Posted: 12/20/15 at 1:38am
@Songanddanceman2 said: "Ok as a GAY white man ( yes gays go through just as much as any person of color)"
I dare you to say those words to a person of color and not be laughed out of the room or subject to a physical altercation. Don't you dare compare the plight of a person of color to a gay person. You can hide the fact that you're gay wherever you go and to whomever you speak to. People of color have nowhere to hide. People of color are often judged before anyone ever meets them, before they ever speak a word, before anyone knows their background, etc. As a gay man, you will never be discriminated on paper, no one will follow you in a convenience store because they assume you're stealing, no one will assume you're a thief, criminal, or a thug EVER. You will never have to worry about leaving your home because the police have no interest in protecting you. A person of color is often reticent to a voice because everyone else is so quick to tell them why they're wrong. I have so much more to say, but if you have not understood why you're wrong at this point, I don't know how else to demonstrate the incredibly abhorrent nature of your comment. So before you ever say that you have had the same hardships as a person of color, I'd advise you to open your eyes to your immense privilege. One single black perspective is not representative of a collective experience. Your friend may have immense privilege that other people of color do not. Let's be reminded that Jane was the only one who actually spoke up and said something to Dominique. There may have been other audience members who shared the same sentiments, but did not speak up. We are not saying Jane is brooding, hateful, hooded person who belongs to the Ku Klux Klan. I am not. No one is. She is probably a perfectly kind older woman with bias as each and everyone one of us has, myself included. But the fact that Jane discounts Dominique's personal style of enjoying a play is to say that her experience is not valid. Yes, I understand everyone would like to enjoy a play their own way. But the moment you're in a theater, you have consented to a communal experience with many people who will have a vastly different experience than your own. You have to deal with it.
The very basic plea I am making to you all is to acknowledge that your fellow theatergoers may push your comfort zone due to the way they enjoy a performance. If someone kicks your seat, takes a seat that is rightly yours, or talks on their cellphone to their best friend during a performance -- please do address that behavior. But if they are paying attention, please consider that their experience is also valid.
Updated On: 12/20/15 at 01:38 AM