The Official Adam Pascal Love Thread, part three — Page 142

Well, first, *gigantic hugs* But seriously, if you feel so depressed that you're cutting yourself, you need to get help. There's no shame in not being able to handle something by yourself.

Well, if you can't trust people you know, why not seek out a professional? Or is that not an option? It might be better to talk to someone with experience.

I was just about to suggest a guidance counselor. It would be a good place to start. And why would your mom think you were being overdramatic? That seems like it would be an odd reaction.

People who are professionals know to take even things that seem trivial to the person in need seriously.

I think it's natural for parents to say you're overreacting -- in the sense of "oh, well, *I* was 'normal' as a teenager," etc, etc. They also... they sort of put themselves into denial when bad things happen to their kids. There does, though, come a point at which they have to realize that it isn't melodrama, and that it's real. And then they'll want to help.

In terms of who to talk to, that's for you to decide based on your comfort level. Perhaps it's better to talk with a professional who you don't know, because they can look at the situation more objectively, and becaues it's their job to help. But maybe someone you know would be able to help in ways that someone just meeting you for the first time can't. It's up to what you feel comfortable doing, though. Do talk to someone, though.

---

*big hug*

These often aren't things we can deal with ourselves... and there's nothing wrong with turning to somebody for help.

---

Updated On: 10/1/05 at 04:23 PM

Diva, guess you're not around at the moment, but I think the advice you've gotten here is really good. I can talk to you as someone who came out the other side. I spent years trying to deal with shyness and depression on my own, and finally went to see a therapist. This was a difficult decision - there seemed to be all kinds of reasons I could find *not* to go - but definitely the right one. It was very, very helpful to me.

I can't say exactly what would be right for you, of course, but I think talking to someone who is non-judgmental could only do you good.

And Nia, I also agree with Emcee about your situation. The guy sounds like he could be an interesting friend but very iffy as boyfriend material.

Emcee

I'm always reading about how the best place to find a boyfriend is in groups of people who share your interests, but theater-loving girls have a little problem...

I think a lot of the discussion about Adam that would normally go here has been swallowed up by the RENT movie threads on the main board. Just think of them as extensions.

I guess I'll have to take a look at the Raul thread again. I'm kind of avoiding a lot of those RENT threads, because as I've said before, I've decided I want to see the movie with as few preconceptions as possible, including listening to the new CD.

I'll share one preconception though - someone who knows the RENT dialog editor said her opinion of the movie is very high.

Back to boyfriends - do you have any interests outside the arts? Maybe it's time to delve into one of those a little more.

That's an awful lot of willpower.

And yes, so is that of the... my movie terminology is horrid, but the guy who checks that the coloration is correct.

I guess I do, but... I grew up with huge exposure to the arts. I have a mild interest in politics, but it's pretty independent. I don't like to get into political discussions. I am/was/am trying to get back into being a musician... but that's still extremely arts-based. My philosophy on this, as with many other things is that it'll just sort of happen. But I guess you've got to work at it somehow. My grandmother tells me I should be "out looking" and my mother is beginning to "worry." heh.

---

Through the only source I've got!

Ultimate frisbee is... they've sort of taken the concept of playing with a frisbee and turned it into a true team sport. I don't know how to play... it confuses me.

I've been known, when in a fiesty, active mood, with people I like, to get down and dirty in a game of football. For some reason, guys like that. *shrug*

---

Well, not ALL things. I'll definitely see whatever turns up in the way of promotional appearances, video clips, trailers, etc. But from hearing those online clips I've realized that it'll be difficult for me to listen to the soundtrack because the original recording is too deeply ingrained. Once I've seen the film and have something totally different to associate it with, I think I'll be able to really "hear" it. Also, from what little I've read, there seems to be quite a bit of negativity going on about the soundtrack, and I don't need that.

Aww thanks Chloe. I'm seriously thinking at the moment of talking to a professional, as much as I don't want to. I think I just have to get it out to someone who doesn't know me very well.

Ultimate frisbee is seriously one of the only "sports" I enjoy. It's actually really fun! Apparently it's a huge thing everywhere. *shrugs*

---