I'm not sure if I have any real tips, just observations. I've heard many complaints from people who are mourning a loss that others avoid them just when they need company the most, and I think it's often because of that worry over what the "right" thing to say is, or the kind of guilt you expressed about having a better life at the moment.
The ones who do well in this situation are able to put all that aside, realizing how much they are needed. They are good at listening and empathizing without getting so emotional themselves that they're no longer useful. Pretty special people, obviously.
PS: most of this comes from being good friends with two therapists.
Updated On: 9/4/05 at 10:58 PM