I actually wasn't expecting this debate to pop up like this. Believe me, I gave a lot of thought to giving my kids my IM address and giving them the ability to talk to me outside of school. I follow certain rules with the kids, that I lay out for them AND THEIR PARENTS at the start of the year:
1)They can talk to me about anything regarding school on IM - that's the main reason I give it to them.
2)I will not respond to any IMs if I don't know who it is coming from. If they write but don't identify themselves immediately, I don't answer.
3)If they want to drop me a note during break or whatever to say hi and tell me about a movie they saw or something, that's fine. I won't sit for hours and IM with them. I have my own friends and they have theirs.
This particular students happens to be in a play I'm currently directing and often talks to me about theater because he knows I share his interest and for him I'm an authority on the subject. The conversation I posted lasted all of ten minutes, talking about which shows he liked, what he should listen to next, and me reminding him to study his lines for this week's rehearsal. At the same time, I was actually IMing my assistant director (another student) giving her a list of things I need her to get ready for our next rehearsal.
I see nothing wrong with this at all, and am frankly kind of offended that some of you would think so little of me. Yes, I understand the dangers of speaking with kids on the net. The parents ALL know that I am available on line, as does my supervisor (who, in our climate of technological education right now, has separately praised me for this) and in fact I often get notes like "my mom says hi" when a kid writes to me. Being available to the kids helps me connect with them (I'm not some old fart teacher who doesn't know the difference between a mouse and a modem) and gives them an opportunity to get help when they need it at times that it was not previously available. If every now and then a kid wants to chat about something innocuous outside of school topics, I see no harm, as long as the parents are aware that it is happening.
Frankly, it's MORE frightening that there are kids my students' age on this board who we all speak with, and don't even realize how old they are at times. That, to me, is a FAR more dangerous situation.
Hi, Shirley Temple Pudding.