hotel bans heteros and lesbians — Page 2

Here.. I found a link for the place we stayed in. As you can see.. I did not pay to spend the weekend with women.

Ohh.. and don't forget to click on the photo album link.

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Updated On: 5/29/07 at 01:27 PM

Now we know why Dame and TheatreDiva get along so well!

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"homo clingers-on?"

I don't think anyone intends that term to be nasty, PJ, although it SOUNDS nasty.

The gays are very into nomenclature though...how do replace that term?

Mo gal?
Queer peer?
Daddies girl?

Ha! My ex-roomie and I used to be "Will and Grace of Bushwick"

I find this a little sad. 'Back in the day,' when I was going out-and-about, the thing that distinguished gay bars from the others is that you could be whoever or whatever you wanted to be. Go to a straight place, and you'd see only male-female couples on the dance floor (MAYBE some female-female, but that was only if they were seen as straight girls giving the straight boys a thrill.) On the odd occasion when two men would try to dance together, they were asked to stop at the very least - or just leave altogether.

BUT, in a gay bar, you could and would see anything - and that inclusiveness is what made it special.

The only thing I DO get is in the gay resorts where a sexual atmosphere pervades. Not that it HAS to occur, but the atmosphere keeps it available 'just in case.'

Which brings me to the fact that I'm not really understanding what this place is. The word 'hotel' is in the name, but they don't open til 8pm and it has a 'nightclub atmosphere'? Are there rooms? Is it a bar, club, bathhouse or what? And if patrons really are getting harrassed, then why aren't security measures pursued, instead of moving in the direction of exclusion? What exactly is going on in there that straight people shouldnt see, whether they would want to participate or not?

Spooge?

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But lil, to continue your dog park analogy, is it right that a park completely ban large dogs? My dog gets spooked by large dogs, but we frequent a park that happens to get a smaller-dog crowd. If a big lab comes by and my dog gets too freaked, we leave.

It's a roundabout way of saying I don't agree with banning entire classes of people from anywhere. If it's a private establishment they might have legal right to exclude anybody they want, but that still doesn't make it morally right.

Racism, sexism, all those -isms (no dirty jokes intended) are wrong no matter what group is discriminated against.

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I thought I posted here earlier, but apparently I didn't.

This reminds me of a mini-fight we put up in the mid- to late-90's against some couples-only hotels for openly discriminating against Gay couples.

If it's a bathhouse, fine. I think if it'a club, the crowd will naturally wean out. You can also have rules to "reserve the right of admittance" and kick out anyone not respecting other people. But to outright deny service to an entire group? How would we feel about a club that openly denied service to gays?

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Acceptable replacements for the term "fag hag":

Fairy princess
Fruit tart
Queen bee

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You mean like churches, the military, the Red Cross (blood donation) or someplace else?

EXACTLY! WE fight for inclusion in these organizations/clubs, yet we are very happy to discriminate ourselves.

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Yet we fight for inclusion into these 'dangerous' places, lil.

I understand the right to kick-out anyone who makes your place an unsafe place. Most places post a "reserves the right of admission" policy. I'm ok with that. Most places naturally select their crowds.

How would we feel if a straight bar posted a clear "No Gays" allowed.

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