GavestonPS said: "Charley Kringas Inc said: "The point isn't this isolated incident but her feelings as being backed by a long line of similar incidents, and why that might provoke her to have such a reaction, and why those incidents happen, it seems, mostly to people who aren't white and comfortable.
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Gee, Charley, I guess this thread will go on forever. I will readily agree that any person of color's perceived slight occurs in the context of a lifetime as the target of "microagressions" (new word to me; I hope I'm using it correctly). I don't blame Ms. Morrisseau for her feelings, nor do most posters in this thread. It is almost entirely her actions that have been questioned.
You seem to be concerned with a different dichotomy where we are to be concerned with the black woman's feelings, but with the white woman's actions. (No one cares how the latter felt when her generosity was met with rudeness.) Isn't this exactly the sort of allowance we usually reserve for children?
Who decided that racism--micro or macro--was an automatic excuse for violence or threats of violence? I am thinking of at least two instances where black football players assaulted a referee and then later claimed the victim had called them the "N word". I could only think "I doubt that" but "So what?" (Not because the word isn't terrible, but because hate speech is not an excuse for violence.) To be fair, Ms. M didn't engage in violence, she merely felt like doing so; but you are the one who says her feelings are at issue.
I'm not for a moment trying to minimize the difficulties faced by any minority. But the right to "not be offended" isn't enshrined in the Constitution. Not quite yet.
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Well, she didn't commit or threaten violence, merely had the thought of it, which I think we've all experienced at some point or another. I just figure if we're going to try to settle on one point as an outcome of this article, it shouldn't be an argument about Morisseau's actions (and non-actions), but a hopefully productive discussion about how to integrate cultures in a space that is, let's admit it, dominated by white people. We don't have to come to an actual conclusion, but I think it's an interesting topic, and it's frustrating to see it sidelined by debate over whether Morisseau is right or wrong.
I feel like that's what the current overall cultural debate is moving towards - what's too far, what's not enough, who should have what kind of say? It's very messy and difficult, particularly with the witch-burning potential of social media, and I'm curious what direction it's going to go in. It's a difficult atmosphere to stay non-political in.
With regards to black feelings vs white actions, this is also something I've seen debate on, and the concept is that a person in a position of power has the freedom to be above the feelings of the people below them, because society backs them up. It's like when my cousin took a job and a bunch of people asked her how her husband felt about her being away from home, which isn't a question men get asked and is a kind of unintentional put-down that's backed by a social expectation that women aren't needed outside of the home, and these social expectations are harmful in powerful, real ways that go beyond microaggressions on Facebook.
So, you know, I dunno, it's that kind of thing. The question of how to get over that, what actions can be taken, by whom, and how far to take it? I'd rather discuss that than go on a kangaroo court goose chase over Morisseau's credibility and fallibility.