe you should join the frisbee team anyway. (But what do they mean by "ultimate?") You can be the person that the guys on the team try to help - they love that. Just be a sweetly good sport about your lack of ability.

I think the title you're searching for is color timer, Emcee. How did you hear about him?

[luvtheEmcee]

Posted: 10/1/05 at 9:27pm

Through the only source I've got!

Ultimate frisbee is... they've sort of taken the concept of playing with a frisbee and turned it into a true team sport. I don't know how to play... it confuses me.

I've been known, when in a fiesty, active mood, with people I like, to get down and dirty in a game of football. For some reason, guys like that. *shrug*

[Allie]

Posted: 10/1/05 at 9:27pm

I'll find something to join around here! They have societies for EVERYTHING. Ultimate Frisbee is aparently a huge thing! Google it, and there are, like, "Official Ultimate Association" stuff. I got scared!

Good luck with staying away from all things Rent film related, Chloe! You have more willpower than I do!

[Chloe]

Posted: 10/1/05 at 9:35pm

Well, not ALL things. I'll definitely see whatever turns up in the way of promotional appearances, video clips, trailers, etc. But from hearing those online clips I've realized that it'll be difficult for me to listen to the soundtrack because the original recording is too deeply ingrained. Once I've seen the film and have something totally different to associate it with, I think I'll be able to really "hear" it. Also, from what little I've read, there seems to be quite a bit of negativity going on about the soundtrack, and I don't need that.

[luvtheEmcee]

Posted: 10/1/05 at 9:39pm

A lot of people seem to feel that way, actually. I want to be well-enough acquianted with the new recording by the time I see the movie so that I can concentrate on the MOVIE and not have to worry about being thrown by lyric changes and things.

[BroadwayDiva]

Posted: 10/1/05 at 9:40pm

Aww thanks Chloe. I'm seriously thinking at the moment of talking to a professional, as much as I don't want to. I think I just have to get it out to someone who doesn't know me very well.

Ultimate frisbee is seriously one of the only "sports" I enjoy. It's actually really fun! Apparently it's a huge thing everywhere. *shrugs*

[luvtheEmcee]

Posted: 10/1/05 at 9:43pm

I remember when it first became a "thing" with my youth group at home. They tried to teach me to play. Now it's HUGE.. especially on college campuses.