I enjoyed the well-written piece; it gave me a lot to think about. However, I’m guilty of doing exactly what she’s asking us not to do. If I meet someone I haven’t seen in a while, and he or she has changed in a way that I perceive is the result of a concerted effort to affect that change, it usually comes up in conversation. I think many people appreciate it when their efforts are acknowledged. Heck, I’m in heaven if someone notices I’ve been to the gym.
At the very least, I hope Beanie recognizes and can forgive the well-intentioned comments.